My point was that there is always going to be racism, sexism, homophobia etc. It's part of life. The game reflects that. it's what gives characters flavour even though you might not like it. Asking for less sexism is like asking for less crime. A nice idea but one that wont happen.
It's not a matter of whether or not I feel it should exist at all, but rather the scale to which the writers should apply it. Sexism, on a broader scale, has no real place in the Dragon Age universe. The only groups that have such strict divisions between the roles of men and women are the Chantry and the Qunari, and neither represent society, or at least society in Ferelden as a whole. But as you say, it is what gives characters flavor, and that's the point. We see it among characters who have some serious flaws in their respective personalities, some of which we may have to give greater effort to understand, simply dismiss, put in their place or kill outright. I don't think that everyone everywhere should be totally devoid of some rather unsavory opinions a woman's place in society, but I don't think it should be a more prevalent theme in Dragon Age either. Being a part of life does not necessarily mean that it's something that should be given greater emphasis in a story. It doesn't necessarily make it more interesting, and very likely, it can only serve to be an annoyance. The same goes for things like homophobia. Imagine if in DA2, Hawke's mother criticizes him or her because their partner is of the same sex? Where do the writers go from there? How would this little piece of drama be resolved? Realistic or not, it would be doomed to be considered a failing point among fans who would take this issue very personally and would probably be seen as a major misstep to never be repeated. Moreover, how is this addressed without creating a very unwanted diversion from the themes of the main story?
To say that to ask for less sexism is the same as asking for less crime is inaccurate. For one, crime, in and of itself, is indiscriminate. People rob other people for any number of reasons. Things like revenge or greed affect everyone. There's no sensitive issues on crime in the general sense, and being a game that involves combat, crime is kind of something we'd have to encounter if we're going to save people from bandits or evil lords anyway.
You keep using the word irrelevant and yet in almost every fantasy based (and even some that are not)RPG's, some form of sexism or racism occurs. That doesn't strike me as irrelevant. It's not about honouring the past because these are still very much relevant issues within the human existence. My point about the 1950's was to show how silly the post I was reffering to was that somehow racism or sexism from one party is acceptable but not from another.
What other fantasy games do doesn't really concern me. I say that it's irrelevant, because the writers largely make it so. If they feel that Dragon Age doesn't need a plethora of sexist people for us to encounter, then that's that. Since the story they create doesn't really necessitate their existence in a way that really contributes to it, then I'm inclined to agree. Frankly, I simply do not see its importance in relation to the major themes of Dragon Age.
There needs to be some sort of conflict within games it helps to create a story. If nobody was racist or sexist the characters in the game would be very boring. I'm not saying it's blanket sexism but there are going to be some groups of people who think one type of person is inferior to another type. This is and should be reflected in video games. When you play as a Dwarf/Elf/Human you have to accept that not everyone is going to greet you with open arms.
Conflict is obviously something Dragon Age has no shortage of, but there certainly are plenty of racist people in Thedas. Again, I don't expect every single character we encounter in Dragon Age to be a bastion of open-mindedness, but if more and more characters of varying import start to crop up having a negative view of a certain sex, class or race, it only serves well for the story if it's something we as the player can fight against. Your last line is precisely the type of thing that Dragon Age does allow us to attack. If you're a dwarf commoner, you get to show everyone up by being the big damn hero that saves the day.