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[Basement Cat]

Thank you all for this. I just hope her life won't continue to have terrible twists of fate.

Hey, we may not agree on many things, but when it comes to real life knocking you down, we're here to help you back on your feet, no matter what.

[raging_monkey]

Me presumably being the bitchy cousin?
 
But thank you, again. It's good being able to talk to other people about this.

my favorite cousin though and we gottcha

[veeia]

Me presumably being the bitchy cousin?

But thank you, again. It's good being able to talk to other people about this.

You're my favorite bitchy cousin, Xil.

That sucks, timing wise, but glad to hear she's open to reprocessing it. Hope she's still getting visitors, cuz company can help a lot, and that everyone (her, you, the ones in the accident etc) is okay. You seem like a very supportive and attentive girlfriend. I imagine it's frustrating as hell when you're not nearby and even if you were, there doesn't seem like anything tangible to be done, but that support and attention does matter and help.

[The Loyal Nub]

****. One of my girlfriend's friends and her fiance got hit by a truck on the way to visit her, and she's now convinced it's her fault.

 

Just try and reassure her that there is no deity or karma or magic in this world that affects things like that. It's all random and can happen to anyone at anytime. Tell her this is a time for her to try and comfort her friend who has had the accident and my thinking Xil is that one of the ways I coped with serious depression was to take up creative tasks or to do something for someone else because it frees up your mind from making things all about you. If she paints then paint, guitar lessons, photography, walking shelter dogs...Hope she'll be ok.

 

Me presumably being the bitchy cousin?

 

But thank you, again. It's good being able to talk to other people about this.

 

Nah...the stubborn cousin maybe...  But I enjoy hearing your ideas and if you need anything always stop by. 

[raging_monkey]

I can feel the love here its great

[raging_monkey]

I may be biased but I think the people here are the best and when you need them they are always here. They have picked me more times than I can count.I wish you and your girlfriend the best Xil.

and we always will you pick up and anyone else who is down

[Xilizhra]

You're my favorite bitchy cousin, Xil.

That sucks, timing wise, but glad to hear she's open to reprocessing it. Hope she's still getting visitors, cuz company can help a lot, and that everyone (her, you, the ones in the accident etc) is okay. You seem like a very supportive and attentive girlfriend. I imagine it's frustrating as hell when you're not nearby and even if you were, there doesn't seem like anything tangible to be done, but that support and attention does matter and help.

Well, one of the two in the accident has a couple of broken bones, the other one is in a coma with spinal damage. So... not good. But I'm doling out as much support/attention as I can.

 

 

Just try and reassure her that there is no deity or karma or magic in this world that affects things like that. It's all random and can happen to anyone at anytime. Tell her this is a time for her to try and comfort her friend who has had the accident and my thinking Xil is that one of the ways I coped with serious depression was to take up creative tasks or to do something for someone else because it frees up your mind from making things all about you. If she paints then paint, guitar lessons, photography, walking shelter dogs...Hope she'll be ok.

I'm somewhat nervous about the idea of giving her more work to do vis a vis the friend, but perhaps I'll do so a bit later?

[YourFunnyUncle]

Me presumably being the bitchy cousin?

But thank you, again. It's good being able to talk to other people about this.

Disagreements over a videogame character/franchise are one thing. Real life being horrible is entirely another. It sounds like you're doing the right things. Keep being there for her and reassuring her that it can't be her fault. You both can get through this.

[veeia]

Well, one of the two in the accident has a couple of broken bones, the other one is in a coma with spinal damage. So... not good. But I'm doling out as much support/attention as I can.

 

 

 

Oh yikes, that's awful. YEah, not much else you can do, probably, but you seem to be doing right by her. Nub is right in that being productive or doing things for other people can help with depression (really just anything that makes you feel competent or gets you moving, exercise can be a wonderful thing), but only so much as you feel you can do it. I wouldn't push her, but suggestions can't hurt if she seems open to them. 

[The Loyal Nub]

Well, one of the two in the accident has a couple of broken bones, the other one is in a coma with spinal damage. So... not good. But I'm doling out as much support/attention as I can.

 

 

I'm somewhat nervous about the idea of giving her more work to do vis a vis the friend, but perhaps I'll do so a bit later?

 

Whatever you think best Xil but you're always welcome here if you need us. She's lucky to have you. You're a good girlfriend.

[raging_monkey]

I agree with this, so much.

we all do

[Xilizhra]

Oh yikes, that's awful. YEah, not much else you can do, probably, but you seem to be doing right by her. Nub is right in that being productive or doing things for other people can help with depression (really just anything that makes you feel competent or gets you moving, exercise can be a wonderful thing), but only so much as you feel you can do it. I wouldn't push her, but suggestions can't hurt if she seems open to them. 

I'll deploy suggestions when the time seems right. Right now, I'm just hoping she can get to sleep, especially as she's had some insomnia problems before...

 

 

Whatever you think best Xil but you're always welcome here if you need us. She's lucky to have you. You're a good girlfriend.

Thanks. I do try to be.

[raging_monkey]

The fact your trying is the proof you are xil

[Xilizhra]

Well, apparently, the more injured one is no longer in critical condition and might walk again with therapy. So things are improving.

[raging_monkey]

See miracles exist

[FemHawke FTW]

I'm glad to hear about their improvement, really sorry that your girlfriend is having to deal with this Xil. You're doing the right thing, hope everything works out for you both.

[Xilizhra]

She's actually weathering this better than I'd feared. I imagine it helps that her friend told her she doesn't hate her.

[raging_monkey]

She's actually weathering this better than I'd feared. I imagine it helps that her friend told her she doesn't hate her.

thats good

[Rel Fexive]

I'm Rel Fexive, and this is my favourite hugbox on the forum.

 

 

Glad things are improving, Xil.

[raging_monkey]

At first i thought hugbox was messed term... now i think we should have itvas our badge of honour

[Rel Fexive]

I think it's safe to say that while it was initially intended as some kind of weird insult we have, as they say, taken it back and made it our own.

 

Any why not?  What's wrong with being nice to people anyway?

[WildOrchid]

Well, one of the two in the accident has a couple of broken bones, the other one is in a coma with spinal damage. So... not good. But I'm doling out as much support/attention as I can.

 

Jesus....

I wish the best for you and your gf's friend.