Silfren wrote...
True story: I grew up identifying as straight. Then I discovered an attraction to certain types of women, and eventually I identified as bi, with a preference for men. Fast forward years and several experiences later, I have a more or less 50/50 split in attraction to men and women, but a solid and non-negotiable preference for women.
People who can't appreciate the fluidity of sexual orientation--or who can't separate the difference between what a person will or won't be attracted to versus who they're willing to actually sleep with/form a relationship with may have a hard time finding that believable, but that speaks to those people, not the reality of sexual expression.
It's a difficult concept for people to understand - that sexuality can be fluid. Particularly because being attracted to someone - at any stage of your relationship with them - is a really complicated interaction of factors like apperance, personality, interests, compability (sexual and otherwise), etc. etc.
It goes along with people's inability to get that sexuality isn't so easily reducible to broad generalizations like "I am only into (wo)men". It's not as if a straight person would say that they are equally attracted to all members of the opposite gender, or attracted at all to all members of the opposite gender. Just like it's possible not to find a member of the gender you're usually attracted to attractive, it's equally possible to find a member of the gender you're not usually attracted to attractive.
But that kicks the classification system in the sins so, y'know, problems.