In ME1, I play Male Shep because I can't stand the face generator. BUT, Meer's voice acting in ME1 is...problematic. Especially as a paragon, he sounds disinterested even at times. Hale is *much* better as a paragon throughout, but especially in ME1. Meer is tolerable in ME1 as a renegade. So I have to play either dead red or some version of renegon who makes the major decisions paragon while minimizing the wimp factor.
In ME2, Meer is much better. To the point that I prefer him as a Renegade in 2. Hale in the renegade speeches especially doesn't seem as strong as Meer. But the face generator in ME2 is easiest to make attractive characters with. So I play about 50/50 in ME2.
In ME3, the face import bug seems to hit FemShep worse. I had one that looked very attractive in ME2, and when I loaded her in ME3, I was disillusioned at the havoc the import bug wrought. I had to remake her face completely. It was no longer the same character, and I haven't even finished the game with her yet. Which hurts, because I loved her in ME2. The voice acting for Meer is tolerable as a paragon in 3. But still not as good as he is as a renegade (I LOVE his renegade stand down speech on Rannoch, and of course, the Renegade Interrupt on the Reaper). So I've played primarily Male Shep in ME3, though there are places where Hale is clearly superior. Also, I've been able to tweak other characters a bit to make them look close to what they were in ME2. So it's not *as* bad as it was for my 1st FemShep.
Call it shallow that I want to have a decent looking avatar for 75+ hours of gaming. Guilty.