Anyway, I don't actually KNOW what happened back at that time, but from what I understand, it basically turned into a fandoms war where users from different threads invaded into other threads and such. I'm sure there was more to it. Also, its not about "You can't complain about other users on the forum, or about what's happened to you.". It's about not doing it in plain sight. When you complain and talk about it in a place where the same users can read what you're posting, it usually only raises animosity and tensions possibly between groups. I would assume that's why we have a 'If you see someone doing something you think is harmful or against the rules, simply report it instead of getting into a fight.' The mods already frown on bringing up issues from one thread into others as well.
I find it more an issue of "misunderstandings happen." Often times when an argument gets started, each side perceives the other side as having made an egregious statement that started everything. Not that this is unexpected... when I say something I have full context of what I mean but only my impressions of what the other person means.
But to borrow you for the sake of everyone else:
Imagine HiroVoid and I are in a thread. I make a comment regarding my love of Cassandra because she is great and awesome. HiroVoid chimes in with a sassy "I can't stand chantry lovers" because he is sending a not-serious jab in my direction. Now, I read this differently than he intends, and take it as him calling me a chantry lover when oh my goodness that's not true. Cassandra is a seeker yo, and that's different than the chantry and the one good thing. His sass is misinterpreted by me, and in a different thread I make a comment "Man did you see that crazy guy that called me a chantry lover!? I can't believe that!" Now I'm saying this because I think it's clear I like the Seekers, but not the Chantry. But HiroVoid happens upon this post, sees me refer to him as crazy, and with the flippant "I can't believe that" ends up inferring that I must think he's stupid for thinking that. Things escalate, threads get invaded, ohhhhh my.
Now my example is made up and I tried to make it a bit on the silly side (no harm I hope HiroVoid! 
), but it's just sort of an example on how neither of us really did anything wrong aside from interpreting each other's posts incorrectly and things end up escalating.
I'll agree Cullen fans are often a target, simply because Cullen has been confirmed and there's been a decent sized group that's been a fan of his for quite some time now. Some don't understand, or don't like Cullen or whatever, and they act inappropriately. If you find yourself experiencing something like this in this thread or others, write up a report and ignore that poster. If you feel you're being bullied and need/want to talk to Cullen friends (or anyone else) I actually don't have any problems with that. It can be useful, especially to get a second opinion on a post's context, to discuss something like that. If you absolutely need a second opinion on a reaction and can't find anyone, by all means send me a PM. I do want people to feel safe, but I also want to make sure that miscommunications don't end up escalating (because I've seen it happen and romance/LI content has exploded in the past). People are human and they're going to make mistakes and sometimes what I intend as a joke just doesn't come across that way at all. Heck, I know that I have angered posters because in trying to stop an inappropriate tangent from starting up in one thread, I framed my warning with poor word choice which ended up offending someone, even though that wasn't my intent.
The mods already frown on bringing up issues from one thread into others as well.
I don't really see an issue with Cullen fans doing this, but there are posters that I know have histories with one another and simply by having one poster post in a thread well tend to have that poster's adversaries come in and often old baggage gets brought up and its instant thread derailment. My standard MO for this is to tell the users to put each other on ignore.
In any case, I think this has already escalated more than I intended. My context was that the thread often was already weaving in and out of topic (at one point I thought I clicked on the tab for the Cole thread), making me realize that this was in a lot of ways "A thread for fans of Cullen" (which I don't really have a problem with. It's a positive thread with a lot of people and posts in it) which made me realize "People could come to this thread for incidents that happen outside of this thread and it could cause a problem in the event of misunderstandings."
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We LOVE your sarcastic brain and no more blaming yourself for anything.
