Argh,,,,this shouldnt be the topic for this..but oh well...
1. You sound like Anders; The Circle isn't so bad. Even Bethany wrote home saying that if you behave its actually sort of nice; she doesn't have to run or hide anymore and she is with people like her. Only one Templar scared her.
And you sound like a Templar . Bethany never wanted Magic that is where the difference lie . Bethany wanted a normal life , to be normal and not be a burden on anyone due to her magic . Anders , wanted to be free and still be a mage . It is kinda hypocrite to use Bethany (dont use my sister you!) as an exemple since she is different . One could say : Why can't she teach anyway since she has no desire of using her power ? Thats where the issue reside . The fear the templar/chantry have make one like bethany have no life . Cose she is busy Hiding for something she didn't ask for or want to . It doesn't compare at all..
2. Mages have been protected by the Templars as well as "imprisoned". While imprisoned, they are also given fine food, clothes, shelter, education, and protection. They live better lives than commoners, barring the occasional demonic outbreak like Ferelden.
They may live better life , but they can't go anywhere , have childrens of their owns , see their family or even have relationship . So wait , if I have to choose between all the 'good' you are providing versus my free will ? Hum..I take free will . Thanx . (And plz don't make the trade off as something awesome cose it isn't . Peoples been fighting for their free will for eons , and no amount of goods , food , items , and nothing can make up for losing one free will) .
3. Many mages are evil people. Look at Tevinter; Enough said. If you truly think that allowing mages freedom WON'T create a land where the strong rule the weak and innocents are sacrificed to entertain nobles with Blood Magic then... Look at Tevinter.
Many humans in Thedas are evil . We should just lock everyone up , since when an innocent die...what matter is that an innocent die right ? Or do you measure the worth of an innocent dying ? Aka: Oh innocent dying by hand of a mage is more important then an innocent dying by the hand of a Pirate ?
The Tevinter is a poor exemple . You cannot Judge and condamn new generations of mages because of some evil-doer of the past . That reek fears ! Even if the Tevinter still exist...you still can't . It is not right and not fair . And those who are afraid..shouldn't be in a position of giving order and deciding who should be Judged safe or dangerous .
4. Wynne had a child. With a Templar. She got to see him again.
After he was a grown Adult...yeah right .
7. Not true... Just like how Anders loves to say "You can't blame one mages actions on all of us!" the same goes for that Ser Alrik dude. He died. And Meredith and the Divine thought he was insane too.
Actually you can . Why ? Because the Mage arent the one doing the oppressing . Meredith did some execution of mage in the circle of her own......
And even if they though he was insane , they didnt investigate him. They just turned his idea of a Tranquil solution down . He still was doing horrible things and none bothered to keep an eye on him or see if he would pursue the matter illegaly on his own . They failed their oaths . They shouldnt be in charge or condamn others .
8. They are allowed outside. Anders ruined it for everyone by trying to escape. Finn didn't like going outside anyways. There is a courtyard even in the Gallows where mages can walk around. By comparison, most schools only allow kids 1 hour a day outside anyways. IRL prisoners get more time.
They are allowed outside . In comparison with the 2 exemple you gave : 1)Kid at the end of the day go home to his family . 2)The Prison is for peoples who commited a crime so they are in prison for a reason . 3) Mage don't go home at the end of the day, and commited no crime to be locked up .
Again..free will taken away....on reason cose of..and cose of....
6. The Harrowing is performed when they are more than kids. Like it or not; You HAVE to deal with demons as a mage, after training mages to defend themselves they give them a chance to truly defend against a demon in a controlled environment. Do you have a better idea? Like, just expect all mages to be strong enough to resist a demon? That could never go wrong, I'm sure... I'm 17 myself, when I get behind a car I know I am a danger to others and need to control myself otherwise the car loses control and people die. Same thing for mages.
Uldrine was a mage who did his Harrowing and passed with success , then he stayed in the circle . Didn't stop his magic go wonker when he tried to stage a coup against the templar and he turned into a Pride demon . Therefor that tell me , the whole Harrowing is a joke and doesn't work . So all those mages who 'failed' their harrowing...what that make them ? innocent? hum..no.....cose they are evil right ?
10. Punished for not resisting temptation: Yes, absolutely. Emile was a loser; that's what he didn't do the thing other mages did. Alchohol isn't banned I don't think, since its fermented most people drank wine so they never got sick from diseases in water.
Right.....so why shouldn't that apply to the Templar ? since they can fall to lyrium addiction as well ? Being a zealot is an addiction as well you know that right ? therefor...anyone who preach and preach the maker name is an addict and should be punished . Many things in the world of Thedas can become a tentation and an addiction . Should we start killing peoples or lock them up because of that as well ?
11. Yeah, so? Run away like Anders' and you'll be caught and punished. Behave like Wynne and other mages and you'll be granted tons of extra rights. Wynne traveled the world basically, she asked to leave and the Knight Commander ssaid "Sure."
Sorry , I never abide by that . Peoples are born FREE . And no amount of abomination gonna change my mind about the treatement or this 'circle perfect solution' they are offering .
12. Anders is a liar then; the Ferelden circle was extremely lax. So lax, that the mages rebelled anyways and killed everyone. Whiny emos like Anders might find it difficult, but everyone else doesn't. Or a tleast they didn't until people like Anders force the Templars to become stricter.
Well thats what you get for putting peoples in a cage..and expect them to behave . Serve the Templar right 
Some peoples accept their fates and rise in watever they are given . It doesn't make the whole circle run by templar any perfect . It just mean one person succeeded in this setting . Many do not want it , many will not succeed , and many are killed in the harrowing cose some idiot templar said so .
Ah the Tevinter again...man.....that scare you that much huh ? And of course , you can't think of better then either be imprisoned or be a tevinter ?
I don't know about you ! but when I played my mage in DAO . And I had to ask for a Boon , I sure like hell didn't Ask King Alistair : let me start my Tevinter Empire !! I asked for the circle to have the freedom to be run by mages without chantry and Templar interference . And they said NO . So yeah , controle freak !! If the mages were sooo respected..they would be running the circle themself with rules (maybe less restrictions) and give them the trust they have been trying to earn . But we know that the chantry and Mage are hypocrite . The whole 'behave like Wynn and you may get a cookie' . It is bullshit !! and you know it . The mage dont want respect , they want to be FREE . the first enchanter want to run the damn circle with their own peoples without zealot or pending 'im gonna kill ya cose maker said so' over their heads .
Even this you cant conceive.....so , if the Mages ever turn to Tevinter . Remember this: The Chantry and zealot templar pushed them to be one , not cose they wanted to be .
One Anders who is blind...VS a whole Organisation of Templars who are blind . Take your pick !