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[Sashimi_taco]

I mean pain over when someone leaves you can be pretty brutal. But I would not want to have that be my fantasy. You don't want to end up like this. 

 

 

It's a real experience but I hardly want to feel that way. 

[SamanthaJ]

Yeah and I didn't mean to come as...rude.  I'm just being straightforward and it comes off poorly on the internet.  Reading some of the things about this relationship - not here for the most part but elsewhere - has mostly been me being aghast at how Lavellan is reduced to such a sad sack.  So I'm on high alert.

 

Like my headcanon girl is not that: She'll be sad. Fer sure. But like...she has friends(especially Cassandra)? I find it would be so insulting to them if she just moped around and gave the impression that they cannot offer her meaningful companionship in anyway.  This is my own projection of how I feel that women portrayed in games end up just being reduced to the 'other half' of a relationship with no real acknowledgement that they are complex people with friendships etc. 

 

TLDR: I have baggage. Will be better about not being judgmental of people's head-canons.  Embrace your inner life!

I definitely know how you feel. I've been in unhealthy relationships and I've seen my mom lose herself to her feelings regarding her now ex-husband which caused her to have an alcohol relapse. I headcanon my Lavellan as being sad, but coping just fine as the leader of the Inquisition surrounded by companions realistically would. A lot of Solas fics do make me feel uncomfortable with how Lavellan's are portrayed. They make me feel as bad as I feel when I see certain portrayals of Solas that I have harped on and harped on.

[Sashimi_taco]

I definitely know how you feel. I've been in unhealthy relationships and I've seen my mom lose herself to her feelings regarding her now ex-husband which caused her to have an alcohol relapse. I headcanon my Lavellan as being sad, but coping just fine as the leader of the Inquisition surrounded by companions realistically would. A lot of Solas fics do make me feel uncomfortable with how Lavellan's are portrayed. They make me feel as bad as I feel when I see certain portrayals of Solas that I have harped on and harped on.

 

 

I loved at the end she has all her friends look at her as she goes to her room being all like "hey we're all her for you and you're our friend". It showed that she has a lot more going on for her than just her relationship with Solas. I mean she's the leader of a huge faction. 

 

She probably feels really sad sometimes but she's also too busy to get non functional about it. 

[arlofthan]

Lavellan is a strong, independent Dalish woman who don't need no man

[Cheese of Borg]

I didn't find it creepy. I interpreted it as him just missing it. But there is a lot of creepy stuff in the Solavellan fandom so I do kind of have a red flag in my hand at all times.

Samantha, I have read far more destrubing things than what I have read in the Solasmut^TM section of AO3.  And I have read of Solas becomeing a wolf before he... never mind.

Also, I feel like we could stitch our avatars together to form a very nice scene.

[Cheese of Borg]

I didn't find it creepy. I interpreted it as him just missing it. But there is a lot of creepy stuff in the Solavellan fandom so I do kind of have a red flag in my hand at all times.

Samantha, I have read far more destrubing things than what I have read in the Solasmut^TM section of AO3.  And I have read of Solas becomeing a wolf before he... never mind.

Also, I feel like we could stitch our avatars together to form a very nice scene.

[Cheerios789]

I loved at the end she has all her friends look at her as she goes to her room being all like "hey we're all her for you and you're our friend". It showed that she has a lot more going on for her than just her relationship with Solas. I mean she's the leader of a huge faction. 

 

She probably feels really sad sometimes but she's also too busy to get non functional about it. 

 

Yeah, I imagine Lavellan to be a "bury yourself in your work" kind of girl.  Now some of that work might involve finding out what was up with Solas.  Or it might not.  For someone who pretty much ran a small country and massive army for the better part of a year to simply fall apart into spiraling angst ... is hard to chew.  Now, that being said, I get it.  I mean she'll probably need some time to adjust, but then there will be an uprising in the Free Marches that just really needs her attention ... and she'll move on. 

 

That's my headcanon though.  I am also a fan of holding onto that love, but not letting it weigh her down.  Maybe she doesn't pine, but she never forgets him.

