That is not being a weaker person. Why is that weaker to you? (NVM that banter is bugged to hell and back and what the actual trigger is might not be rivalry/friendship could be Anders killing that girl or not which would explain the blood on your hands line come to think of it..). Other than that one banter how is she "weaker" on the rivalry? Cause I don't see it.
It's in her demeanor and dialogue, where Merrill seems to have little confidence in her own worth, including in the 'romance' scene at the manor.
She displays more happiness and self-worth in Friendship, where she seems optimistic about the future, or even addressing how an elven Hawke might have brought about a new elven kingdom. She seems exuberance when she admits that she's glad she has someone who is willing to support her endeavor to help her people.
I know I'm not going to change your mind; it's just that I really, truly despise Rivalry.
Technology that Merrill also knows little about and decides to use in the middle of a crowded city full of civilians who would not be able to protect themselves if something did backfire from it. But clearly Merrill's desire to use it is more important than their lives and safety right? Nah that's Hawke trying to be uppity cause he's human. Clearly. He's not concerned about her learning about it via a demon who clearly has alternative motives, no he just has to be right cause human. That vile uptight Shem! *shakes fist*
Merrill learned blood magic from Audacity (because she lacked the lyrium necessary to use ordinary magic), but she studied the lore on the Eluvians and extrapolated information from the shard in building her own. She's the most informed about the Eluvians in the narrative of Dragon Age II.
Good thing I never argued that! I'm well aware some mages don't belong in the circle and are responsible enough to be trusted out of it. Which is why I'm pro the circle with major reforms. There are also mages who would prefer to be in the circle rather than have the crappy hand they'd been dealt with originally. I'm not saying all mages should be pro-circle. I don't even argue all non mages should be pro circle. My issue is with the "you're a mage you should hate the circle" mindset. The circle serves a function it needs a major overhaul yes but it performs a function. (Even TEVINTER has a damn circle.)
I think it's an issue of hating Chantry control over the Circle, and not the concept of having a Circle where mages can be properly instructed on the use of their powers.