I get it. He lost his friends. That sucks.
Still doesn't make him less biased in his views of how "awesome" the Grey Wardens are.
If anything, his experiences are expressly why he looks at them with rose-tinted glasses. Criminy cripes, his idol was once a thief and murderer.
And you're not biased because you and possibly your character lived a sickeningly privileged life with loving parents and no need to form attachments with anyone else?
Face it, buddy. We're ALL biased. We can only see the world only from our own perspectives and thus can only be subjective. You're no different. You're just as biased and subjective as you accuse others of being, you've just deluded yourself into thinking you're Right.
Your view and your character's view of Duncan and the Grey Wardens is just as biased as Alistair's because you're coming from different life experiences and perspectives, yet you think yourself less biased, less subjective, and more clear-thinking just because your life experiences that formed your opinions are somehow Right and Normal while his are not?
Eh, sorry, but I don't buy that his defensive response to Morrigan was that well thought out 
... especially for a guy who's in a state of grief and thus probably not thinking straight. Conscious or not, though, he saw nothing wrong in scale with comparing his loss to the hypothetical loss of a parent.
How narcissistic of you to see nothing wrong with belittling the experiences of others because it doesn't line up with Your experiences and worldviews. Because, of course, you are Right, you see things Clearly, and you Get It. Everyone else? Oh, they're just biased and not thinking clearly. If only they experienced what You experienced in life, saw what You saw, and think how You think. Then they would have the One Corrrect Way of seeing and perceiving because they saw it Your Way... wait, what?
Maybe Alistair sees nothing wrong with comparing the two because that's actually the way he feels. After all, Alistair has lived through the supposed death of a biological parent, since Maric had been "lost to sea" five years prior (and yes, I know that David Gaider's comic series follows up on what actually happened to Maric) so he knows what that experience is like. Despite this, Alistair still feels deeply grieved by the loss of Duncan and the Grey Wardens. He's been on both sides of the spectrum: the death (supposed) of a biological parent and that of someone he looks up to as a surrogate parent. He can compare the two because he's experienced the two.
If anything, Alistair is less biased than you in this regard, unless You've lost both a biological parent and a surrogate parent in your life, and can compare the two.
And yes, I do find that questionable (for want of a better word) for him to think his relationship with Duncan is anywhere near "family" level.
Why? People are emotionally, psychologically, and socially capable of forming close familial bonds with others not related by blood. "Sometimes family is who you love and who's there for you, not just who you're related to," and all that fluffy stuff. That's why adoption and fostering exists.
That he thinks it is just goes to show that he's out-of-touch with reality (and thus his judgment is suspect). It's not comparable, because Duncan's support for him has strings attached -- Alistair has to be a Grey Warden. Take that away, you think Duncan would even bother? The answer is "no," and that's what Alistair doesn't get. Your parents are the only people in the world that truly give a s*** about you, for no reason other than you being their child (unless they're broken individuals). Take them away, and you've got no one looking out for you. Not without some strings attached, anyway.
Pft! That you think that just goes to show how out-of-touch you are with reality and the things countless people experience every day.
So, according to you, people are emotionally and psychologically incapable of forming familial attachments unless they're biologically create someone or are created by someone, and are therefor required to trigger emotional attachments in the brain--unless there's something seriously wrong with them to form attachments with someone not they did not create or were not created by. Friendships, adoptions, surrogate families, etc? There's no real love or attachment between anyone unless one sprang from loins of another. Unless someone carries your genetic makeup, you are emotionally and psychologically incapable of forming any bonds--and those that think they do are just damaged and deluding themselves.
I think you placed WAY too much value on biological parent/children and WAY too little on the bonds, friendships, attachments of... virtually every other kind of human relationship. Take half of the reverence you place on biological parent/children relationships, put it toward those of every other emotional bond ever made by every type of person (grandparent/grandchild, sibling, friends, romantic, surrogate filial, etc) and I think you'll be closer to the spectrum of actual human emotions.
How it is that you can be idealistic and misanthropic at the same time? You say that parents are the only ones that truly give a **** about you "unless they're broken individuals." I can turn that around and say maybe the people who can only give a **** about someone if they're their genetic offspring are the ones who're "broken individuals." I mean, how emotionally bankrupt do you have to be to be incapable of caring about someone unless they carry your genetic makeup, and thus you only REALLY care about them because they're an extension of yourself? (Which, when you think about it, means that, by your definition, parents aren't "the only people in the world that give two shits about you... without some strings attached," because there are strings attached. They want you to live and succeed because you are an extension of themselves, and seeing to it that you thrive means they thrive by extension.)
At any rate, we see biological parent and child relationships that mean squat in the game. We see in the game that Alistair doesn't have a deep personal relationship with his blood family because none of them ever acted like a family. He could have been fathered by a stable hand for all the shits Maric gave him. His brother could have been Connor instead of Cailan for how much time they spent together. Flemeth was all Morrigan had growing up and it's never made clear whether they're biologically related (though Maric's run-in with Flemeth in one of the books implies it could be the case), regardless, both are willing to use, cast off and kill each other to get what they want. Biological or not, they have all the love of cannibalistic spiders being willing to eat their own.
And you think Alistair is the one that has something wrong with him because he doesn't form emotional attachments exclusively with his biological parents (at the exclusion of all other people) even though his life experiences taught him that (contrary to Your life experiences) parents are NOT "the only ones that give two shits about you" because his only known biological parent never gave two shits about him?
Cripes Almighty...
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