[SamanthaJ]

 

http://otherwolves.t...ge/106946026096

[Zarro-Morningstar]

I don't know how many people are still around who read my summary for my story...but I have the ending already figured out and I will be feasting upon my readers' tears once I put everything together.

[Bliss]

I think it also depends on how you played Lavellan. If you played her being reluctant and not wanting to do any of this, angst is more understandable. If all she wants to do is do what has to be done and then go back to her life (which we all know is never going to happen), Solas leaving would probably hurt since he was so close to her...just a thought.

[Sashimi_taco]

Samantha, I have read far more destrubing things than what I have read in the Solasmut^TM section of AO3.  And I have read of Solas becomeing a wolf before he... never mind.

Also, I feel like we could stitch our avatars together to form a very nice scene.

 

Maybe I'm weird but the crazy insane turning into a wolf thing I was like "eh whatever". But thinking about solas not being able to sleep deeply upsets me. 

[hellozombie]

Yeah, I imagine Lavellan to be a "bury yourself in your work" kind of girl.  Now some of that work might involve finding out what was up with Solas.  Or it might not.  For someone who pretty much ran a small country and massive army for the better part of a year to simply fall apart into spiraling angst ... is hard to chew.  Now, that being said, I get it.  I mean she'll probably need some time to adjust, but then there will be an uprising in the Free Marches that just really needs her attention ... and she'll move on. 

 

That's my headcanon though.  I am also a fan of holding onto that love, but not letting it weigh her down.  Maybe she doesn't pine, but she never forgets him.

For me, personally, I'm sad but that's because of mysterious reasons that will remain mysterious. But my Lavellan is angrysad. You better believe the first thing she does is try to find that eggface and get some damn answers. Hell hath no fury like a woman whose partner left them because he thought she couldn't handle the truth. OH HELLS NO. Of course, I realize that isn't entirely why Solas left, but my Lavellan doesn't know that. YET. 

 

and then, you know, make-up sex. YEA VERILY.

[RynJ]

Maybe I'm weird but the crazy insane turning into a wolf thing I was like "eh whatever". But thinking about solas not being able to sleep deeply upsets me. 

 

I think Solas would be having some sleep issues regardless of Lavellan after DAI. He has a lot on his plate.

 

But seriously, I really didn't mean to make you all upset or anything. I feel bad now.

[mindoirs]

I think it's up to how you interpret and played your own Lavellan. I know that because he was her first love and she is young, my Lavellan will take some time to really recover. And she'll be pretty sad. But she'll also know that she has friends that will make the process easier. These things aren't mutually exclusive, and being sad over the loss of a loved one and expressing that sadness isn't a sign of weakness. Definitely not good to be incapable of functioning as a result, and as the Inquisitor, I doubt that would be the case for her. But there might be someone out there whom that is the case with in regards to their Lavellan, as misguided as it may be in reality. I also do think Solas will have trouble sleeping at first because you also need to take note that Lavellan was an important person to him.

 

But I try to be open to most interpretations which is why I think that it depends on how you played your own OC.

[mythlover20]

I've headcanoned my Lavellan to be sad as well, but she is a strong woman - stronger than she believes herself to be. She'll be depressed for a while, but she will be working (which is better than what I am doing at the moment). If she is given the chance to find him, well she will probably take it, because Solas will be up to something if he slips up enough to let Leliana's spies find him. She's going to want answers, but she's still fundamentally the same person at this point as she was during Inquisition. She'll listen to his explanations, then decide what to do accordingly.

I also headcanon that they have slept together. I know a lot of people don't, but depending on the dialogue options you take, both options are implied.

Also it really disturbs me how no one practices safe sex in these games. It really does.

[Sashimi_taco]

I think it also depends on how you played Lavellan. If you played her being reluctant and not wanting to do any of this, angst is more understandable. If all she wants to do is do what has to be done and then go back to her life (which we all know is never going to happen), Solas leaving would probably hurt since he was so close to her...just a thought.

 

The only think I really don't want is that insane scene in the twilight movies where the main girl just sits there for months staring out a window. Then keeps trying to kill herself and has night terrors about being broken up with.

 

Like girl get up and go out with that hot native american guy. 

 

Those movies were so weird I thought they were comedies. 

