I've honestly given up with "Shepard's Trilogy" at this point, in fact I can't even play ME1 without thinking of ME3's ending and it's my favorite out of the three.
I'm sorry you feel that way, even if it is something I've said so to a hundred times already. ME3's my favorite and I'm down with Extended Cut.
Pretty much anyone who wanted Shepard to live got the raw end of the stick. In fact I won't deny there are about two dozen raw ends to that stick. I'm incredibly lucky in that a lot of what I wanted happened to manifest and if anyone thinks that means I wanted something stupid, well, that's your right to believe. Obviously I disagree.
I could have done with more closure, but the only ending that really bugs me big-time is, ironically, Destroy.