I don't mind it, really. It makes them a very interesting people
And I'm capable of writing/playing Dalish characters with various viewpoints, opinions, and fears. My inquisitor will very much fear and dislike humans; he won't mind "flat-eared" elves much but he will look down his nose at them a bit... until he gets to know them (like Sera). This is the main reason I ship him so passionately with Cullen; I feel a romance with a human who has Cullen's sense of duty and goodness will really confuse him and make him rethink his core beliefs.
However, my second inquisitor, a Dalish mage, is very curious about humans and has nothing against them and will be quite friendly towards Sera, Solas, and any other city elf.
I like that DA gives us the freedom to shape our characters so much.
Yeah, creating a different type of dalish isn't really a problem for me; It's the fact that they might've been changed from a group having different opinions to one that shares a single opinion on human and elves. I don't think making them all extremely antagonist (or racist to CE) is more interesting then making them having different viewpoints in each clan: plus, there's the fact that the TME portrayal is very extreme (or at least the
up to the point that, if 'canon' for every clan, I'd easily believe that they might become a forced villainous group.
Though I recall that it was stated already in DAO that there were clans with not extreme views on humans and CE then the one we met in DAO, so I don't think they retconnetted all of them.