If it turned out that she really had been placed in the Dread Wolf's body, then that would mean he really is some kind of spirit/soul running around without a body. Or else, he is sharing a body with the man who was born in the village that he said he was born in.
... Hard to say really.
Was doing some thinking today on the Solas/Lavellan relationship. Specifically about how eager he was to start it (that Fade kiss!), and about what the dialogue between he and Cole might mean.
"You became real. That means the others could, too. It changes everything, but it can't." Something like that, yes? Now, if he means Solas, then it could imply he is some kind of Fade entity that made itself real. If it means Lavellan... well I was thinking that makes it not just all kinds of levels of sad, but also all kinds of levels of wrong.
So, Lavellan "became real." She began to matter, became what he considers "Elvhen." If the others could, too, why is that something that can't be allowed to happen? Is he rejecting her "reality" so that he can continue on his set path? Is he so set on making things the way they were that he'd tell himself that Lavellan is just like the others, after all, or that he'd sacrifice her for what he sees as the greater good?
This is Solas, he's open-minded, he's willing to admit when he's wrong. Except this time. Why?
My only answer for it is that he misses everyone else he knew from his own time so much that Lavellan just cannot help his loneliness, nor can anyone else in the Inquisition. He dislikes the state of the world so much that he'll tell himself Lavellan isn't really real, just to be able to make himself do what he feels he has to do.
And yet, that doesn't fit, because... he wouldn't wish his path on an enemy, much less someone he deeply cares for. So he tells Cole. That line implies he's protecting those he became close to. Are they "real" to him to deserve protection?
The more I thought about it, the less sense it really makes. Either he's protecting her, or he's sacrificing her for the greater good, and I can't tell which it is. Perhaps it's both, though, because if she doesn't know, she can't intervene. Then she can survive whatever comes next... but she won't be "real" so their love can never be, at least as far as Solas is concerned.
And then there's his line about "in another world..."
Does he feel they are so far apart? Maybe it really is that he's rejecting her as "real Elvhen?" And if she's not Elvhen, he can't be with her. And she doesn't matter in the grand scheme of his plan, no matter how much he loves her. That is not just horribly wrong-headed and closed-minded of him, it's also terribly, terribly sad... because we can tell that he does truly love her. Why would he think that anything that could potentially cause dire harm to his loved one would be a good idea? How could he suddenly be looking at her as so much less than him, when he'd spent so much time becoming close to her?
Yes, he said he thought it would be unkind to continue their relationship, in the balcony scene. So we knew it probably wasn't going to end well (or, well, I figured, and yet hoped it would anyway).
I can't help thinking that whichever meaning it holds, that banter of Cole's is key to understanding why Solas left. I don't think any of us have entirely hit on the why of it, for all of our guessing about his protecting Lavellan or putting duty first. I really, truly hope I'm not right about it, or that if I am, he's able to work past what he's feeling... that would just leave such a bad taste in my mouth.
Edited to clarify what precisely invokes my horror at this thought: Basically, if Solas is rejecting Lavellan's "reality" as an Elvhen, I am worried that he's saying she's so far beneath him as to be beneath his concern... even though he is in love with her. And because this makes her less valuable, he is letting go, despite how much pain it causes him--and her, which also hurts him--so that he can continue with his plans to help the People Who Matter to Him. And if I am right, that... puts him in all kinds of WRONG, and I have trouble feeling badly for him because the only reason he'd feel badly for himself is because he fell for someone he really shouldn't have--even though he initially encouraged it. So I hope I'm not right...
Aaaagh, comfort me please Solas thread, tell me something positive, tell me I can't be right, think of any theory you please but tell me I can't possibly be right...