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[ClassicBox]

Man, you guys are all so awesome! I don't really have an awesome story but I want to share! And yes I am fashionably late as always. xD

 

 

I grew up in an extremely (extremely) religious house with my grandparents and parents when I was little.* They wouldn't even let us buy certain brands because they supported the LGBT community. When I was young I didn't understand why it (being gay) was bad, I was just told it was so my (little me) grew up thinking it wasn't okay. But when I was about eleven or twelve I actually started questioning things for myself and couldn't actually grasp how it was wrong. I just started going online at this time and it was actually great because people were so much more accepting than any one I had actually been around. I started talking to people about this around me and got tons of crap for it. And as soon as I started questioning (not sure if that's the right word?) how judgmental my grandparents were, they instantly started to dislike me. (Let's just say they made their dislike for me very very very clear.) But anyways I could actually talk to reasonable people who had differing views than I was raised with once I found the internet. That brings me to this point:  In middle school, my best friend** actually came out and told me he was gay and I was one of the first people he had ever told.He said that I was one of the few people who he thought wouldn't judge him. He said that pretty much every where he went there was the same mentality that just because he like guys, he was terrible and wrong. He looked so scared and it made me so..mad?sad? that it was something he to be afraid of. Like, that is the world: people have to be afraid of loving some one? But he was so happy that him being gay didn't mean anything to me that he was crying. I'll never forget that. Anyway, we are still best friends to this day. To get to DA related: I didn't come across Dragon Age until like a year or two ago. I'm pretty young (18) and haven't played a butt-load of games. Dragon Age was the first game I had ever played that had non-straight characters that weren't there for comedy. I was so happily shocked! I immediately told my best friend and I let him play. Let me tell you, that is the fourth time in all my years of knowing him (including the time mentioned) I had ever seen cry. He told me it was amazing, that he would have never dreamed of a game where his sexuality wasn't put there to be laughed at; where he didn't feel like it the content was there for amusement. He told me that he finally felt that there was, just maybe, a represented opinion that there was nothing wrong with loving who you love. It made him so happy and simply that fact has made me so happy. That's why I appreciate Bioware so much; they do so much in their games that aren't just to target a single demographic. It's amazing. And not only has it made my friend, and the GSA club I'm apart of so very happy, it allows people to at least consider other people. To at least get them to take a different view.

 

Yep, so I'm done. No big fantastical story or anything, but yeah!

 

*I'm not implying being religious makes you in anyway against LGBT. Just that that was my grandparent's driving factor in this case.

**I didn't put his name out of respect. : ) (He isn't on these forums btw)

[manabloom]

oh gosh, okay, i can't believe i'm doing this but um H-HELLO, SOLAS THREAD.
i've been lurking and reading and regularly refreshing this thread for... erm... i, i guess it must be months, now... and now i feel like a creeper oops
a hundred times i've thought of making an account and jumping in because I LOVE THIS THREAD but i live an anxiety disorder life and i've always been too scared to go through with it...

 

I CAN'T RESIST AFTER TODAY THOUGH.
ohmigosh i've been brought to tears like several times by all these posts and actual open weeping a few others. i'm a panromantic demisexual lady myself (and if no one shouts at me that i'm making that up i'll be amazed) and i'm always, ALWAYS getting into fights with people (real life and online) about representation and being inclusive and sensitivity and how STORIES MATTER and STORIES INFLUENCE LIFE and i always get shushed and brushed off and insulted and it's really disheartening and sometimes i just want to give up on it because it seems like there's so many cruel people in the world and we'll never get anywhere but THEN THIS THREAD. AND THESE STORIES. AND I'M CRYING AGAIN AND I SHOULD STOP TYPING SO MUCH TEXT because this post will need to be approved before posting so i'm sure it'll get lost in the shuffle considering how fast this thread is moving but i'm going to hit post now anyway ok i hope this gets seen because i am a stranger and none of you know me but i love you all so much and you give me HOPE FOR THE WORLD and uwuahhhha sdjfhasfd. [rolls around in feelings]

 

i'm sorry if i'm a weirdo ;-;

[Chrys]

Thank you, sweetheart! *blushes catches kiss and pouncehuggles you* You are entirely adorably sweet!!

