so basically elves: stop having your own religion, culture, identity and so on? Because the elves can't do anything and more importantly they just should not try to create a better life, they should not try to take over Arlathan from Tevinter and carve out a new kingdom
I think the point Jaison is trying to make is that it's easier for the Dwarves to maintain their heritage as they are separate from the humans. Although we know from DAO that it is a problem for them as well.
The position the elves are in is a crap one. The best they could hope for is a gift of land and mutual respect from the humans, but that is never going to happen. I feel like there is not an equitable solution for them. Yes, they should maintain their heritage and more importantly their identity and race, but that is going to ultimately fail. Because they are not sustainable. Their numbers are going to continue to diminish as they stay in contact with humans.
There is no answer right now. Even if they manage to take over some country or region and stake their claim ... eventually the other races are going to get antsy. Then we'll have another Dales incident and their numbers might entirely extinguish this time.
Now all of this Elvhen had slaves and destroyed themselves talk I find completely moot. Every single race has slaves and every single race has come to some extinction point in the past. The past is important and it matters, but it should not be used as a shield. What matters is the current state of things and that is grim.
Something big needs to happen and that's what Solas is working on ... I think.
The best, and possibly worst, solution would have to start with elves regaining their sustainability. They need to be able to accept new blood without forfeiting their identity. There just really are not enough of them to rebuild an empire. Especially considering how many clans and alienages we have seen purged in the past decade or so.