I can't get my head around how gender politics is supposed to work in Dragon Age. The women in the Chantry thing should give them a lot of influence on paper but my impression from the games is that everyone in actual positions of power ignores the Chantry.
Not quite sure what you mean by "actual positions of power". The chantry's greatest influence (in-game, anyway) has to do with the circles and control of the mage population, which the ruling classes mostly seem to support. Viscount Dumar didn't seem to be able to do much for Kirkwall other than maintain the existing tensions until they boiled over; Meredith and Elthina were the real powers there, while Petrice & Co. stirred up their share of stink.
This is a complex and prickly issue, but though I can see the merit in stories which ignore gender distinction I would also like more stories which explore it and gender inequality.
Another thing is that often ignoring gender differences in stories tends to just mean showing a typically male perspective story but adding women to it, and I feel like there is possibly something being missed in that. Not every female soldier is a Vasquez.
I'd really rather not have to deal with gender stereotypes in a game world. I get more than enough of it IRL.
I'm sure you didn't enjoy Leliana monologue about dressing Morrigan because it was too girlish, huh? Or not? It's not a secret that woman more cares about dresses, even in this thread one of you wanted a ball dress for her female Inquisitor would it be bad if there is an option for fem hero to actually get such dress in game? There are a lot of things that could separate female Inquisitor from male in a good way. Or you don't believe in this? Or you don't want?
Leliana's dialogue didn't bother me. I didn't see it as representative of all women, just one individual.
As for the various clothing requests - I have mixed feelings about that. On the one hand, if those additional options would please people and help support their desired roleplay, I'm all for it. On the other hand, it points to something that I think is a huge problem in our culture: the fact that women are judged and valued for their looks, and whether random males would want to bang them.
Women in this culture are reminded of their eye candy value on a daily, if not hourly, basis. One has only to look at all of the threads (and posts within threads) calling DAI's female characters ugly to see how unrelenting and ubiquitous it is. Then there's the steady stream of ads for "beauty" products that support a multi-billion dollar industry, not to mention the annual parade of "beauty" pageants where women are judged like cattle.
So I'm always a little uncomfortable when women express the desire to look "pretty". I'm never quite sure whether this desire arises as part of the individual's basic nature, or whether it's because they've been socialized to feel that their value is enhanced when they meet certain appearance standards.