The only way to get a happy ending with Alistair is to either:
- [...]
- No matter what, you must force him to sleep with and father a child with someone that he objectively does not like
I felt really blindsided by the whole thing, since it was a fairytale romance up until that point. Granted, I was also a teenager and probably wouldn't have reacted as strongly today but such as it was...
In my canon playthrough, I avoided that by making him marry Anora (he is infertile, she possibly is as well, they really don't need to do anything but rule together), then recruiting Loghain and making Loghain sacrifice himself. And in Awakening he did greet my HoF as his lover, so that worked. It did however require careful planning and could not really have worked out in my first playthrough. Still, knowing there was a way to get some kind of happy ending (even if it requires optimism and headcanon) made it work out for me.
Solas, OTOH, brought me back to extensive headcanoning and fanfiction for the first time in many years. Also, this is the first BioWare game that I actually play at the release date, and I did consciously do it to see/take part in all the speculations etc. before everything is revealed in DLCs or the next game, but it also means having to live with not actually knowing what's going on and what future content we'll get, and that's tough. (Still absolutely convinced Solas will be central to a DLC, and they should handle the romance there. Otherwise it locking in when he breaks up would just not make sense at all.)
I do agree with those saying that the original romances, without the addition of Solas ond Cullen, would have been lacking. I guess I can see where they were going - Bull is pretty fun and light-hearted, and Blackwall is supposed to be the more serious and tragic romance, and I guess if you really feel the need for a sweet romance you can go for Josie (Leliana scared me off her though
). But personally, while I can handle the tragic of the Solas romance (and it's keeping me a lot more involved than any of the others), Blackwall really wouldn't have been my cup of tea. Cullen was just the right amount of funny and sweet, and I really liked the romance with my human mage, but Solas really outclasses it in terms of longtime-involvement for me.