I can't help but see this thread as being pointless and needless pedantic.
I've got a nice trick for that - it's called not commenting on a thread you deem pointless.
I know... I'm a genius.
I see this thread as being...well, not necessary, but something that deserves consideration. I find it frustrating that BW has a habit of only having the resources to model one gender of [insert occupation/race/species] and that one gender is almost always male (almost because of strippers and desire demons). It's an ongoing problem they have of treating men as the default in almost everything, save a few very specific (and typically sexualized) instances.
It gets especially frustrating in DA because there is no reason why they don't have the resources to model women in the game. I don't think any soldier/guard in the games wear armor that isn't available to the female PC, so it's just a matter of including more females in scenes where soldiers are around.
Yeah I just am sick of this to be honest. The default is always, always male, and women are lucky to get thrown a bone IF there's enough "resources" left over after all the males are shiny and pretty. Just for once I'd like to see it done the opposite way around - spend all the primary resources on female models, and then with whatever scraps are left over create the male models. Just to see how ridiculous and pretty darn sexist the resources argument is.
And as I stated earlier, I'd be glad if there are more women in future installments, but it isn't what I would call a necessity.
It's a necessity for some people, still. I think whenever we talk about men versus women on the forums here, way more people are quick to jump in and say that the discussion is a waste of time and/or is not necessary rather than actually provide some input. 
Most people playing Video games are males, hence 90% of game characters are male.
I think most of us have outgrown this argument, as we realize it's not actually as true as we once believed. The split seems to be way closer to 50/50 than "most are males" implies. The video game industry is huge, which means that even if the split is closer to 40/60 (which I think is more accurate), 40% is a heck of a lot of people with money to spend. And not to offend anyone with a potential stereotype, but seems to me that women are much more likely to spend their money not only on the game itself but on related merchandise as well because when we like something, we really like it. It is in absolutely everyone's best interest for video games to cater to both men and women more equally.
Women do not WANT to be men. You assume that everyone has your same beliefs. You're just as different from most women, as men are to each other. If you want to join the army, Thedas lets you. This doesnt mean women should do that. If women are more likely to be housewives in Thedas, there's no shame in that. It still doesn't mean that they aren't capable of leading armies if thy wished to.
"The army" is not synonymous with being a man. If a woman joins the army, she joins it because she wants to and not because she wants to "be a man." A man who stays home with the kids does so because he wants to, not because he wants to me a woman or a "housewife."
So I'm not sure what you mean when you say that women do not want to be men in terms of the topic?