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*insert my much used comment about empathy and how some people are actually able to feel it even for fictional characters and how it's a good thing here*
Oh come on? Really? You have to feel sorry for a bunch of zero and ones cause he was designed to have a hard life?
Re: Cortez
I think the problem that bothers people is something that's risen up in past Bioware characters: "Carth Syndrome" A character who's lost a loved one and has trouble moving on. It's not unique to sexuality, it's just something that's practically become a trope.
Losing a loved one is incredibly painful, and it's no surprise that someone can not notice the world falling apart around them as they dwell in their own personal hell.
Personally, I had no problem with it. Steve is a cool character. Though perhaps that was a rather overused plot device.
A excellent point. Bioware really love reusing old ideas like this and "three/four seperate pieces of "X" to defeat the evil doer"
. I say this because if he'd been heterosexual, and carried on like that about his wife, you'd have had the same reaction to his character, right? If not, why not?
Wouldn't that mean that it was more the inclusion of a gay character that bothered you, than the inclusion of a character that expressed grief at the loss of a loved one?
I suppose, since being gay is literally half of Cortez's character, the other half split between "pilot" and "Crying" I can't fully say I am ignoring it with my criticism of his character
What pissed me off was he's one of the first openly gay and only gay, not bisexual, bioware characters ignoring MMO's, and the fact that he is gay and you REALLY have to know that pisses me off. Gay people aren't that different from straight people, but if bioware write them, they have to constantly mention the fact they are gay and that is all they are as a person.
And it's poor writing to make a characters central point entirely about another character.
But that's just my opinion, no need to go spreading it around.
Sexism and racism can overlap, they can both be experienced by the same person but they are not the same thing.
And you want proof of sexism in gaming?
Do I really need to say her name and the reaction she got for having an opinion?
Or how about the fact that developers are told flat out that they can't have a female protagonist and it has to be a dude? That the devs of the Last of Us had to actually argue to have Ellie on the cover of the game.
Why do you think the #womenaretoohardtoanimate tag has cropped up on twitter? Out of nothing? No, because some backwards cretin decided women are too much effort to put into leading roles, despite the fact that the devs behind Blacklight Retribution have female models in their game and have said it's not that hard and relatively cheap to do. The team behind Unity actually expected to get away with that. An excuse that plenty of people have ripped apart already.
Another tag is #1reasonwhy, which is a collective of experiences women have had in the gaming industry.
But I suppose every single one of them is just blowing things out of proportion, right? 
Keep in mind that constant little aggressions eventually pile up into big ones. It is a problem and dudes trying to bluster and wave it away aren't helping. They're part of the problem and they are part of why it's staying a problem.
Okay. I'm annoyed at people who mention female assasin in Unity.
I dislike assassin creed, but it's fully within a creators right for them to decide what to do with a game so long as it's not actually offensive. The lack of a female main character is not insulting anyone. No previous Assassin creeds have had selectable characters, why should they start here?
And adding a new female character IS difficult.
Firstly, you have to have concept art. that take several weeks and costs money.
You also have to record and write several new lines. That costs a lot of money depending on who you get to voice.
You have to model a female assassin. You have to texture it. you have to bugtest and bugtest and bugtest.
This costs a lot of money and time.
You know that one female french assassin people mention? She stabbed a old man with a knife, caught caught and executed. Not exactly great gameplay.
Men don't ask for a Male Lara Croft.
Women don't ask for a female Solid Snake.
EDIT: Also forgot to mention, holy sheet did I derail this thread badly. Sorry OP.