Contextually it's a thing you say to girls and women, but is nearly never uttered at men. While sure, being handsome is a plus for boys and men, being pretty is a thing girls and women should always strive to be. And that's all kinds of messed up
I strive to be handsome. I revel in being handsome. I bask in my slim, manly handsomeness. Heck, I ooze handsomeness 
I just wanted to share this, for the ladies that are sick of being told, you're prettier when you smile:
http://questionablec....php?comic=2748
Edit: The blue girl in the comic is a robot.
I just read that last night! Best response to that statement.
I feel like I'm missing something here. What is wrong about telling someone they look pretty when they smile? I'm going to go out on a leg and guess it is something random creeps tell girls who want them to ***** off based on context.
That's basically it. The scenario is usually that a complete stranger will walk up to a girl on the street, or often approach a waitress or someone else working in the service industry, and tell her to smile. To the guy, it might be seen as an attempt to strike up conversation with a girl he's attracted to, or maybe he thinks he's just being nice and cheering someone up. To the girl, though, it's intrusive, jarring, and makes it seem like she constantly has to smile on command, just to please random strangers. It's not as bad as catcalling, to me, but it's still invading a stranger's personal space for the guy's own pleasure.
My ex used to do this to women all the time. It was always a command, too. "Excuse me. Smile." He thought he was just being nice to those women. I couldn't articulate at the time why I didn't like him doing it, or why they would always scowl the moment he looked away.
That's basically it. The scenario is usually that a complete stranger will walk up to a girl on the street, or often approach a waitress or someone else working in the service industry, and tell her to smile. To the guy, it might be seen as an attempt to strike up conversation with a girl he's attracted to, or maybe he thinks he's just being nice and cheering someone up. To the girl, though, it's intrusive, jarring, and makes it seem like she constantly has to smile on command, just to please random strangers. It's not as bad as catcalling, to me, but it's still invading a stranger's personal space for the guy's own pleasure.
My ex used to do this to women all the time. It was always a command, too. "Excuse me. Smile." He thought he was just being nice to those women. I couldn't articulate at the time why I didn't like him doing it, or why they would always scowl the moment he looked away.
Well, I am of the opinion that if you have to ask someone to smile, you're not doing it right 
The best for getting ask to smile is when you're having a mental break down and are clearly very upset. Cause that's a great time to go up to anyone and tell them to smile right? That's not coming off as an assh*le in anyway by doing something like that after all Ancestors forbid you have a rough or really rough day and need to cry nope got to wipe those tears and smile cause f**k your emotions make other people not feel bad damnit!
Sorry about that rant there just went off to another place for a moment. Sorry everyone I'll see myself out.
Yeah, a guy did that to me the day after I found out my dad had cancer. That conversation did not go well.
(Dad is fine now and officially in remission, but that's after surgery and radiotherapy and months of anxious waiting. I did not feel like smiling the day after all this started.)
Sorry to hear about your dad but good that he is fine now
Mine was by a teacher during graduation I was in tears trying my hardest not to cry cause my mother had gotten into a wreck on her way to see me and I had no idea if she was okay or not. The teacher saw me in tears and started mouthing the word 'smile' to me while making gesture with their hands for me to smile. Almost walked out of the damned building.
at least my mom turned out to not be badly hurt.
Yeah, the way it feels is like... Like you don't really care about how a woman is actually feeling or don't really care to actually ask about how she's doing, it's just "you should look pretty... for me." No matter what, it always come off that way. As if I was just there to stand by you as you go about your day as window dressing. I should be allowed to scowl and look unhappy if I feel that way. Nothing makes me want to scowl more than when some guy comes up and tells me to smile.
Very different from a genuine compliment.
Yeah, the way it feels is like... Like you don't really care about how a woman is actually feeling or don't really care to actually ask about how she's doing, it's just "you should look pretty... for me." No matter what, it always come off that way. As if I was just there to stand by you as you go about your day as window dressing. I should be allowed to scowl and look unhappy if I feel that way. Nothing makes me want to scowl more than when some guy comes up and tells me to smile.
Very different from a genuine compliment.
Exactly!
I remember one day at work I was in a lot of pain so wasn't having a great day wasn't being rude to the costumers but so many people told me to smile that day and were very confused when it didn't work. I did eventually smile only because a sweet little girl came up to the counter and told me I looked like a princess. That made my damn day getting compared to my favorite princess by an adorable kid not having ten people telling me I'd look a lot nicer if I smiled.
Exactly!
I remember one day at work I was in a lot of pain so wasn't having a great day wasn't being rude to the costumers but so many people told me to smile that day and were very confused when it didn't work. I did eventually smile only because a sweet little girl came up to the counter and told me I looked like a princess. That made my damn day getting compared to my favorite princess by an adorable kid not having ten people telling me I'd look a lot nicer if I smiled.
You right. It's annoying when you pushed, when you have bad day an don't want to be disturbed. And people insisting.
You right. It's annoying when you pushed, when you have bad day an don't want to be disturbed. And people insisting.
Not sure if you are being sarcastic or not hard to tell over written the words and the fact I don't read others well but the gif is inclining me to believe that you are being sarcastic.
So I'll take that gif as an example these customers were not telling me to 'have a nice day' they were saying 'you should smile' and 'smile for me.' That is a huge difference.
