Alpha Protocol, South Park, Brink (Brink actually released a statement saying they were not doing female characters because they wanted to focus on more for the male character), Deus Ex, Saints Row 1.
So they are out there.
As a thought experiment, has there been games that only have women that have customization?
After wracking my brain, I had to laugh when the one game I could come up with was Poupee Girl, a Japanese paper doll game where you use the game currency (earned through social network things like uploading photos and posting comments) to buy clothes for your doll. I remember lots of people lamenting that they couldn't make a male avatar for it. So basically, guys only get left out of things that are explicitly over-the-top "girly."
Fine, no condescension. I am curious: do you think they've advertised the female inquisitor enough this time around, and made it clear you can play as either gender? Because since the Mass Effect days, I feel they've improved on this.
They have improved on this, there is absolutely no argument there. The treatment of both Femshep and Lady Hawke was downright shameful, whereas the Lady Inquisitor has been clearly visible in many of the promo posters and has appeared in a whole bunch of demos. And the box cover is deliberately neutral, which is amazing. That they even made a point of showing her at all, and not at the very last minute, is a huge step forward that I absolutely appreciate the devs for.
That said, I do still think they could do more. The back of the box (at least the PS4 one I looked at in my local store) shows only the male Inquisitor--so while the front may be neutral, dude on the back would lead one to believe that the person on the front is a dude. The one and only trailer featuring her barely shows her at all. And I still see the male promo poster popping up in ads on websites.
To be honest, I've been waiting for one perfect trailer to show to friends as a huge "THIS is why you should play this game!" But while there have been many trailers I loved, the fact that they all had a male Inquisitor made me less excited to show them off. And a demo packs a little less punch when you're trying to introduce somebody new to a franchise, so... eh.