Yep. I get the "Girls can't play video games message" more than I care to.
Xbox Live is so annoying.
You should check out #1ReasonWhy on twitter.
Also, since you're on bed rest, here's some good videos for you to watch.
This is a great panel headed by David Gaider at GDC last year, talking about sex, sexuality and representation in video games. There is some neat history behind BioWare's inclusion of romances as well.
http://www.gdcvault....96/Sex-in-Video
This panel was headed by Manveer Heir (he's on the ME team,) this year.
http://www.gdcvault....omophobia-Where
Enjoy hun and stay cool.