The only way to get a happy ending with Alistair is to either:
- Make him a Warden, resulting in his potential death in DAI
- Make him King, and be his mistress, because one happened to make the "wrong" decision way back during the CC, without having any idea that it would affect the romance
- Make him King, and rule with him as F!Cousland if one happened to make the "right" decision was back during the CC, without having any idea that it would affect the romance
- Those two decisions are only available if you happened to make the "right" decision during his personal quest, without having any idea that it would affect the romance
- No matter what, you must force him to sleep with and father a child with someone that he objectively does not like
- If you don't, he sacrifices himself for you and you get no say unless you leave him home - even if you made him king and he broke up with you
I felt really blindsided by the whole thing, since it was a fairytale romance up until that point. Granted, I was also a teenager and probably wouldn't have reacted as strongly today but such as it was...
All of this plus the fact that we could see as players, the obvious choices that were created with male characters in mind, and how much more deep and meaningful those choices were that we did not have access to. I'm not saying I wanted to romance Morrigan, only that it was obvious to me as a player, at the end of the game, that the story of Morrigan, a male warden, and the old-god baby was the important story the writers wanted to tell, and that it was not the story I was getting to experience. It made me feel very looked over and unwanted as a BioWare customer. (This was also coming on the heels of Lucas declaring Revan to be canon male, which still makes me feel unbelievably sad and disrespected as a player.)
Inquisition (and especially the Solas romance) has utterly turned around my opinion on this subject. I finally feel like my experience as a female gamer is every bit as valued by the writers and creators as the experience of the male player. (now if we could just get marketing on board this positivity train...)
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