Edit: Also my dad hates being told to have a nice or great day. He much prefers that someone says they hope he has a sh*tty day. I have no idea why though.
The only women I 've told or at least suggested to smile is my sister and mother. Never said it to a female co-worker or even a woman in passing.
This makes me want to create a lady Inquisitor who is super serious and scowling all the time.
my eventual elf lady is going to be just like that she is going to channel her inner Sten (without the love of cookies)
Not sure if you are being sarcastic or not hard to tell over written the words and the fact I don't read others well but the gif is inclining me to believe that you are being sarcastic.
So I'll take that gif as an example these customers were not telling me to 'have a nice day' they were saying 'you should smile' and 'smile for me.' That is a huge difference.
Edit: Also my dad hates being told to have a nice or great day. He much prefers that someone says they hope he has a sh*tty day. I have no idea why though.
I really dislike that phrase, always seems like fake politeness to me
Maybe that's why my dad insists on being told to have a 'sh*tty day' then. I just know he hates being told to have a nice day or have a great day at work regardless of who its coming from. That could very well be his logic though never though never thought of it like that before.
I just wanted to share this, for the ladies that are sick of being told, you're prettier when you smile:
http://questionablec....php?comic=2748
Edit: The blue girl in the comic is a robot.
Thank you. That can be the most patronizing statement and some people don't even realize it 
I've always taken it as a common courtesy even if they don't mean it. In fact can't remember where I was yesterday... But someone did say it to me. Ahh now I remember I took my daughter to the zoo and the cashier said it to me! And yes we did have a lovely day, even though it was cold!I really dislike that phrase, always seems like fake politeness to me
I've always taken it as a common courtesy even if they don't mean it. In fact can't remember where I was yesterday... But someone did say it to me. Ahh now I remember I took my daughter to the zoo and the cashier said it to me! And yes we did have a lovely day, even though it was cold!
Most people say it automatically. I've always taken it as "I wish you have a nice day" rather than "Have a nice day. Have it. I dare you not." 
Doesn't bother me. I find the smile thing kinda patronizing too though. I have a chronic bitchface so I hear it a lot.
It's just genuinely something we hear all the time from everyone in our lives. "You should smile more! you're so pretty when you smile!"
Which the sentence in and of itself isn't necessarily a bad thing to say.. It's not the same thing as saying "Oh wow you have a really nice smile!", it's saying "You're ONLY pretty when you smile, and obviously that's a thing you should want to be right?"
Contextually it's a thing you say to girls and women, but is nearly never uttered at men. While sure, being handsome is a plus for boys and men, being pretty is a thing girls and women should always strive to be. And that's all kinds of messed up
This is kinda BS.. no complete and total BS. I've been told to "smile more" very often as a child and up into my adult years. Mainly because I have aspergers and I have problems with facial expression. I'm often told that I look like I'm "mean mugging" or asked if something is wrong when I'm actually just fine.
I'm a black male and I get told I'd look cuter or be perceived as more friendly if I smiled more often, so It's not just a female thing.
And besides, being asked to smile more is not something to be offended at, jesus. Not everything is an attack on your gender. Get over yourselves
This is kinda BS.. no complete and total BS. I've been told to "smile more" very often as a child and up into my adult years. Mainly because I have aspergers and I have problems with facial expression. I'm often told that I look like I'm "mean mugging" or asked if something is wrong when I'm actually just fine.
I'm a black male and I get told I'd look cuter or be perceived as more friendly if I smiled more often, so It's not just a female thing.
And besides, being asked to smile more is not something to be offended at, jesus. Not everything is an attack on your gender. Get over yourselves
I find it annoying, regardless of gender. If a friend or family member says it, alright, whatever. If an acquaintance or a stranger says it, I feel the urge to headbutt them.
This is kinda BS.. no complete and total BS. I've been told to "smile more" very often as a child and up into my adult years. Mainly because I have aspergers and I have problems with facial expression. I'm often told that I look like I'm "mean mugging" or asked if something is wrong when I'm actually just fine.
I'm a black male and I get told I'd look cuter or be perceived as more friendly if I smiled more often, so It's not just a female thing.
And besides, being asked to smile more is not something to be offended at, jesus. Not everything is an attack on your gender. Get over yourselves
Do complete strangers stop you, an adult, on the street, to tell you to smile? Stop you when you're trying to walk, impede you from wherever you are trying to go? And wait for you to obey them, not leaving until you respond positively? Standing imposingly over you until you obey? Then acting like they gave you a gift that you should be grateful for? It's a form of street harassment. We're not talking about friends and family trying to offer advice (even if that advice is unwanted). We're talking about people we have never even said "hello" to commanding us to make ourselves more attractive.
I'm sure this does happen to men sometimes (I'm sure it happens more frequently to children, because--surprise--children are also often given instructions/"advice" by strangers). But it very often happens to adult women.
Hmm I feel like maybe we should all get that op available in Korea that results in a permanent slight smile... 
http://disinfo.com/2...in-south-korea/
Hmm I feel like maybe we should all get that op available in Korea that results in a permanent slight smile...
You gotta be ****** kidding me.
That's one of the most pointless, creepiest things I've ever seen.
Hmm I feel like maybe we should all get that op available in Korea that results in a permanent slight smile...
That's a thing? Holy hell glad that's not in the states I have no doubts my aunt would have made me get this if she could
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