I understand what you're saying, but there are always going to be people who are disappointed in some way or another, no matter what system they use. You're upset because you might not have access to a romance as the gender you want to play. Other people will be upset that the character they're most interested in wont be available for romance at all. If I put myself in the same place as everyone else, I would be currently very upset because a character whose looks and personality I adore is very likely not a romance (Vivienne if you must know) but I know not to invest myself emotionally in someone I don't know.
I understand your frustration, and would prefer characters were put off by race or class over gender. But the character a person wants to romance does not solely exist for them. They exist for every player, including those who are more than happy with being their friend and who could still take something meaningful from that relationship. You may put more importance on starting a life with someone, but there are people (like myself) who would gladly sacrifice their well being to fight for their friends.
Anyway, I'm sorry if that is a bit garbled. I'm still not feeling well and I'm taking medicine.
Actually I won't be surprised if the scribe girl is NOT a romance, but Vivienne is. I don't know why but I have this notion that Vivienne might be a lesbian available to the Inquisitor. It won't surprise me if Cullen is the only NPC romance. It will displease me (since it means more than likely the straight women players are given less content yet again and because I'm not at all interested in Cullen, as of the end of DA2), but it will not surprise me.
And I repeat, while I'll be disappointed if Solas is not available, it'll be the fan rage from others that bothers me more. Replaying DA:O I feel like I'd almost be better off avoiding the romances entirely, or maybe giving Zevran another try. Yet when I first played, I was absolutely wild for Alistair. And now I just find him kind of annoying. I wonder if I'd feel the same replaying Mass Effect 1-3. I used to like Kaidan, too, but then ME2 happened, and in ME3 all he did was yell at my Shepard. But I wonder if I replayed now, would I even be able to tolerate Garrus...
In all honesty, interacting with the characters and making choices are the most important aspects of the game. And yet, that does not mean that romance isn't at all important, because, from a roleplaying standpoint, it is. It's also pretty adorable, too, sometimes.
Mmf.
But I'm not in the mood for serious discussions...
Hm. If Solas had a hand in decorating the Keep, what would he do to it, I wonder? I'm thinking furs. Everywhere. And also green. Maybe pinstripe wallpaper.