I think she feigned innocence with Wynne a bit, too. Like her story of the Orlesian woman tying knots in cherries with her tongue.
There is no way she didn't really see the innuendo in that. :S
I know where you're going with this, but really... It doesn't seem weird to me that they would have no regard for the dignity of their prisoners. There's a reason people are squicked by the play acting: it's not that easy to tell from the real thing at a glance.
Yeah, but much like the Cailan problem, that Bann's son being on the torture rack with a raging hard-on is more than a little distracting.

I will also never forget Alistair completely unsubtly staring at my Warden's butt as she proceeded to beat the snot out of that guard and busted them out of Fort Drakon in the nude. That's right, I know where you were lookin, mate...seriously, the cutscene had his eyes completely not on eye level. *shifty*
...ah, modding.