No no! You in no way upset or offended me! I feel like my opinion on the matter wouldn't do any good, really. But maybe I should elaborate.
As a survivor, I have my own set of triggers that are a direct reflection of the abuse I suffered, and while others may share in some of the same triggers as I, not everyone does. I think it's a very personal matter, and no two persons situations are alike. For instance, I was never triggered in this game by any of the characters, but I know many were...
It was DA2 that triggered me, particularly the scene where the Champion has to go find Kelder during Magistrate's Orders, and you discover that he's basically been capturing and torturing young elf girls. THAT triggered me, and I took much pleasure in letting Fenris kill that SOB. Then, after the mission, I paused the game, and took some time to work through the anxiety I got from the mission. Was that the writer's fault? No, it's my abuser's fault. Do I blame the writers for having the insensitivity to explore that form of depravity? No, because it's an emotional game, with emotional stories, and emotional characters, and that very thing taps into our human feels.
I am no way discrediting those people who felt triggered by the Iron Bull/Dorian romance, or any other romance for that matter, because, that's their own personal view, colored by their own personal experiences, and saying they are wrong, would be invalidating them, and I would not wish that for myself. Having people rally behind me when I needed it, saying they believed me, and supporting me was instrumental in climbing out of the devastation my abuser caused me.
Anyhoo, have some Solas, just in case the mood in here got sour...
<snip of sexy Solas>
Edited, like a thousand times, because apparently my fingers hate me and have a mind of their own.