It's funny how most people project their own biases onto ALL of the other characters (I always choose Destroy, why would any REASONABLE character NOT pick DESTROY?)
As someone who has roleplayed his way into picking all of the choices at one time or another, I think it's important to think about how someone comes to a different conclusion than your own (9 of my 14 Shepards have chosen to Destroy).
FOR THE MOST PART Destroy is the "easy" choice. It's the emotional choice that speaks to the short term satisfaction of "Screw you and your stupid prattling, kid, I'm blowing these fncker$ to hell!", but when you start to think of the LONG term it begins to lose some of its appeal.
When I say long term, I'm talking about time scales like the AI and Leviathans are considering rather than a couple hundred years down the road. This is the area where Control and Synthesis dominate in favorability. The difference becomes more about your personal ethics about changing life as we know it.
Keeping these things in mind, here is my list, with possible considerations in the order that I think they would choose:
Kaidan: Destroy, Control (Paragon)
Joker: Synthesis (selfishly wants to get with EDI)
Ashley: Destroy
Garrus: Destroy, Control
Wrex: Destroy
Tali: Destroy, Control (Paragon), Synthesis
Liara: Control, Synthesis, Destroy
Jacob: Destroy
Miranda: Destroy, Control
Kasumi: Destroy, Synthesis (a shot to rejoin Keiji)
Zaeed: Destroy
Mordin: Control, Synthesis (although I'm almost certain the Dr wouldn't be able to cross the ethical divide)
Grunt: Destroy
Jack: Destroy
Samara: Destroy (those saying she would choose Control aren't thinking about her disdain for power, she'd strictly be JUDGING the Reapers)
Thane: Destroy, Synthesis (hope for a cure)
Morinth: Destroy, Control (Renegade) (Morinth could be seduced by the power trip, though I'm certain she'd be enraged at the loss of feeling after the change)
Legion: Synthesis (sees this choice as a galaxywide version of the change his people just underwent), Control (Paragon) (sees this choice as taking over the status quo)
James: Destroy
Javik: Destroy
EDI: Synthesis