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[Manc4life7]

Andraste Take the Wheel wrote...

Its difficult to measure success, but I have to ask because I've been pondering it myself. Financially, socially...whatever. I'm interested in hearing what other people consider sucessful, because Im not sure anymore. 

Neither am I. 

Financially, I am no where near what I could consider successful.  The world-wide economic woes of the past 5 or 6 years (combined with some ridiculous student loan debts for me and my wife) have made finances a painful, stressful subject for me.  Not trying to throw out a sob story, as I know from first hand experience that I've got it better than some.  I've got a stable job that pays what many would consider a good salary, but it's nothing like what I was making a few years ago.  It also doesn't help that I am finding this career to be mind-numbingly, soul-suckingly dull. 

On the other hand, I've got a loving wife and amazing 2 year old son.  We all have our health, a (nicer than many) roof over our heads, plenty of food in the fridge, etc, etc.  Both my parents and my in-laws are very active in our lives and the life of their first grandson. 

So right now I am rich in life/love, but not in financial/career terms.  Like you, I find the holidays rough, even if we are in opposite ends of the spectrum, so to speak.  Having a loving family, but not being able to shower them with gifts is very, very hard.  Their understanding almost makes it harder to cope. 

[Hainkpe]

I recently left a high paying job to go back to do clinical work. I relocated halfway across the US, again and don't regret a thing.

I have a wonderful husband and an amazing best friend. I don't need money or fame. I am content.

Professionally I feel successful and in my personal life, even more so. No one has more than me, IMO. I have what I want and want what I have.

[2Pac]

My yearly income is 50k so I'd say yes, But i am very distant from my family haven't seen them in person for about 2 years but we keep in touch over the phone, Sadly I'm broke right now and i cannot fly to see them for christmas for now i am not doing so well.

[Fishy]

If by successful you mean making a lot of money. Than no. If by successful you mean being happy most of the time. Than yes. My biggest nightmare would be to become something like Lester Burnham. Success is more than a supercial goal about how society want you to become. So many people fail to realize this and live miserably. You need to be at peace with yourself and who you're. For me that success.

Modifié par Suprez30, 09 décembre 2013 - 08:46 .

[Endurium]

As a middle-aged person, I still have good health, the freedom of being single and debt-free, work full time though it's not necessary, lead a simple life, am content with the things I have, and enjoy my free time. I guess that makes me successful.

[KBomb]

I feel as though I am. I'm not rich, but I am certainly not poor. I work very hard for everything I have and can honestly say that I don't depend on anyone financially. Everything I have, I have because I set a goal and didn't stop until I reached it.

However, I view my real success in the fact that I am loved and cherished by some amazing people. That sounds completely cheesy and corny as hell, but it's true. When you are loved and cared for by wonderful people, you have to be doing something right.

[Sigma Tauri]

KBomb wrote...
However, I view my real success in the fact that I am loved and cherished by some amazing people. That sounds completely cheesy and corny as hell, but it's true. When you are loved and cared for by wonderful people, you have to be doing something right.

So many people with psych issues have no primary support. I think a lot of people who do take that for granted, not realizing how much they have. People should be thankful for that. A good set of friends and a loving family are  psychoprotective factors.

[Angrywolves]

no.

[mybudgee]

Uh... No. I ruin everything I touch. Especially relationships

[Kaiser Arian XVII]

Endurium wrote...

As a middle-aged person, I still have good health, the freedom of being single and debt-free, work full time though it's not necessary, lead a simple life, am content with the things I have, and enjoy my free time. I guess that makes me successful.

You'll become old soon and regret the possibilities you have ignored and ruined. Freedom means bullcrap if you have no one to share it with. So get a family instead of "enjoying your free time".

[Lotion Soronarr]

Meh. I'm doing OK.

Got trough a very tough technical college, got a job as a JDBA (altough in reality I do everything that needs doing in the company, and least of all databases) and I've been workign there for 3 years now.

The financial crysis has hit the firm hard, so my pay is rahter low now...but hey, I got an shop space I'm renting out so I'm still good. My family sticks like glue and I have excellent relations with every one of them.

The downsides? I guess my love life. I'm just not lucky there I guess. Every single woman I end up attracted to is either taken, moves to another country or has no interest in me whatsoever (or men in general!)

