Now for the sexuality thing. Bioware has depicted every non-straight character so far as being promiscuous, yes Morrigan says that she has had many men however She is perhaps the straight romance (that I can think of) in the series who has had casual sex. As a gay man myself playing these games it comes across as Bioware thinking that all non-straight people just have sex, sex, sex and more sex. I'm not a stereotype and my sexuality isn't something to be fetishised.
I have no issues with anyone who want to engage in casual sex and I think it is good that Bioware are representing those people in their games, but this isn't my true issue. What I do not appreciate that I haven't been represented in any of the games so far in the romances, I like many of my fellow LGBT people are not all sex crazed 24/7 casual sex, sexy sex. I guess this is somewhat of a rant because i'm feeling that Bioware has the mindset at we are all like that, I hope that isn't the case but after so many Bioware games, that's how it feels and that's rather sad. With so many people consuming video games I feel that Bioware is perpetuating a stereotype which is an issue and speaking for myself, as someone who over the years has had people give me the look of being genuinely surprised when i've corrected them in saying that i'm still a virgin because they've assumed I must have had lots of sex based on my sexuality alone (some more of the werido ones which refused to believe me when I tried correcting them). I don't want Bioware to stop making promiscuous characters, I just want them to stop making them ALL that way, especially the men. I ended up romancing Merrill in DA2 out of spite because my only choices where Anders or Fenris
. (though I will admit that she's super cute and sweet with such a nice accent).
Ok, I get where you are coming from. As a gay man, I can strongly relate to stereotyping homosexual "behaviour" in games, and particularly the DA franchise. To an extent it is true that promiscuity seems to accompany some of the Bisexual/Homosexual characters in the games so far. But then again, it is very hard to escape from such a stereotype, mainly because of context. This is a fantasy medieval setting. While it would be nice to depict a proper, "normal" gay character as just a normal human being that seeks meaningful love, it is very, very hard (at least for me) to completely and openly justify it in such a setting. Dragon Age, despite all the dragons and magic and darkspawn and what not, still needs to retain a sense of realism in order to relate to the players. If historical parallels and context are to play any role in this game, then we have to consider the historical parallels in our real world. Medieval times - generally a bad time to go around professing love to people of the same gender (definitely not recommended). Adding to that the fact that gay people are a minority, it becomes harder. In fact, being sexually promiscuous in the past might have made it easier to find other people with the same "interests". While others are dismissing you as a ****** or a gigollo, you are in fact worse (in their eyes), by seeking same-sex love, but you are masking this behaviour with promiscuity. So, in a fantasy setting with monarchy, nobility, fanatical zealots, a class system etc., it must be hard to go about such business openly, not to mention it is rare to find a person with the same inclinations (even in real life).
I actually quite oppose any decisions to make romancable options "player-sexual" or generally bisexual, unless they incorporate a more complex system of romance development in DA:I . With all of the above in mind, I think to have a proper, "normal" gay or lesbian in the game, in a medieval setting, is to have a person that is very reluctant to share anything about personal life or preferences, someone who would make the player sweat to even start a romance - again, because the social context should (I think) be punishing to characters in such a game setting. I know it doesn't sound fun, but for me realism is fun. I would rather have to work to make that handsome hunk/sexy lady open up to my character and "come out", and let the romance flower, than have a promiscuous bisexual hitting on me randomly when my character is just being polite. I don't know how other gay and lesbian players perceive this kind of things, maybe they think having a higher rate of meeting gay and lesbian characters in the game quite realistic. It can be fun, but for me the game world is a reflection of the social mores of the real world, and the real world is a really shitty place to be gay. Apart from North America and Western Europe, the "bastions" of rights and support for LGBTQ people, Eastern Europe and the rest of the world is insanely homophobic. History, especially medieval, is ripe with homophobia. One way to integrate that sort of "gritty" realism into a fantasy game is to make it more complex, to make it harder (but more rewarding for the player) for romancable characters to come out. This is what to me will make Dragon Age a truly complex and satisfying game to play. Of course, turning to the "player-sexual" option is definitely easier, and maybe for now it will be a nice substitute, given how complex the game is already
I don't expect the game to cater to all of my needs and preferences, and I certainly don't mind having less bi/gay/lesbian options.
As long as it's engaging, believable and interesting, I'm happy, even if it doesn't provide me with the "perfect" option, with my prince charming. I accommodate myself to the game and take it for what it is, and hopefully in the future (DA:I maybe?
) we will see romancing becoming more complex and nuanced 