I had a dream last night that gave me the weird idea that Solas may not be up to what we assume he's up to.
In the dream, Solas was freeing the ancient elven gods, all right... and then promptly absorbing their souls and their power. No more fighting, and now Solas is going to be in charge. I doubt that's actually what he's up to, but it's something worth thinking about.
Anyway, I disagree with the idea that Solas doesn't want to help the present-day elves. Evidence would indicate that he does--his talks with Sera (even if she's terribly rude to him), and his approval gain when you specifically help elves in various regions (he doesn't tend to gain approval for helping humans, except on a couple of occasions). He doesn't see them as his people, but he doesn't want them to suffer, either.
Abelas scorns the modern elves. Solas is saddened by their state, but doesn't really scorn them. I think Abelas was mocking the idea that Solas was considering himself "Elvhen," but something in Solas's tone when he responded caught Abelas off guard--did you notice Abelas's expression? Abelas considered Solas to be as "Elvhen" as the Dalish, if you took his tone into account--it's a scornful tone.
I took Solas's final comment about having to help the People to mean that... he wanted to help all the elves (not a significant change when you consider that even if they aren't his people, Solas is clearly very interested in helping the modern elves, even if he isn't necessarily going about it the right way). Even if they weren't his people. Notice he doesn't say MY People, or Our People. He says "THE People." And I do believe he realizes that this is going to put him at odds with the majority of the elven gods, which is why perhaps Mythal joined with him in the first place--to help.
Do I think Solas is 100% good? No. He can be a bit conceited, actually, and blind to the consequences of his actions. Do I think his goals may be selfish? Probably. But I also think he may have something different planned than we think, OR, barring that, he might have different intentions than we think once that plan is carried out.
Remember if you listen to Cole after the end of the game, Solas speaks through Cole. His reasoning for leaving the Inquisition--and Lavellan--is not a selfish one. He says it's because it's far too dangerous to involve anyone else, especially someone he cares so deeply about. (Though he uses "cared," which... brings up questions. Questions I believe I know the answer to already or Cole would not be involved. It's not that easy to just let go, Solas.)
Solas also mentions at the end of the romance that Lavellan is the only one who caught his attention from the Fade. She's not one of his people, and he's not pretending she is--she's not what he expected. She's something else. But something about her caught his attention, and Cole remarks on it too--that she was bright even BEFORE the mark. We don't know what that means, but I suspect it does have some significance to the Inquisitor in general (not just Lavellan). We may never know what that is. Maybe it's to add to the ambiguity of whether the Inquisitor is actually a Chosen One of some higher deity.
Things I do agree with:
- Solas wants to bring down the Veil.
- Solas doesn't see modern elves as "his people."
- If Solas is planning to bring back the ancient elven gods, that's a really dumb idea.
Just going to point out that if he's setting out to absorb all the ancient gods, that's also a magnificently stupid idea--but it may also be a good reason to have broken things off with Lavellan, because yes, that would be dangerous, and likely would result in a complete personality change for Solas.
As for my take on the elven gods... I repeat, it appears to me that Solas believes he is one such god--what he doesn't agree is that (most of?) the other elven gods are also gods. I was thinking last night that it's even possible that after Solas removes the vallaslin, it may not be possible to replace it. Vallaslin is likely imbued with magic somehow by the Keeper. Much like Fiona no longer being able to be a Warden, it could be interesting if Lavellan can no longer be enslaved, or at least not marked as such (so there's no going back home and taking the vallaslin again even if you want to). It really did feel like Solas was giving her a blessing or benediction, in retrospect--I know some will disagree with that, but watch the almost reverant way in which he works that magic. It's intimate but it's also somehow... religious? And then he speaks those words in elven, again, like a blessing.
If Solas is setting the ancient gods free, then Lavellan might end up needing that blessing, to avoid being enslaved. And, I also wonder if it's tied to whether your character drinks from the Well. Can he undo the magic that binds Lavellan to Mythal? Is that possible? Or is he saying that even if he absorbs Mythal later, he's not enslaving Lavellan? Hard to say...