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[myahele]

Kinda like shale and Stens banter? Sure! Overall, I think Ironbull may fit that description of an Asexual romance.

[Flowingchesthair]

Kinda like shale and Stens banter? Sure! Overall, I think Ironbull may fit that description of an Asexual romance.

 

Iron Bull? Doesn't he "jump into bed with anyone he's reasonably sure he won't break?"

[bairdduvessa]

Not trying to be mean or something, but what's the difference between an asexual romance and a really close platonic friendship?

different emotions and chemical triggers

[Nefla]

different emotions and chemical triggers

  

Romantic feelings.   That's it. Everything a sexual person would feel for their significant other besides the sexual desire. I mean, there are differences between your friendships and your romantic relationships besides having sex, right? (I mean, you can have sex with your friends, but that's still not what makes a romatnic relationship romantic.)

I guess I don't understand what a romantic feeling is. I always thought it was a combination of love and lust >.<

[XMissWooX]

Really, I would just like an option for the PC to turn down sexual propositions. Just a single line of dialogue saying "I wouldn't feel comfortable doing that".
If the LI is fine with that, then the romance continues as normal, only without the sex scene playing (and I suppose any future references to their sleeping together would need to be omitted too).
If the LI isn't fine with that (which would be understandable), then have it followed by a quick conversation where the LI tells the player so and ends the romance.
It just would be a little better than having to use headcanon to pretend it didn't happen.

And as for an asexual LI - I would like to see one but I can understand that it may simply be too much to include and some players may not like it. I would say, however, that if Bioware did ever decice to have one in their games, I would fully support it.

[bairdduvessa]

   I guess I don't understand what a romantic feeling is. I always thought it was a combination of love and lust >.<

romance does not always equal lust.  asexuals can still long for certain types of companionship, but sex is not needed or necessary minus a few variables.

romantic feelings are things like butterflies in your stomach when you think of some one.  the giddy feelings you get when you hear them laugh.  or even the comfort that comes form knowing some one a long time.  the difference is 9.9 times out of 10, you have no need or want to see that person naked or exchange bodily fluids with them. 

it is something very difficult to describe.

a friend of mine who is asexual, has a boy friend who is very much hetero sexual.  they are coming into conflict now around his desire for sex, keep in mind they have been together for years, and have acted as such.  but she never instigates it since she doesn't want it, it isn't a driving force for her.

 

i have refused potential partners, because i have no interest in sexual encounters.  however some of my closest friends are females i do have romantic feelings for, but it doesn't go past the desire to hold hands (even that is a big deal for me since i hate being touched), or even just laugh with.

 

basically it is like being an old married couple, all the animal passion isn't there (or is rarely there depending on the people) but you still want to be there with them, and experience them in ways far beyond sexual coupling.

 

and there are differences, i have female friends that i have no romantic feelings for, and some i do.  the differences are not something you can view externally.  it is an eternal process.

 

it is still just as beautiful but the libido isn't there.  which takes a lot of stress off and lets things flower naturally.

[ohnotherancor]

I enjoyed how the Warden could turn down sexual propositions in DA:O and still continue romantic relationships. DA2 allowed no such possibility, and the follow-up dialogs essentially eliminated any ambiguity as to what had just occurred.
 

I'd basically like the option to turn down sexytimes without it ending the relationship.

[Nefla]

romance does not always equal lust.  asexuals can still long for certain types of companionship, but sex is not needed or necessary minus a few variables.

romantic feelings are things like butterflies in your stomach when you think of some one.  the giddy feelings you get when you hear them laugh.  or even the comfort that comes form knowing some one a long time.  the difference is 9.9 times out of 10, you have no need or want to see that person naked or exchange bodily fluids with them. 

it is something very difficult to describe.

a friend of mine who is asexual, has a boy friend who is very much hetero sexual.  they are coming into conflict now around his desire for sex, keep in mind they have been together for years, and have acted as such.  but she never instigates it since she doesn't want it, it isn't a driving force for her.

 

i have refused potential partners, because i have no interest in sexual encounters.  however some of my closest friends are females i do have romantic feelings for, but it doesn't go past the desire to hold hands (even that is a big deal for me since i hate being touched), or even just laugh with.

 

basically it is like being an old married couple, all the animal passion isn't there (or is rarely there depending on the people) but you still want to be there with them, and experience them in ways far beyond sexual coupling.

 

and there are differences, i have female friends that i have no romantic feelings for, and some i do.  the differences are not something you can view externally.  it is an eternal process.

 

it is still just as beautiful but the libido isn't there.  which takes a lot of stress off and lets things flower naturally.

Thank you for taking the time to explain to me, I admit I am not very cultured or emotionally complex

[bairdduvessa]

Thank you for taking the time to explain to me, I admit I am not very cultured or emotionally complex

no worries, most people do not even realize things like this exist.  never mind what each "new" sexuality not discussed in sex ed is.  hell i have trouble telling the difference between pan and omni sexuals.

 

just remember that sexuality is not a fixed point on a straight line, it is more like fluid going down a set of rapids.

[RenAdaar]

I'm just not seeing the point. Even if asexuals are comparable to the homosexuals, the numbers argument is irrelevant; there are a variety of fetishes out there enjoyed by a great number of people - BDSM, for instance - that receive no representation in the DA series.

Asexuality isn't a fetish though.

[RenAdaar]

 

 

That comic is amazing

[RenAdaar]

As is your BSN profile pic. You have forever ruined Solas for me hehe.

Excellent   

[thats1evildude]

Asexuality isn't a fetish though.

Not really seeing why that matters.

[CrimsonN7]

I think there are too many sexuality "titles" these days..

Word

 

Srsly our community at times SMH.

[Deviija]

I'd love to see an ace romance.  

[meganbytez]

an asexual romance would be cool i think. i dunno i dnt personally think its that far out there. it'd just be a romance with no sex. 

[Uccio]

No thanks. It's like buying a car with three wheels. You will not get far with it. I want my romances with sexy time.

[Fox In The Box]

Basically yes evidently.

Nope.

 

I don't mean to be cruel, but I'm an asexual person and I don't feel at all that a romantic partner is just "a good friend". As far as game options go, would it be such a terrible burden for a PC to be able to decline sex and still be able to continue the romance? It was perfectly possible in DAO.

[Bayonet Hipshot]

BSN = Bioware's Sexuality Network. 

 

[thearbiter1337]

How would a Asexual romance work, I thought they didn't have a attraction to anyone

[Phate Phoenix]

How would a Asexual romance work, I thought they didn't have a attraction to anyone

 

We can feel a romantic attraction to people, just not a sexual one. 

[Nocte ad Mortem]

I would like to see an asexual romance and I'd also like to see a polyamorous romance, but I feel like it's kind of unlikely, because other people would be mad it would take up a slot. I guess I used to feel the same about adding gay (not bi) romances, though. So, maybe it will happen!   

[Phate Phoenix]

I would like to see an asexual romance and I'd also like to see a polyamorous romance, but I feel like it's kind of unlikely, because other people would be mad it would take up a slot. I guess I used to feel the same about adding gay (not bi) romances, though. So, maybe it will happen!   

 

Yeah, this is true. I mean, people were angry when it came out that Sebastian was (somewhat) chaste. I still hear complaints about that. If, say, Solas were an asexual option, ugh. People would be so mad. [SIGH] On the other hand, I think a polyamorous romantic plot could work out. An established couple was suggested on the board for such an LI track, and I think that would work pretty good.