On the other hand, the friends and family of the murder victim can be traumatized more than the friends and family of the rape victim. After all, at least their boy/girl is still alive. Meanwhile the murder victim's friends and family will never see or enjoy the presence of their boy/girl again.
Riiiiggghhht because seeing a family member suffer for years makes you warm and fuzzy inside that "at least their boy/girl is still alive."
Imagine the worse thing you every experience now add with that experience a sense of having your personal power stolen from you, and now imagine you feeling this way for years and years and years. Reliving this trauma, you really think it is contextually the same as murder?
There are very real difference between the two. The result of murder is death, death is an inevitable state of life and a great equalizer. There is no inevitable state of being raped in the human condition. Rape is not something the average person learns about as a child but death is something that is natural for children to learn about. Rape creates a state of being in the human condition that is alien to most peoples experience where death is not alien at all.
The logic of the following is flawed because it ignores how rape is different.
Its okay to have murder in games.
murder is bad in real life.
Rape is bad in real life.
ERGO its okay to have rape in games.
Its neither a double standard nor hypicritical to take a stance that rape shouldn't be in games because they are not the samething.