It really depends on the kid as an individual and the circumstance of the situation, etc. Usually the thing with "nice" behaviour, in terms of going to your room or think about what you did type scenarios, the parent doesn't make it clear to the child itself - what exactly
is the problem and the consquences it brings, not in short term, but long term as well (depending. It also doesn't help if the kid does happen to involve him or herself in bad situations, yet is always punished the
same - like being set to their room for each act.
And I usually find that most parents aren't grounded when they do deal with the situation, they're going off the energy and emotional state their kid put them in at that very moment and that usually doesn't help either side.
Personally, I've only gotten spanked, never got hit or whatever, but my best friend during middleschool got his ass beat by his father, but he also went through some ****ed up situations and plus exterior influences from school and such lead him to a bad path for a while, so I bet those can relate, but again - there are others who can go through the exact same experiences yet turn out totally different.
Individuality.
Plus, I bet most of us weren't that different from when most adults were kids too, it's just all in the perspective of things. I know I did some stupid **** when I was younger, but I also had a decent upbringing, except for emotional and verbal abuse (my mom got the same treatment), but I still think I turned out alright.
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