In Kotor we only had 1 option for each gender. Nobody whined about it.
Look, here's the deal:
In Bioware games, there have been exactly 60 romances (not counting "flings") over 10 games. Here are the romance stats:
Straight male characters (female only romances): 20
Straight female characters (male only romances): 25
Bisexual male characters (male and female romances): 5
Bisexual female characters (male and female romances): 7
Gay male characters (male only romance): 1
Lesbian female characters (female only romance): 2 (I chose to include Juhani)
That means that out of 60 love interests:
* straight male players have had access to 32 out of 34 females (94% of romanceable females; 53% of all romanceable characters)
* straight female players have had access to 25 out of 26 males (96% of romanceable males; 42% of all romanceable characters)
* lesbian players have had access to 14 out of 34 females (41% of romanceable females; 23% of all romanceable characters)
* gay male players have had access to 6 out of 26 males (23% of romanceable males; 10% of all romanceable characters)
With these stats, it's not unsurprising that people are concerned about equitable distribution. It hasn't been equitable up until DA 2. It's also no surprise to me that straight male players are the ones most likely to say "deal with it", when they have access to 94% of all females and over half of all romanceable characters in total. Perhaps, those people who do get more options should recognize that and have some empathy for those of use who rarely get access to romance content.