[SamanthaJ]

Samantha, I have read far more destrubing things than what I have read in the Solasmut^TM section of AO3.  And I have read of Solas becomeing a wolf before he... never mind.

Also, I feel like we could stitch our avatars together to form a very nice scene.

I'm sure there are worse things out there, but when the Solas section is over saturated with non-con/dub-con/that gross wolf thing/possessive!violent!dom!Solas among other things like weak!dysfunctional!Lavellan when all I want is to read some nice fics about my current favorite character and pairing the creepy and unhealthy stuff kind of stands out.

 

But yeah, our avatars do connect.

[AlleluiaElizabeth]

My lavellan is strong when she needs to be, but she *is* really hurting inside. First over the sudden break up she could do nothing to prevent, then the disappearance. And she is strong enough that its ok to let her friends see that in the down time. It will take her a while to get past this to the point where she's truly fine again. And, hopefully, by that point in time, we'll have had a solas-centric DLC and maybe she won't *have* to get past it.

 

This new awesome fansong is totally her theme in the middle of those nights in Skyhold when she's alone on her balcony with her thoughts and the stars:

 

[Sashimi_taco]

I think Solas would be having some sleep issues regardless of Lavellan after DAI. He has a lot on his plate.

 

But seriously, I really didn't mean to make you all upset or anything. 

 

 

Don't feel bad! Oh man. I just wanted to throw opinions back and forth. 

 

I just don't like thinking about sad Solas

 

I've headcanoned my Lavellan to be sad as well, but she is a strong woman - stronger than she believes herself to be. She'll be depressed for a while, but she will be working (which is better than what I am doing at the moment). If she is given the chance to find him, well she will probably take it, because Solas will be up to something if he slips up enough to let Leliana's spies find him. She's going to want answers, but she's still fundamentally the same person at this point as she was during Inquisition. She'll listen to his explanations, then decide what to do accordingly.

I also headcanon that they have slept together. I know a lot of people don't, but depending on the dialogue options you take, both options are implied.

Also it really disturbs me how no one practices safe sex in these games. It really does.

 

 

Haha i like the idea of a report coming in and Lavellan being like "NO ONE JUST TOUCHES MY BUTT AND LEAVES! I'M COMING FOR YOU SOLAS. AND THIS TIME I'M TOUCHING YOUR BUTT!!"

 

Que her finding Solas doing something horribly bad and just picking him up over her shoulder. 

 

"Venahn i must save-"

 

NO! WE'RE GOING HOME! I'M DONE WITH YOUR DREAD WOLF BS, YOU ALWAYS MAKE IT WORSE. WE'RE GOING HOME AND WE'RE GOING TO LIVE IN PEACE AND CUDDLE.

[Bliss]

The only think I really don't want is that insane scene in the twilight movies where the main girl just sits there for months staring out a window. Then keeps trying to kill herself and has night terrors about being broken up with.

 

Like girl get up and go out with that hot native american guy. 

 

Those movies were so weird I thought they were comedies. 

 

*sigh* Twilight just took angst and stupidity a little too far. Let's not make comparisons. Romeo and Juliet would be more of a more respectable comparison for angst. At least he knew how to write...la la la la....

[Birdy]

I don't know how many people are still around who read my summary for my story...but I have the ending already figured out and I will be feasting upon my readers' tears once I put everything together.

*twitch*

[Birdy]

Samantha, I have read far more destrubing things than what I have read in the Solasmut^TM section of AO3.  And I have read of Solas becomeing a wolf before he... never mind.

Also, I feel like we could stitch our avatars together to form a very nice scene.

Hey! I linked that!  

[Addai]

About Solas/ Fen'Harel being able to split, Flemeth seems to suggest it doesn't work like that:



She also says that she knows Corypheus "better than you can possibly imagine." Orly? It makes me wonder again what the relationship was, that Solas would take his orb to Corypheus.

I also had forgotten how devastated Solas looks and sounds at the end. *sigh*

[Hattress]

 

http://otherwolves.t...ge/106946026096

Sooooo sweet and warm, I love it!!!!

[RynJ]

Why would Solas and Fen'Harel split? They're one and the same, aren't they? I don't think Fen'Harel is meant to be an alternate personality or anything.