 

Aw thank you  /blushes A pouncehuggle sounds phenomenal 

[mindoirs]

Aw hun, no! We are very accepting here and rather than screaming at you, I think everyone here would rather ask you to educate us on anything we aren't sure of! One of my dearest friends is demisexual and I have many pansexual friends, so it's definitely not like it's something that goes unheard of. And that you signed up to make a post on here and about your struggles, thanks so much.

[Cat Lance]

My my perhaps we should see if Bioware would like to make a Solas Collectors Edition with Cat Lance's handmade Garlands

Thankee for my initiation Cat and I look forward to checking up on the thread to lift my opinion of the internet community

This thread is like the Guild Wars 2 of BSN

 

Anyway beddie time as work in the morn cos Collectors Editions don't pay for themselves

 

I'm feeling philosophical so I'll end with a favorite prayer:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

The courage to change the things I can,

And wisdom to know the difference.

Awww, chi! *huggles* 

Oh, my, I think my hands would fall off!! ;p

 

Aw thank you  /blushes A pouncehuggle sounds phenomenal 

It's like this!

 

And man, you guys...I am really blushing over here...

 

*runs off to eat dinner*

[RynJ]

oh gosh, okay, i can't believe i'm doing this but um H-HELLO, SOLAS THREAD.
i've been lurking and reading and regularly refreshing this thread for... erm... i, i guess it must be months, now... and now i feel like a creeper oops
a hundred times i've thought of making an account and jumping in because I LOVE THIS THREAD but i live an anxiety disorder life and i've always been too scared to go through with it...

 

I CAN'T RESIST AFTER TODAY THOUGH.
ohmigosh i've been brought to tears like several times by all these posts and actual open weeping a few others. i'm a panromantic demisexual lady myself (and if no one shouts at me that i'm making that up i'll be amazed) and i'm always, ALWAYS getting into fights with people (real life and online) about representation and being inclusive and sensitivity and how STORIES MATTER and STORIES INFLUENCE LIFE and i always get shushed and brushed off and insulted and it's really disheartening and sometimes i just want to give up on it because it seems like there's so many cruel people in the world and we'll never get anywhere but THEN THIS THREAD. AND THESE STORIES. AND I'M CRYING AGAIN AND I SHOULD STOP TYPING SO MUCH TEXT because this post will need to be approved before posting so i'm sure it'll get lost in the shuffle considering how fast this thread is moving but i'm going to hit post now anyway ok i hope this gets seen because i am a stranger and none of you know me but i love you all so much and you give me HOPE FOR THE WORLD and uwuahhhha sdjfhasfd. [rolls around in feelings]

 

i'm sorry if i'm a weirdo ;-;

 

A lurker!! Come, step into the light!

 

 

All creepy gifs aside, welcome! Thanks so much for sharing your story with us and definitely don't be afraid to come chat! This is one of the nicest places I've ever encountered on the internet.

[Brass_Buckles]

I will just leave some cheerful support for all the story-tellers here, since I have no story of my own to tell.

 

Well, other than waking up from a weird dream wherein I was apparently talking about seagulls and lilies with Solas.  No, nothing risque.  Even the dream I had where he was an LI and didn't look anything like himself and wasn't even an elf was puritanical.  But dreaming about talking about seagulls and lilies?  ... Yeah, I have weird, random dreams.

[Fialka]

oh gosh, okay, i can't believe i'm doing this but um H-HELLO, SOLAS THREAD.
i've been lurking and reading and regularly refreshing this thread for... erm... i, i guess it must be months, now... and now i feel like a creeper oops
a hundred times i've thought of making an account and jumping in because I LOVE THIS THREAD but i live an anxiety disorder life and i've always been too scared to go through with it...

