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[Grieving Natashina]

I have had this happen a couple times, while at the same time dismissing that my bisexuality was even a real thing.  When I insisted I am, in fact, "a real bisexual person," and am resistant to the idea of being "converted," then it's clearly a sign that I'm not bi but actually gay.      

I had someone tell me once.  "See, being bi is just a phase.  If you marry a man, then you're straight.  If you marry a woman, then you're a lesbian.  You can't be both, you're just confused."   

 

 

This has happened to an Asexual friend of mine as well, and also a lesbian friend. I have always wondered why some guys think that their Dc is so great it can change someone...

It isn't just guys though...

[LilyasAvalon]

I'm sorry, I have to disagree with that list. Iron Bull and Solas will be LI's before Varric is.

[Basement Cat]

This has happened to an Asexual friend of mine as well, and also a lesbian friend. I have always wondered why some guys think that their Dc is so great it can change someone...

Asexuals face some pretty nasty prejudice, even if it is well-meaning. Most people assume they were abused or traumatised in some way. Gee, thanks for assuming there is something wrong with me. People have a hard time accepting sexual attraction to the same sex, but no sexual attraction at all? Woo, run for cover!

 

One thing that annoys me is the perception that bisexuals can't be faithful, or that if they form a steady relationship with either gender they are somehow not bisexual anymore because they "chose". I even heard someone say that it's not right to identify as bisexual if you have a steady partner because it's "unfair to them". Dafuq?

 

Let's not even get into homoromantic asexuality. I've seen people's brains leak out of their noses at that one.

[Grieving Natashina]

 

One thing that annoys me is the perception that bisexuals can't be faithful, or that if they form a steady relationship with either gender they are somehow not bisexual anymore because they "chose". I even heard someone say that it's not right to identify as bisexual if you have a steady partner because it's "unfair to them". Dafuq?

 

Well, I can throw that bolded phrase onto the list of "Dumb Crap Some People Say to Bisexuals."  

 

If you don't mind me asking, what's the logic behind that?

 

Oh and as far as asexuality, I try not to assume anything about it.  I have been reading and trying to learn more about it though.  

[Samahl]

If you don't mind me asking, what's the logic behind that?

Clearly it's unfair because the chances of you lusting after someone other than them is multiplied by however many factors of other genders you like!

[Basement Cat]

Well, I can throw that bolded phrase onto the list of "Dumb Crap Some People Say to Bisexuals."  

 

If you don't mind me asking, what's the logic behind that?

 

Oh and as far as asexuality, I try not to assume anything about it.  I have been reading and trying to learn more about it though.  

You do realise it's not me who said that? Somebody said that to me. I was complaining about people being stupid, not being stupid myself (I hope.)

[Grieving Natashina]

You do realise it's not me who said that? Somebody said that to me. I was complaining about people being stupid, not being stupid myself (I hope.)

No no, I wasn't saying you said that.  I'm so sorry if you misunderstood me!

 

I figured that was something that was said to you.  I was wondering what their logic (if any given) was to for saying it was "unfair." 

[Basement Cat]

No no, I wasn't saying you said that.  I'm so sorry if you misunderstood me!

 

I figured that was something that was said to you.  I was wondering what their logic (if any given) was to for saying it was "unfair." 

No harm done. I was just thrown by you asking me to explain their logic. I guess people are just insecure about being cheated on and if you're bi you have twice the opportunity? That would be my guess.

[Grieving Natashina]

No harm done. I was just thrown by you asking me to explain their logic. I guess people are just insecure about being cheated on and if you're bi you have twice the opportunity? That would be my guess.

Ah, much of the same crap just a new wording.  Gotcha.  <hugs>

[XxPrincess(x)ThreatxX]

One thing that annoys me is the perception that bisexuals can't be faithful

I know this feeling well, my ex GF who ended up being my longest relationship was extremely paranoid that id cheat or that id leave for the 1st guy i found attractive, took months to get her over that. I always find it sad that ive had more mistrust & hate from fellow LGBT people then homophobic straight people

[Grieving Natashina]

I know this feeling well, my ex GF who ended up being my longest relationship was extremely paranoid that id cheat or that id leave for the 1st guy i found attractive, took months to get her over that. I always find it sad that ive had more mistrust & hate from fellow LGBT people then homophobic straight people

Same, but that makes me thankful for the LGBT community on the forums.  For the most part, they don't treat us with crap and with disrespect.  

