Sister Goldring and Kit - You guys! You're making me blush!
*group hug*
As a heads up to others this isn't super relevant to Cullen so feel free to skip this post. It's more about me being a dork in a professional setting.
I actually had something that reminded me of you when I was at work a few days ago! So background- I was about to go into this group therapy session for troubled teens and it's the first time I'll have met them (and I don't usually work with that age so I'm super nervous.) So I walk in and naturally the very first thing I do is trip over this kids leg (which...I think was intentional on his part lol!) and yell "Sunny Beaches!" Because I know I can't cuss! Which of course led to them rioting with laughter. I kinda just embraced it, smiled and bowed when I got up. The next three hours went back and fourth between hilarious, horrifying, depressing, hilarious again and then concerning lol! I see them twice every week for the next 6 months but man, Hannah, you are a saint! I know chemically teens have fast changing moods (especially those who are bipolar) but the entire mood of the group could shift in half a second! It seemed like one or two kids really lead it which was interesting I do really like them and they are a really hysterical and unique/interesting bunch, But How are you not dying of exhaustion every day? Toddlers are easier for me to handle lol!
Yeah, that sounds... very accurate. Hilarious, horrifying, depressing, hilarious again - yeah. That's how it goes!
How am I not dying of exhaustion? I don't know. I'm a pretty calm and patient person by nature I guess, and they test all my reserves of both some days.
They are tiring, even for me. I try to set pretty clear boundaries and look after my own mental health. I have some tough days. (Like last week when I had a kid in a restraint and he was trying to sink his teeth into my arm, haha!
) But I also find it incredibly rewarding. I guess ultimately my answer is... yes it's exhausting but they're worth it.
I would bet money the kid indeed tripped you on purpose, but your response was perfect!
A little bit of unsolicited advice about the age group which you may take or leave: Most groups of teens do have their ring leaders in my experience, and obviously I would suggest keeping a careful eye on those ones, especially in their interactions with peers who are follower types. However, I would also bet that in your group you have at least one or two quiet instigators who are very good at not appearing be the ones who started the issues but will stir issues up nonetheless. If you spot that happening, don't doubt yourself about what you're seeing and don't hesitate to call them on it - it'll happen quickly, so go with your gut and don't let them get away with it, or the group dynamic can get out of control very very fast.
Thanks for sharing this! It was really interesting to read your perspective on teen mental health. 