 

I CAN'T RESIST AFTER TODAY THOUGH.
ohmigosh i've been brought to tears like several times by all these posts and actual open weeping a few others. i'm a panromantic demisexual lady myself (and if no one shouts at me that i'm making that up i'll be amazed) and i'm always, ALWAYS getting into fights with people (real life and online) about representation and being inclusive and sensitivity and how STORIES MATTER and STORIES INFLUENCE LIFE and i always get shushed and brushed off and insulted and it's really disheartening and sometimes i just want to give up on it because it seems like there's so many cruel people in the world and we'll never get anywhere but THEN THIS THREAD. AND THESE STORIES. AND I'M CRYING AGAIN AND I SHOULD STOP TYPING SO MUCH TEXT because this post will need to be approved before posting so i'm sure it'll get lost in the shuffle considering how fast this thread is moving but i'm going to hit post now anyway ok i hope this gets seen because i am a stranger and none of you know me but i love you all so much and you give me HOPE FOR THE WORLD and uwuahhhha sdjfhasfd. [rolls around in feelings]

 

i'm sorry if i'm a weirdo ;-;

It's okay! Don't feel creepy, I creepily lurked the BSN without joining on and off for years - so you're in good company (not sure if that makes you feel better or worse - I'll warn you now, I'm a cynical, p!ssy weirdo with a morbid sense of humor...) 

 

In other words, welcome!  And have a unicorn (cuz that's like a thing now...)

 

[Cat Lance]

oh gosh, okay, i can't believe i'm doing this but um H-HELLO, SOLAS THREAD.
i've been lurking and reading and regularly refreshing this thread for... erm... i, i guess it must be months, now... and now i feel like a creeper oops
a hundred times i've thought of making an account and jumping in because I LOVE THIS THREAD but i live an anxiety disorder life and i've always been too scared to go through with it...

 

I CAN'T RESIST AFTER TODAY THOUGH.
ohmigosh i've been brought to tears like several times by all these posts and actual open weeping a few others. i'm a panromantic demisexual lady myself (and if no one shouts at me that i'm making that up i'll be amazed) and i'm always, ALWAYS getting into fights with people (real life and online) about representation and being inclusive and sensitivity and how STORIES MATTER and STORIES INFLUENCE LIFE and i always get shushed and brushed off and insulted and it's really disheartening and sometimes i just want to give up on it because it seems like there's so many cruel people in the world and we'll never get anywhere but THEN THIS THREAD. AND THESE STORIES. AND I'M CRYING AGAIN AND I SHOULD STOP TYPING SO MUCH TEXT because this post will need to be approved before posting so i'm sure it'll get lost in the shuffle considering how fast this thread is moving but i'm going to hit post now anyway ok i hope this gets seen because i am a stranger and none of you know me but i love you all so much and you give me HOPE FOR THE WORLD and uwuahhhha sdjfhasfd. [rolls around in feelings]

 

i'm sorry if i'm a weirdo ;-;

AH! *huggles and nestles a flower garland on your head*

 

No worries! This is a place full of love!

[Phate Phoenix]

oh gosh, okay, i can't believe i'm doing this but um H-HELLO, SOLAS THREAD.
i've been lurking and reading and regularly refreshing this thread for... erm... i, i guess it must be months, now... and now i feel like a creeper oops
a hundred times i've thought of making an account and jumping in because I LOVE THIS THREAD but i live an anxiety disorder life and i've always been too scared to go through with it...
 
I CAN'T RESIST AFTER TODAY THOUGH.
ohmigosh i've been brought to tears like several times by all these posts and actual open weeping a few others. i'm a panromantic demisexual lady myself (and if no one shouts at me that i'm making that up i'll be amazed) and i'm always, ALWAYS getting into fights with people (real life and online) about representation and being inclusive and sensitivity and how STORIES MATTER and STORIES INFLUENCE LIFE and i always get shushed and brushed off and insulted and it's really disheartening and sometimes i just want to give up on it because it seems like there's so many cruel people in the world and we'll never get anywhere but THEN THIS THREAD. AND THESE STORIES. AND I'M CRYING AGAIN AND I SHOULD STOP TYPING SO MUCH TEXT because this post will need to be approved before posting so i'm sure it'll get lost in the shuffle considering how fast this thread is moving but i'm going to hit post now anyway ok i hope this gets seen because i am a stranger and none of you know me but i love you all so much and you give me HOPE FOR THE WORLD and uwuahhhha sdjfhasfd. [rolls around in feelings]
 
i'm sorry if i'm a weirdo ;-;

 

 
We're all a little weird.   Together we make one fine rainbow of awesome. 
 
