So Dorian is his sexuality? I just got done arguing on another thread that this is false. His sexuality is an aspect of himself, not his only quality. And that quest is his companion quest, not his romance quest. His sexuality wouldn't be a problem at all in Tevinter if being gay could produce children. That was the core of the disagreement between Dorian and his dad. It was breeding and the betrayal of Dorian's trust.
When I talked about his romance, I wasn't talking about his father's quest. I was talking about it in general. The way he's reluctant to put himself out there emotionally, the way he expresses his feelings through snark and physical actions unless he's angry or upset, the way he wants the Inquisitor to be the first one to talk about relationship things. It was made clear that he wasn't allowed these things in Tevinter, because the only safe option for two men was something quick and fun; a no-ties, one night stand, essentially. The Inquisitor can offer him something more, something he's wanted but been denied, and (or, in the case of femQuisitors) accepts him for who he is; he doesn't know how to deal with it and it shows. Some of Cole's comments about Dorian are really pretty sad. Also, if Dorian liked women at all, it would have been easier to conform to his father's wishes and fit in with Tevinter society. If he didn't have this thing that essentially made him an outsider (his unwillingness to live a lie, of which his attraction to men was a big factor of), if his father hadn't went to the extremes he did to get him to conform (if Dorian was attracted to women his father would probably not have felt the need to go to turn to blood magic, because he'd figure that eventually Dorian would settle down, have kids, and continue his legacy), would he have noticed the extent of Tevinter's corruption? Who's to say. But we know he was privileged, even for a mage in Tevinter, and we know that he didn't even think about slavery until he left Tevinter and saw it through others' eyes.
I never said Dorian was his sexuality, nor did I say it was his only quality, so I'm not sure why you're accusing me of it. People who dismiss him as just his sexuality are wrong, and I'll tell them so when I'm not lurking, but I think it's also wrong to deny that it had an influence on shaping who he is, because it obviously did. If someone wants to write him being into women, they'd have to change his backstory. Why does he act this way? Why does he feel this way? Why did his father go to such extremes? What made him see Tevinter's faults? Imo, just saying 'well, he didn't want to marry the woman his father picked' isn't good enough, because I never got the impression that his father had just one specific woman picked out and you can't tell me that all women of standing in Tevinter are evil harpies, (and if an author writes them that way, well, that's a different problem.) People can write it if they want, but it's not something I'll read and, yeah, I'll consider it OOC.* And I've been bullied in real life, I know how harmful it can be and I don't support it at all, but if someone's writing a gay character as bi or straight, they need to realize and be prepared for the baggage that comes with it and how people might react.
*For the record, I'm differentiating between Dorian/femQuisitor and, say, Dorian/Josephine or Dorian/Cassandra, because that's the only straight Dorian pair I've seen an interest for. I'd give more leeway to someone who wanted to explore Dorian with one of the female companions, provided they address this sudden attraction to a woman and not just brush it off. It's still not going to be my thing, but people can't help what dynamics grab them. But if they're writing him with the Inquisitor, I literally can't see a good reason to write him with a female Inquisitor instead of a male one.
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