Other than that I have few no ambitions and am content to just live my life.
Not exactly exciting alpha male material.

[Vulpe]

Currently no, but I'm still at the age when I can fix it.

I strained my knee cap while dancing at the prom ( Yes, I'm that good at dancing. I'm basically a dance god ) and because of this I couldn't train anymore and take a sport exam. I planned to go to med school, but do it within the army ; it was required of me to pass a psychological exam (which I passed) and a sport exam  that I couldn't attent to (beside the usual exams one must take and pass to be accepted in med school)

Now I'm sitting home on my broken a**, learning chemistry and biology and I train myself for next year. Planning on becoming an oncologist or joining the blue helmets ( need to document more of how to join them and if they would look for military medics though  ), but there's a long road until then and many things can happen.

Modifié par JulianWellpit, 10 décembre 2013 - 09:58 .

[Seagloom]

Kaiser Arian wrote...

You'll become old soon and regret the possibilities you have ignored and ruined. Freedom means bullcrap if you have no one to share it with. So get a family instead of "enjoying your free time".

Not everyone finds solace in the same places. I know more than one single person or couple, who have no family and at least seem and claim to be happy. If he's content with where his life is, then more power to him.

Modifié par Seagloom, 10 décembre 2013 - 10:00 .

[Ren Roche]

To answer your question - nope. Too many mistakes and missed opportunities. Stuck studying something that can't guarantee me a good job in the future, thus I'll more than likely have financial difficulties. As time goes by I'm getting more and more apathethic towards others and society as a whole.

Relationships are something I wouldn't even think about since I only see cons that come along with them thanks to bad luck with girls before and some past mistakes. I tried to change things more than once in my life, but with no success just gave up.

Hell, I still try to look for positive things in life, even if it gets muddy sometimes 

Modifié par Para-Medic, 10 décembre 2013 - 12:24 .

[Kaiser Arian XVII]

Para-Medic wrote...

To answer your question - nope. Too many mistakes and missed opportunities. Stuck studying something that can't guarantee me a good job in the future, thus I'll more than likely have financial difficulties. As time goes by I'm getting more and more apathethic towards others and society as a whole.

Relationships are something I wouldn't even think about since I only see cons that come along with them thanks to bad luck with girls before and some past mistakes. I tried to change things more than once in my life, but with no success just gave up.

Hell, I still try to look for positive things in life, even if it gets muddy sometimes 

This is Para-Medic Blues...

I try to look positive too, but things and people just backstab/b*tchslap me when I'm close to succeed...

[Sigma Tauri]

Para-Medic wrote...

To answer your question - nope. Too many mistakes and missed opportunities. Stuck studying something that can't guarantee me a good job in the future, thus I'll more than likely have financial difficulties. As time goes by I'm getting more and more apathethic towards others and society as a whole.

Relationships are something I wouldn't even think about since I only see cons that come along with them thanks to bad luck with girls before and some past mistakes. I tried to change things more than once in my life, but with no success just gave up.

Hell, I still try to look for positive things in life, even if it gets muddy sometimes 

lol do what I did. If you got the guts to do it, go back to school to learn how to wipe ass. I feel like my life is starting now that I've gotten over the bull**** of the past.

[Dominus]

Financially. no. I'd probably consider myself the failure of the family, due to mistakes made in the past. I still try to make the most of what I have in terms of time and resources.

Socially, yes. I've done a 180 compared to who I was say, 10 years ago. I have a far stronger sense of empathy, more friends to connect to, etc etc.

So I guess I'm the Glowy-Armored Monkey in the Middle.

[lady_v23]

I won't consider myself successful till I reach my goals. But I'm getting there .

Now I just need to pass this one class...

[Endurium]

Kaiser Arian wrote...

Endurium wrote...

As a middle-aged person, I still have good health, the freedom of being single and debt-free, work full time though it's not necessary, lead a simple life, am content with the things I have, and enjoy my free time. I guess that makes me successful.

You'll become old soon and regret the possibilities you have ignored and ruined. Freedom means bullcrap if you have no one to share it with. So get a family instead of "enjoying your free time".

Sure, as soon as I meet someone who isn't a headcase. In that regard I haven't been successful.  I'd rather be solo than be in a bad relationship. I leave those to my neighbors.

[GenericEnemy]

hmm...i can provide for my daughter and keep her happy, I'm content with my success.