(I'm either an aromantic or a demiromantic asexual--it's so hard to tell--so you're in good company.)

[RebbyWriter]

Don't know if anybody saw this but...

Allan Schumacher ‏@AllanSchumacher

So it turns out that non-LGBT people have found that the LGBT content in our games made them change their views on LGBT. That's awesome!

 

Allan Schumacher ‏@AllanSchumacher 

And that many like the content simply for exploring our games through a different lens. Which sort of confirms it's not just for LGBT fans!

 

I think Solas would be proud. We did good!

[Cat Lance]

And for everyone who doesn't feel they have a story, but are here with your support and your love and acceptance.

 

That, you're writing a story every day, just like all the rest of us. You are the folk that help us step out into the light and to smile and to feel like we can trust. That is a wonderful story, even if you don't realise you are creating it. You Are.

 

Thank you!

[DragonRacer]

Oh, my goodness, it is a literal REVIVAL up in here. I'm actually a little amazed and so, so proud and happy to see people comfortable in sharing and OH MY GOODNESS WELCOME NEW POSTERS AND FORMER LURKERS. There is nothing creepy in that at ALL. You are ALL welcome!

 

 

[spoiler]

^ I felt a bit out of place because I haven't really struggled with my sexuality (so far, I am 17) and everyone's stories were so touching and personal.

 

*snip only for space*

 

Just because you haven't struggled with your sexuality doesn't mean you don't have good input to share here. I've never struggled with mine, either. Actually, rather reinforced my own when I did share a college kiss with my best girl friend once on a dare and realized that I was very much heterosexual, although I love her like a sister. But just being supportive or sharing some human decency/understanding is reason enough to speak up. You don't HAVE to have a story of struggle, or confusion, or discovery, or triumph... it is enough just to show support. That means EVERYTHING. Because it is not shown enough. Not nearly enough at all.

 

 

I'm not normally within this thread (major Dorian guy here) but y'all are seriously amazing. Keep on, keepin' on.

 

Thank you, lovey!   I wanted to "like" but, alas, mine are all gone again.

 

 

Absolutely agree with everything you wrote here.  It's odd, finding myself rooting SO MUCH for a character to be a bisexual option - it's always been an 'oh, that's nice' after the fact - where this time I really want it to be the case.  Not just for me, but for the amazing guys and girls on this thread. And my slight shame that it took a video game and it's fans for me to realize I should be rooting for more LGBT content in games and other media.  

 

It wasn't until I played Dragon Age Origins, where I could play a female character, and flirt with my female friend, and kinda hope my other female friend was into girls because she was really cool (even if I'm not into that in real life - being able to play a character that is was pretty rad) that I actually thought - why isn't this the norm? Why is it that I can only play a female character in a handful of games?  And realizing gay players have that much less to choose from if they want to play a character like themselves.  How is any of that okay when we're supposed to be so progressive as a society?

 

So it really is great that Bioware is being progressive in this regard, and shedding light on the fact that we have a ways to go.  And giving me hope that we'll get there - because as frustrating as it is to see people on this very forum saying 'it's not important' or complaining that Bioware is pandering to women and gays and OMG what's NEXT!? - there's wonderful people like the ones in this thread - and that Bioware is doing what's right, instead of what's 'safe.'

 

I think headway is slowly being made. Just need to keep pushing.

[ParagonPunk]

There is truly only one gif to represent this thread...

 

 

Edit: An oldy but goldy.

[Chrys]

@manabloom: Yay, we saw your post anyway Welcome to the thread and the forum *hugs*

[jellobell]

Long-time lurker here. I've always really enjoyed reading this thread, but it's so heartwarming seeing so many people come in and share their stories. I've had a lovely time reading the Solas thread today.   Thanks, guys.

 

And I wholeheartedly agree that representation is important. I got into Bioware games because they consistently provide me with the option to play as a woman. Not many games do that. I can't even imagine how difficult it must be to find a game that lets you play as someone who's not heterosexual.

