(given the fact that it seems neither of the mods i installed seemed to change something in the game so eventhough i still wonder if i could have romanced alistair because of the equal love or if it didnt work too lol ) so if we say i wanted to play it without mods but its impossible cause he reconize my characater as male ,is it fair !? in origin he was the most important and intersting romance ! he's the hero of the story !! it was NOT fair ... .
I know they are devoted to my character as much as i 'am ,but if you're gay you see,you'll feel more unique..i dont know if you can see what i mean ...it would not change big things ! it will just add more sweetness in the relationship you know ... i mean even in real life ,for example you , would u feel better with a a person attracted to your and only your sex or someone who can be attracted to ANYone .... honestly the best for me is still to add a gay natured character with a nice storyline in the party ...after all you have more than 6 characters hanging with you ! its not like it will harm anyone ! for the people who have a serious issue with it ,they can just leave him behind ! ...thats what i truly think .
That's what I'm saying. No, it's not fair. It's unfair to you as a player. Read what I wrote again. Here:
If you want to romance Alistair with a male character, you shouldn't have to rely on a mod. You should be able to sweep him up in your manly arms (or elvish or dwarven arms) and openly declare your love.
And if you (or anyone) want to romance Alistair with a female character, you should be able to do the same. No one should be disenfranchised because of who they fall in love (or lust) with. Not in the game, and not in real life.
I'm not gay. I'm bi. And my relationships have been with people who are attracted to me, and I to them. Not my gender, not my preferences, ME. Not their gender, not their preferences, THEM. Whether they were gay, straight or bi wasn't the thing that made the relationship sweet. The fact that we were in love, and totally into each other, that in a whole world full of people we found each other, is what made it sweet. That goes double for games.
ETA: The Equal Love mod on Nexus worked fine for me. I'm sorry it didn't for you. But you still shouldn't need a mod.