So what can we say then, that Cullen is guilty of?
I don't know. The games are insufferably vague about it. And, as others have said, his support of Meredith in DAI is insufficiently addressed when it's not clumsily retconned.
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"The cringe is strong with this one. Because I know lots of people are going to look at this conversation and say, “Wow, look how progressive Cullen is! He doesn’t care that your elf is a mean ol’ Dalish!” Well. My response can just be copied and pasted from the previous #templar tryst.
I dislike how it’s written like Cullen should be considered this upstanding citizen for liking her despite her culture/race. As if it’s a flaw, and he is so graciously making an exception for her. No, ******.
Worse than that, he is exhibiting the equivalent to being “colourblind.” Guess what? Being “colourblind” i.e. “I don’t see race I just see people” and other avoidance is a form of racism!
“I never considered,” says Cullen. So he’s not throwing out slurs like rabbit and knife-ear. But he’s dismissing/invalidating her identity. He doesn’t want to acknowledge it, and as such is equating her background with something negative. (More on colourblindness re: these points can be found in this article.)
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What the...?
1) I never thought "being Dalish" was an inherently bad thing, or that companions are supposed to "recognize" it as such and deign from on high to forgive Lavellan for this grievous fault, like Solas and Sera. What a racist dirtwad Cullen is for not prejudging or thinking less of her for it, or make her feel like he's grown to like her despite her icky, yucky, disgusting Dalishness.
2) To my knowledge, the "Does it bother you that I'm Dalish?" thing doesn't come up unless you're romancing him, right? Based on context, I thought it was Lavellan asking Cullen if her being Dalish would be a problem for him. When he replies, "I never considered," I thought what he meant was he never considered it a problem. He has no problem with her being Dalish.
Granted, you could argue that Cullen is rather naive and thoughtless for not considering the Dalish's strong religious and cultural differences from Andrastians, and for just assuming they'd never need to talk about it. But... I think it's a stretch to condemn him for being racist.
And this is especially yucky in Lavellan’s situation, where everyone around her is constantly trying to assimilate her, turn her into this figure of a religion she does not believe in. And now her LI is doing this too.In comparison, many people give Sera **** for giving the Inquisitor a hard time for being Dalish. But personally I prefer it 100% because she both acknowledges her, and even better, she learns and grows to accept her. She even admits in both LI dialogue and in Trespasser that the problem is more about her than it is with the Dalish; her insecurity about not being a “true elf.” Where Cullen just prefers to ignore it.
.... WHAT?!
1) Literally every companion and adviser except Solas buys the Herald of Andraste thing. Cassandra, Leliana, Josephine, Cullen, Varric, Sera, Blackwall, I could go on. All but Solas sing "The Dawn Will Come" after Haven, most of them exalt you into a religious figure; by Skyhold most of them have either bought the Herald of Andraste thing (especially Varric and Sera) or they stress the importance of you living up to the image because the people believe in you, and if you fail you'll let everyone down. (Heck, apart from Dorian I think only Cullen ever asks you how you feel about the situation, and offers moral support if you feel scared or pressured by the "fate of the world" on your shoulders.)
2) Sera literally tries to tell you after the Temple of Mythal that you can't believe in the elven gods anymore because, "You're the Herald of Andraste! There can't be the Maker and elven gods!" I think that's a more definitive example of "trying to assimilate her, trying to turn her into this figure of a religion she does not believe in" more than the guy who knows you're Dalish and never makes a fuss about it.
3) Sera literally gives a Dalish girlfriend an ultimatum: dump your religion/culture, or get dumped. That's far from "learn[ing] and grow[ing] to accept her." Sera is only appeased when you give her her way, tell her what she wants to hear, and change for her. Yeah, she calms down by Trespasser, but that's two years later, and two years too late as far as I'm concerned. The damage was done; in order to reach that point, you had to change for her.
Contrast to Cullen, whom you can find praying in a chapel but who just calmly explains that simple faith gives him comfort, but never once tries to force you to pray with him or convert for him. And two years later in Trespasesr, when he asks you to marry him, you can ask to give Dalish vows, and he's totally fine with it.
Who is more accepting? The girl who tries to force you to dump your Dalish religion and heritage, or the guy who lets you give Dalish vows at your wedding?
And oh man. “Elves weren’t treated differently in the Circles I served.” JFC I seriously dropped my jaw at the utter bullshit he spouted, threw back my head, and laughed a laugh so salty I may be a 2nd trumpet Seraph.
This person seems very mean-spirited.
Because we know that is the opposite of the truth. Elven mages face discrimination for being elves and for being mages. Both outside and inside the Circle. Kinloch and Kirkwall being no exception, but rather examples. Like he’s not even being ambiguous he is straight-up lying. And people who haven’t played the previous games or read the books don’t even know. It’s cheap cheating!"
It's possible that Cullen honestly never witnessed it, and honestly doesn't know.
It's kept a little vague as to how much discrimination elven mages receive for being elves at Circles, or how overt people are about it. It's possible that Cullen honestly never witnessed someone giving an elven mage grief for being an elf. He might have only ever heard Templars barking things like, "Shut your mouth, mage!" but never "Learn your place, knife-ear!" He might have known mages have their little cliques and hierarchies and pick on each other, but it's possible he never heard humans apprentices saying things like, "I don't take orders from elves" to an elven apprentice.
Again, I chalk this up to benign ignorance, not malicious lies or racism.