It's wonderful how these kinds of threads always make the sexists come out of the woodwork. But who am I to contribute anything here, after all males should dominate the world. *shakes head*
I thought Anora was a good ruler as well, tbh. Not the perfect solution as sole ruler (but neither is Alistair), but her and my Warden were pretty damn perfect as far as I can see it. (If he didn't just up and disappear, that is.)
As for the overall topic: I whole-heartedly agree with OP. I must admit that the sexist comments directed at the female PC never quite registered with me, mostly because I have come to expect them from that kind of setting. With one exception: The much-discussed "I'm braver than you, and I'm a woman!" comment. That rubbed me the entirely wrong way and if there was ever a moment in DA:O that made me want to slap someone, it was this one. Way to insult women and try to pass it off as an empowering comment. I also gotta admit that Loghain's "You're pretty for a Warden" comment never bothered me. I only played an elf once and to be quite honest I find Loghain attractive and was too busy giggling like a schoolgirl to feel offended. But even looking at it in this new light, the "Don't let anyone tell you you don't belong here" part makes me forgive him (mostly). What can I say, I have a soft spot for the nutbag.
Anyway, after reading this thread (even the more...narrow-minded comments), I can see how some of these instances would be truly jarring. I am quite sure that Bioware is doing their best, however. They've come a long way since DA:O, after all, and have the (verbal) scars to prove it. 