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[KBomb]

for your story i get it, but if thats a view on real life, i feel sorry for you

Why would you feel sorry for him for not wanting children? Having children isn't a driven need or desire for a lot of people. 

[Schreckstoff]

Why would you feel sorry for him for not wanting children? Having children isn't a driven need or desire for a lot of people.

Why wouldn't you?

[KBomb]

Why wouldn't you?

I really hope this was a jocular question. If not, the answer is simple. Some people have goals in life that do not include having children. Having kids is an enormous responsibility and not to mention expensive. Some may want to spend their life traveling, or focus on a career. Not everyone likes kids. Not everyone wants to be responsible for a pet, let alone another human being for the rest of their life. There are lots of reasons. None of which require an explanation, tbh. 

[Mr.House]

Why is there no babies? Simple. No one wants a rehash of the inventory baby fiasco from BG2.

[Hanako Ikezawa]

I see no good reason it shouldn't be an option at least. 

[Afro_Explosion]

A pregnancy scare could work in a romance.

[Mr.House]

I see no good reason it shouldn't be an option at least. 

Headcanon, there you go.

[Hanako Ikezawa]

Headcanon, there you go.

No. There should be an ingame option. I see no good reason why there shouldn't. 

[Mr.House]

No. There should be an ingame option. I see no good reason why there shouldn't. 

Inventory baby. 

[Hanako Ikezawa]

Inventory baby. 

Are you offering a way they can do it, or a reason why you think they shouldn't? 

[ladyoflate]

As an ending option, yeah it should be an option. IDK how to make it your choice tho (which is very important, esp for a female PC) without making the dialogue hella clunky, as it would have to be one conversation to keep the rest of the romance consistent between kids/no kids people.

[n7stormrunner]

Are you offering a way they can do it, or a reason why you think they shouldn't? 

 

 

the fact you have to ask that scares me.

[Wolfen09]

Why would you feel sorry for him for not wanting children? Having children isn't a driven need or desire for a lot of people. 

 

but to say it would wreck an entire relationship is terrible, you could always get an abortion, but to say everything that you had with that person up until this point goes out the window is just a cowardly way to live and its pretty sad to see people think like that

[ladyoflate]

Just cause morning after pills don't exist in the normal sense, doesn't mean there aren't herbs and other things back in medieval times to pervent such.

 
Tansy as an irl herb springs to mind. You have to be careful with the dosage, tho. Birth control and abortifacents have existed and been used for all of human history, and abortion has only come under fire in the last century. Even for super religious peasants and the like it was useful and common.
 

but to say it would wreck an entire relationship is terrible, you could always get an abortion, but to say everything that you had with that person up until this point goes out the window is just a cowardly way to live and its pretty sad to see people think like that

They didn't say that, though. And even if they had, having kids is huge. Life-changing. And if it's your spawn, you should have to support it at least partially monetarily (mother or father, before anyone rants at me and causes me to rant back, but I will say it's complicated), but that doesn't mean you want to change your life up entirely to parent it.
 

You may love someone, but you might not want to move across the world to stay with them. Having a kid is like that, but moreso.

 

And having an abortion is not remotely the same thing as having a kid? Like that's the entire point. Getting pregnant does not mean having a child.

[Wolfen09]

 
 

They didn't say that, though. And even if they had, having kids is huge. Life-changing. And if it's your spawn, you should have to support it at least partially monetarily (mother or father, before anyone rants at me and causes me to rant back, but I will say it's complicated), but that doesn't mean you want to change your life up entirely to parent it.
 

You may love someone, but you might not want to move across the world to stay with them. Having a kid is like that, but moreso.

 

And having an abortion is not remotely the same thing as having a kid? Like that's the entire point. Getting pregnant does not mean having a child.

 

read the original post, it says it "wrecks his romance."  it has nothing to do with raising the kid or being a bad parent, its about saying having a kid is what ruins your relationship with that person.  I understand people not wanting to have kids, but to say it destroys any romantic relationship seems kind of harsh to me.