[AkiKishi]

Life is not moderated.

[Deviija]

 

This has happened to an Asexual friend of mine as well, and also a lesbian friend. I have always wondered why some guys think that their Dc is so great it can change someone...

 

"Not All Men!"

 

 

 

I had someone tell me once.  "See, being bi is just a phase.  If you marry a man, then you're straight.  If you marry a woman, then you're a lesbian.  You can't be both, you're just confused."   

 

 You're just confused.  It's just a phase.  If you marry someone opposite sex, you're straight/If you marry someone same-sex, you're gay.  The list, I could go on for quite a while.  I empathize, and sympathize.  I've been there and back again too.  

 

Things that make me even more grateful to have Dragon Age and Thedas for what they are, where I don't need to encounter these kind of stereotypes and harmful misconceptions.  

 

[RebelishGirl(New)]

Not sure if this is what I think it will be or what I want it to be xD

This is IF the character is LI what I would think they could be romanced with 

 

Cullen: Straight (All races or minus dwarf)

The Iron Bull: Bi (Qunari/Human/elf) I think the race restriction is because of how different models they are and just imagine a dwarf and qunari XD
Solas: .. ... I DON'T KNOW T_T
Dorian: Bi (all races) <----- wishful thinking AT IT'S BEST

Varric: Straight (Dwarf female only)

Blackwall: no romance (?) It feels like he wouldn't want to start a romance because he feels his end is near or something (IF ROMANCE, straight, all races)

Cole: no romance (IF romance then BI I guess.) I don't remember the book telling his sexual orientation

 

Cassandra: Bi (All races?) Well Cassandra is a romantic at heart so~ Here's to hope!
Vivienne : Straight (all races)
Scribbles: Straight (all except dwarf) for some reason
Sera (Lesbian, all races) better work with Qunari female!

Leliana: No romance

 

 

A lot of romance options would be great. I'd say all female are romanceable to some degree except Leliana of course. Then I guess because there are more male that would make two non-romanceable guys (three if you count Varric only liking female dwarfs)

 

It feels like humans should be OK with all races but we never know if some characters have past with that race or something

[Basement Cat]

Mmh, the potential for love triangles is going to be sorely limited in this game. Pity, that always makes for entertaining banter.

 

Oh, and Varric is Bianca-sexual. Romance is impossible. 

[Battlebloodmage]

He has a very traditional gay male look, too, with that mustache. It's old-fashioned, but it's a distinct look belonging to a distinct community and period in time. 

 

I don't want him to be the m/m LI because I'm not into him, but to be honest, a ton of guys seem to dig him, and I don't want to deny them their favorite LI, so for that reason I'd be totally okay with him being m/m only.

 

So long as my inquisitor gets Cullen   

 

Lies, mustache is a proof of straightness, it's practically a wedding ring.

[Basement Cat]

Lies, mustache is a proof of straightness, it's practically a wedding ring.

Oh really?

 

[Brian ofthe Dialogue Wheel]

Oh really?

 

See, productive, redblooded Americans, showing the heterosexual diversity we've come to know and love.

[jlb524]

For me, Silk Fox was BioWare's first same-sex romance for women.

It's kinda unfair given I know some people at BioWare really had to push to get this conversation in but I could never trigger it.

 

The first time I got this dialog (completely by accident, ofc) it didn't occur to me that it was romance related.  I thought she wanted to be bffs 4 life or something.

[Tootles FTW]

If I meet a woman on the street, what is the likeliest thing that I will think? That she is cute, and is straight. Until she turns me down, she can't be a lesbian.

 

Why do I have a feeling you probably know an inordinate amount of "lesbians"?

 

Anyhoodly - I think more than most of the companions will not be race-gated.  Still think Dorian is the gay option.

[Finnn62]

I think more than most of the companions will not be race-gated.

 

I'd like to believe that, too. Hopefully. We will see

[Brian ofthe Dialogue Wheel]

Why do I have a feeling you probably know an inordinate amount of "lesbians"?

 

Anyhoodly - I think more than most of the companions will not be race-gated.  Still think Dorian is the gay option.

I read your name as "Toot-less" at first. Just throwing that out there.