I wonder what sort of writing guidance the give about that sort of thing.
Does David lead new romance writers to the back room, crack his knuckles, cackle to himself, and then say “Take notes, this is how you make them suffer!”… or does he just hold forth in the middle of the writers' pit?
Maybe this is just my innate bias speaking, but all the FemShep male LI's seemed... passive? Submissive? The subordinate aspect is hard to avoid when you are The Commander, of course, but they were also all pretty much 'the woman must initiate any and all interest and activity.' I can't recall any in which the man took a leading roll in the romance at any stage- all the control and all the pacing was in Shepards. It all seemed so very heavy on the emphasis of being... safe? Controlled?
I wonder to what extend they don’t want male companions in general to threaten the coolness/authority of the PC. Kaiden feels like a safe, generic romance, but he’s also a safe, generic dude in general.
A gender flipped Miranda could be seen as more threatening (genetically perfect, highly intelligent, always in control) to the presumed male Shepard. And Mass Effect is blatant about it being a power fantasy.
Which isn't a problem, mind you. It's not even a dynamic that's unique to FemShep: male Shep has it to varying degrees as well. But I seem to recall some of the female LI's showing more initiative in parts of the romance. Liara (can we count her?) shows interest in you regardless, even if you don't want her to. Miranda definitely has a dominant position and role in her romance climax. Tali... kind of does? I'm not sure how much of what she says and does in ME2 should be construed as part of her crush, since it's application to FemShep is vague.
I believe the ME writing staff was all male originally. It may be as simple as them having specific tastes in women while only having a more general nice-guyish idea of what would appeal to women.
And I’d say that Liara counts. The ME team has said several times that VanderShep is their personal vision of the character.
I always wondered if it was because of concerns of how an assertive male LI might come across.
That might be it.