I killed off my canon Hawke too. My no-kidding, first playthrough, this-is-my-official-worldstate canon Hawke, who I wrote fanfiction for and speculated about for the years between DA2 and DA:I. And Warden!Alistair was romanced in my game too. I couldn't even bring myself to talk to Varric. I literally ran around the Keep, crafted, grew elfroot, waited for the freaking war table missions to finish, and stalled for over an hour before talking to him. I felt so, so awful.
Oh, and she romanced Anders. Christ, I have nothing to complain about when it comes to the Solas romance. I'm apparently the worst sort of video game masochist.