Okay, what do you all think of a lesbian being written by a guy?
I find I'm doubtful.
I think it probably has similarities to someone from culture A trying to write a figure of culture B. There are things that mesh, and there are things that wouldn't, and it's not necessarily because of the culture gap itself.
As a confession, I've taken a hand at character outlining and planing in the past. I've tried a variety of different viewpoints and perspectives, in the name of trying to keep myself flexible. I wouldn't say I'm great at it, but it did help me learning some things.
Like, for example, that at the time I wrote my males and females almost indistinguishably. Not that I was writing men like women, or women like men: just that they both came off as characters where gender was irrelevant. It wasn't disrespectful, but it was absent.
Which surprised me, because even the characters of the same gender and orientation as myself came this way. I was, in a sense, 'failing' to write my own gender and orientation.
That is part of why, to me, I don't worry to much on the source as opposed to the product. Writing what you know is good, but only if you're good at that. But for a lot of characters of Dragon Age, there's little about them that anyone could credibly claim 'to know.' Too many differences, too many contextual and social changes. If you're into the whole privilage check-off thing, there are so many of those that simply don't match up. And it doesn't really matter.
Gaider wrote Morrigan's romance, as I recall. There is nothing about Gaider that suggests to me 'heterosexual tsundere witch with social and mother issues.' But it was interesting, and I can appreciate Morrigan even if I don't like her. Not because Gaider wrote what he knew- just because he wrote.