This really apalled me, because every person I know who's against mysoginy and gender discrimination NEVER endorses abuse against others. They always stand for respect, no matter with whom they're arguing.
The bullying online I've been witnessing in the the past few months is just absurd. I for one can't and won't stand alongside bullies. This open harassment to supposedly defend a good cause goes against everything I believe in.
Do I have to accept bisexuality or white washing in my life? No. But I cannot force people who do that to change. Nor should I. What I and the people who think and feel differently from me must all do is to RESPECT each other and know where is the limit, where is the line that cannot be crossed.
Sure, I can try to convince the other side through rational argumentation and try to make them develop a conscience to the racial and discriminatory nature underlying such preferences. And the other side may try to do the same to me, to make me see the appeal of their philosophy of life.
But this is VERY DIFFERENT from offending someone and exposing them to ridicule until they feel cornered, outnumbered, finally breaking inside and giving in to his agressors. This is NOT the attitude of someone who stands for a repressed and discriminated group.
A victim of bullying will NEVER act like an agressor, not even when the opportunity arises. They know what it is to be repressed by many and have to struggle against the lingering trauma and the sense of being utterly alone. I've been there, BELIEVE ME.
The moment you use your influence or cleverness to purposefully attack another person, you are no longer taking a stand in the name of a cause, nor defending any victims. You are engaging in a criminal activity that you condemn when done by others.
The people claiming to be guardians of morality cannot be seriously fighting for respect and equality while using verbal abuse, belittlement, discrimination and other cowardly tactics while hiding behind an anonymous avatar to persuade others of the validity of their cause.
If this cause was so important to some, they'd join, form an organized front and face their agressors headlong, instead of having fun on twitter and tumblr with the troubles of others (someone said they missed the party. Seriously?).
Or is this just another acitivity to "pass the time"? If it is, then what gave those people the right to harass other members of the forum in the first place (ergo complain about white washing, etc)? And even the right to harass a VA, as we just witnessed on twitter not too long ago? Or has standing against bullying become another activity to deal with everyday boredom? To the victims of bullying in real life, this is not a joke. If it is to some and this is being taken lightly by a few bored people, then their superficial attitude is just harmful to those in need of real help.
Fight fire with fire? I don't think so. Otherwise, you become just another bully, undeserving of respect and consideration from anyone. This demoralises all the hard work the victims have done over the years to stop all bullying from happening. It diminishes the cause you (claim to) fight for.
My suggestion is that people leave ideologies out of the gaming community and complain to friends and family when they feel a part of the fandom has personal preferences that disgust you.
And whenever the other part is being prejudiced, take the matter to the forum admins, talk to Mike Laidlaw and other influential people and ask them to address the problem.
People should really distance themselves a bit from the Bioware fandom, take a step back and look at what's happened. What was supposed to be a source of interaction and fun has become a battleground, a war of ideologies. And over a subject that has NOTHING to do with the franchise: sexual gender.
The game is not about SEX. It's about FANTASY. And as such, it can be shaped to fit ANY preference imaginable. Even the most racist, intolerant mysoginist can play this game and have fun, as well as the most extravagant pansexual transvestite out there. If one is hetero and the other loves everyone, this is a SECONDARY aspect. The MAIN aspect is the fandom gathering in social networks to talk about THE GAME.
Anything other than that is just people fuelling fights and creating dissent among fans so as to "have fun". And if Bioware is not keeping an eye on this, on some people using a franchise to promote a stupid conflict among its consumers, it might find out this whole affair projects a negative impression of the company itself.
Bt by then, it might too late for the company to do anything about it...