Ugh I'm so far behind because I have to choose between this, playing DAI, writing (bad) fanfic, work, or, you know, those other things you have to do to live, like eat.
Yeesh.
Oh man! Thanks for pointing out that the reference is to It's A Wonderful Life. Totally wouldn't have connected the dots on that one.
So given that, I wonder if, when Cole says "They can only return to the maker if they become real", he's referring to Clarence the angel getting his wings by going to earth to help George? Sort of like... Cole being drawn to leave the Fade to help people in Thedas? 
WHAT IF, and I'm really going out on a limb here, the "wholeness" that Cole sees in Solas is because he's both a person AND a spirit? In the same way that Flemythal is both the woman Flemeth and the spirit Mythal, but seems to think of herself as a single being? So then, maybe spirits are actually meant to be one with people in some integrated, not-just-possession way (see: Anders, Wynne, etc). Maybe spirits were originally part of people (or just elves, that could be the mysterious thing they're supposed to have lost), and they're constantly trying to get back through the veil to reunite with people in some weird Aristophanes-at-the-symposium kind of way?
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Yea I didn't catch the reference either. BTW, I swear at one point in game someone does refer to Cole as an angel. Or maybe that's just me reading too much into it.
I was thinking somethimg different. I think he is afraid of dying as the last of his people. Dying alone might just be the non spoiler way of saying "Be the last of his kind". He is anything but thrilled about the dalish and he sees them as a failure. He is the last - not counting Mythal - and we know that he did something he regretted. And though the original elves did not die of old age they could still be killed.
so dying alone noone would remember the truth about Fen Harel or who he truly was. He would die leaving nothing behind but his failure and a grave misinterpretation of who he is and what he did.
Agreed, but this still revolves around him *dying*. I just find it weird that an immortal's fear would be *dying* alone, instead of something like *seeing my culture be eradicated*.
Idk it could just be poor word choice on the devs part, since "dying alone" is a bit cliche, so seeing that as someone's greatest fear isn't really a head scratcher. But I'm so used to good writers analyzing every word, and choosing every word so carefully, that I am inclined to think that because his fear involves dying, then he (and possibly by extension, all of the elven "gods") are not really immortal.
That's all for now, will catch up more later.
Edits for horrible errors while typing too fast