Hi there. I've been thinking about the personal information on Dorian in the new World of Thedas book and I've started to feel a bit miffed that this wasn't something that Dorian reveals himself in game. World of Thedas is meant to be a background book, giving information on the game world as a whole, history, lore and important characters that you would otherwise not have the opportunity to learn about, except perhaps through codices. It seems odd to me that the info dump you get on Tevinter from Dorian just after first recruiting him could have been left to a book, whilst his personal life is something that he should have been able to come clean about himself.
The info dump on Tevinter is the same for any character of any background. That information is put into the game so all players, new and old, will have a source of information in the game, and not have to rely on outside sources. That is exactly the sort of knowledge that should be in the game. Also, any of the Tevinter dialog can be had at any point in the game, so it doesn't necessarily have to be played as an info dump and can instead be spread out over time and be natural conversation (which is how I play it).
Back in Origins Zevran had a pretty colourful past and over the course of the game, if you talked with him enough and raised his approval, then he trusted you enough to divulge his innermost secrets, including the confession about his former lover and his own self hatred about what he did. That was really touching. Still if his former guild master had come along at a later date and taunted him about it, it wouldn't have come as a shock. It also explained what the Guardian was getting at when asked if he had regrets.
As far as Dorian's past goes, IMO it's really none of our damned business. Dorian is damaged, and I think in a way that Zevran never was, although he did have issues with his past.
Not everything about a character has to be reveled in the game. Some things are better left to head canon, and others are better left to a book where they can be explored in detail without the added emotional weight of an actual dialog between Dorian and the Inquisitor. Which, by the by, would have been an extremely intense conversation, not nearly as informative as the book, and I think problematic in its presentation because Dorian would be speaking of himself, rather than reading it from a third party.
As it is, having the information in WoT suggests that it is common knowledge in Tevinter or at the very least popular gossip among the nobility and I feel that a friend/lover of Dorian would feel hurt that he didn't trust them enough to warn them about it.
I agree that it appears to be somewhat common knowledge -- at least insofar as people thinking that Magister Pavus has an unruly son that he can't control -- because Dorian's own behavior ensured that it became so. He did it to himself; he knew what he was doing, and this actually makes it worse emotionally.
To give you an indication as to what David Gaider's thought process might be, I will point to something he said regarding Anders not revealing his relationship with Karl to a female Hawke:
If you didn't like how the character was written, that's fine... but to ascribe it to the fact they didn't discuss their past relationships enough, or are somehow baffled that Anders would not mention his relationship with a man to a woman (in what world would someone do this?) or that bisexuality (in deed or by virtue of their natural preference) is somehow inherently inconsistent unless the person in question actively mentions past experiences, says more about you that it says about "watered-down characters".
To me, it makes perfect sense that he would not reveal this information, especially to his new, unexpected, lover. I rather doubt Dorian is proud of this behavior -- even Alexius's own description points to this. Dorian is insecure, and by his own admission has had no experience whatsoever with relationships. I wouldn't be surprised if he is afraid that the IQ would look on him with disgust if he revealed this information.
I don't really feel it's about trusting or not trusting the Inquisitor. I feel it's about fear, and also about wanting to move on. Alexius gave Dorian a second chance. The Inquisition has given him a third. He doesn't want to f this up too, especially if he is in love with the Inquisitor.
In this thread we've talked a lot about Dorian trying to give the Inquisitor an 'out.' He does this on three occasions: post-sex scene, the "what happens 'after' " dialog, and the post- Temple of Mythal dialog. While I might say that this WoT information would be the perfect thing to include in that lineup, Dorian never goes out of his way to actively sabotage the relationship, which is what this information would be an attempt at. He does want the relationship, he just feels it won't last and is trying to save himself further pain.
I think if it was in game , it's again the whole romance fixing the characters problems.
This is a hugely important point. At some point we need to also look at it from a game creation angle and see how this fits in with the other available romances, and the game as a whole.
As it is currently, the clincher in the Dorian romance arc is that, because of how s/s relations are viewed in Tevinter, he has no experience in dealing with a relationship or its associated issues. He is very experienced sexually (which I already suspected), but that's all. This is ALL new to him. So, you don't want the romance to turn into "fixing" the broken person, or have it all revolve around these issues.
As much as I adore him, I think we had enough of that with Fenris.
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Sorry I wrote a tome.