[KBomb]

but to say it would wreck an entire relationship is terrible, you could always get an abortion, but to say everything that you had with that person up until this point goes out the window is just a cowardly way to live and its pretty sad to see people think like that

He said it would wreck his romance in-game. He stated he didn't want kids in life or in-game. That being said, it's idealistic to think that a pregnancy unplanned or not--can't wreck a relationship. Especially if one of the duo does not want children. Having children can be taxing even for the strongest of relationships. Even if you're pro-choice, abortions aren't something that most people take lightly. The stress from the emotional and physical strain can still weigh down a relationship until it snaps. 

 

We're kind of getting off-topic here. Just saying that it's never that simple. Some people don't want the responsibility or stress of offspring and there isn't anything cowardly or sad about that.

[ladyoflate]

read the original post, it says it "wrecks his romance."  it has nothing to do with raising the kid or being a bad parent, its about saying having a kid is what ruins your relationship with that person.  I understand people not wanting to have kids, but to say it destroys any romantic relationship seems kind of harsh to me.

 

I think he meant 'wreck his romance with this fictional character' but yes, it can destroy a romantic relationship. It's rare to find someone who wants to have a kid and is totally cool with their romantic partner wanting nothing to do with said child, and even then that's fort of f*cked up because kids can and do affect your life and availability for things like dating.

 

It's reasonable to break up with someone because you both want your lives to go in vastly different directions, and having a child is way more of a major life decisions than:

getting married

buying a house

going to college

moving across the country

etc

 

Kids aren't 'just' anything, they're people you're entirely responsible for. If you don't want a kid, you shouldn't force yourself to put up with having one for the sake of a romantic relationship, because that means you're not in it for the kid, and you have to be. The well-being of the child is more important than your love life, and it's better to have one parent only than two if one of them resents the kid's existence.

[Wolfen09]

He said it would wreck his romance in-game. He stated he didn't want kids in life or in-game. That being said, it's idealistic to think that a pregnancy unplanned or not--can't wreck a relationship. Especially if one of the duo does not want children. Having children can be taxing even for the strongest of relationships. Even if you're pro-choice, abortions aren't something that most people take lightly. The stress from the emotional and physical strain can still weigh down a relationship until it snaps. 

 

We're kind of getting off-topic here. Just saying that it's never that simple. Some people don't want the responsibility or stress of offspring and there isn't anything cowardly or sad about that.

 

well, thats why in my original post i said i understood his in game actions, but if it was his real life views, then i felt sorry.  the one who took that out of context was not me

[ladyoflate]

kbomb: you and i, we are mindtwins apparently

[Shadow Fox]

Two words:

 

birth control.

[KBomb]

well, thats why in my original post i said i understood his in game actions, but if it was his real life views, then i felt sorry.  the one who took that out of context was not me

I explained to you why he could feel like that in his real life and why it still isn't a reason to "feel sorry" for someone. 

[Killdren88]

Because in all the games you have things to do that take priority over it. Thus plot armor is the greatest means of protection and ensures risk free sex with your partners. You not there to start a family and play house. Your there to save the world. Having a baby harness on your back while doing this is stupid. If you want a baby so bad, wait for the epilogue or write a fanfic.

[Eveangaline]

As an ending option, yeah it should be an option. IDK how to make it your choice tho (which is very important, esp for a female PC) without making the dialogue hella clunky, as it would have to be one conversation to keep the rest of the romance consistent between kids/no kids people.

 

Have the chance to talk to your LI with the gist of "You ever consider having kids in the future?" And only a yes gets you the ending slide with kids. Or I still say meet a street urchin in a quest that asks you to adopt 'em. Street urchin children for everyone.

[CavalierToast]

Only one of the Dragon Age romances have produced a child, why is that?

Two words:

birth control.

Three words: effective birth control

[I SOLD MY SOUL TO BIOWARE]

I'd be very concerned if my female Warden and Leliana produced little redheaded half-elf miracle babies somehow. 

 

Maybe a little impressed too.