Phew, ok. My apologies for getting so worked up about that... And I'm sorry you had to experience that.
Shite happens, what matters is that it's over and I've moved on from it.
I'm mostly trying to point out that sometimes marking in combination with other behaviors can be early signs of problems that exist or problems that can surface. Like in hindsight when he started leaving palm sized hickies on my neck even when I said "no" and tried to push him away I should have taken that as a red flag and been a lot more cautious from then onwards if not broke it off entirely.
I completely understand its a fetish people have, My fiance and I uh.. dabble but we have rules, we know each other's boundaries and have a safe word. The problem was my ex wasn't willing to make rules and it was a slow slide into an unhealthy relationship. He slowly got more and more possessive and began to demand more from me than he was willing to give. It was fine at first but after roughly 6-7 months it started going downhill. I think the main issue is that it needs to be done carefully and respectfully, for example from what I know of 50 shades of grey the behavior gets a bit unhealthy when the safe word isn't respected. I could be completely wrong about that happening in the book as I haven't read it, the information is just from an article on the book a friend showed me, but if that's the case its an example of when the type of relation isn't depicted properly and it's showing some inappropriate behaviors.
Again, I'm really sorry. I didn't mean to offend, I get rather clumsy with my words sometimes. I'm usually only completely serious like 50-60% of the time because joking and making light of things is how I deal with issues I have and have had in the past, Helps me keep cheerful even if I'm the only one that gets the joke. and sorry im apologizing a lot, I'm Canadian =P
but seriously I wanted to apologize properly, but i had to do a quick one to explain that it was me not you lest i accidentally have a bunch of people up in arms and need to send everyone an apology D:
Also Solas did say it would be fascinating to see our indomitable will dominated. So there is some for people to go off of. If someone did it just right it could be within his character's personality, but it'd be really... difficult to get it to work quite right for Solas.