Comp-wise. I'm running the recommended graphics card. My quad core is an older one that runs slightly slower than the recommended specs. I have only 5GB of Ram. I can run the game on mostly all high settings and it looks pretty good. I do get some lagging the longer I let it run without shutting it down. If I log out and restart every four hours or so, it generally does pretty good. I have the DX crash to desktop, but I don't think it's directly related to my specs because I've seen both better and worse rigs reported as having the same problem.
As for Cullen, men are very visually oriented creatures. They like what they like in terms of physical appearance, and if something isn't flipping their switches, it isn't going to. That does not mean they don't like or even love whatever it is that isn't doing it for them in the physical attraction department. People these days have a bad habit of trying to conflate love with sex when the two are not the same thing at all. One can be a part of loving relationship, yes, but love itself is quite independent of sex if it wasn't ... think of all the people in your life you genuinely love that you'd be trying to sleep with - parents, grandparents, children, best friends, etc. The world would be a right mess!