 

In fact, what really drew me to Solas in the first place (other than the fact that he's a magical dreamer nerd historian) is that he seems so accepting and willing to think outside of the box, which are traits that I've really come to appreciate as I get older. It also seems that BSN in general is a lot more accepting than it once was. I was around before the releases of DAO, ME2, and ME3, and I was floored by how much this place has changed. Compared to most places on the internet, this seems like a really safe space. 

[dragondreamer]

It's so very fitting that the Solas thread has become a lair of hippies. 

[Chrys]

Also, I gotta say it's amazing we got this kind of posts in a thread about a character whose orientation we don't know yet. It seems like the kind of thing that would come up after a character is announced as bi or gay, but hey, Solas just brought out the awesome anyway. 

[RebbyWriter]

There is truly only one gif to represent this thread...

 

Saved

[DragonRacer]

oh gosh, okay, i can't believe i'm doing this but um H-HELLO, SOLAS THREAD.
i've been lurking and reading and regularly refreshing this thread for... erm... i, i guess it must be months, now... and now i feel like a creeper oops
a hundred times i've thought of making an account and jumping in because I LOVE THIS THREAD but i live an anxiety disorder life and i've always been too scared to go through with it...

 

I CAN'T RESIST AFTER TODAY THOUGH.
ohmigosh i've been brought to tears like several times by all these posts and actual open weeping a few others. i'm a panromantic demisexual lady myself (and if no one shouts at me that i'm making that up i'll be amazed) and i'm always, ALWAYS getting into fights with people (real life and online) about representation and being inclusive and sensitivity and how STORIES MATTER and STORIES INFLUENCE LIFE and i always get shushed and brushed off and insulted and it's really disheartening and sometimes i just want to give up on it because it seems like there's so many cruel people in the world and we'll never get anywhere but THEN THIS THREAD. AND THESE STORIES. AND I'M CRYING AGAIN AND I SHOULD STOP TYPING SO MUCH TEXT because this post will need to be approved before posting so i'm sure it'll get lost in the shuffle considering how fast this thread is moving but i'm going to hit post now anyway ok i hope this gets seen because i am a stranger and none of you know me but i love you all so much and you give me HOPE FOR THE WORLD and uwuahhhha sdjfhasfd. [rolls around in feelings]

 

i'm sorry if i'm a weirdo ;-;

 

I AM OUT OF FORUM LIKES BUT I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE THIS POST.

 

And I love you. Thank you for sharing and YOU ARE IMPORTANT AND YOUR FEELINGS ARE IMPORTANT.

 

Sorry. I don't mean to shout. Just placing emphasis.

[Lily]

I've been going back and forth on posting this since I don't really have an interesting story, but... I dunno, figured I would. 

 

Spoiler

Right so, I grew up in an... accepting enough household, but stuff like homosexuality wasn't something that was really discussed. I didn't even know much about it until I was like twelve. But annnyyyway in the last... year or so since I started playing Bioware games I hadn't even considered I was anything but straight. I'd only recently gotten into gaming and Dragon Age was the first game I'd played that had non-straight characters. It was... shocking, to me, honestly. I hadn't expected it, but longish story short, it made me realize "hey, wait... I'm into ladies too." More recently I realized I was actually asexual/panromantic, so uhh... yeah. I don't think I've ever actually talked about this except for briefly with one of my friends... and this was kind of ramblely oh gosh I'm kind of embarrassed to even post it 

 

Also, to anyone just now posting here: Welcome! *hugs* 

[BlueFlame527]

It's so very fitting that the Solas thread has become a lair of hippies. 

hip·pie

 [ híppee ]   

 

1. unconventional young person of the 1960s: a young person, especially in the 1960s, who rejected accepted social and political values and proclaimed a belief in universal peace and love.

Sounds about right. Minus the part about being a young person in the 1960s 

[Phate Phoenix]

Gah I wish I could just take what I was feeling right now and put it out there, because words are so hard,  and I'm out of likes, so just know that I wanna like all the posts.

 

HUGS FOR EVERYONE OKAY

[ParagonPunk]

It's so very fitting that the Solas thread has become a lair of hippies. 

 

I am apparently a far nicer person on the internet. I have been dubbed "moody" irl many times, but what can you do?  

 

I've been going back and forth on posting this since I don't really have an interesting story, but... I dunno, figured I would. 

 

Spoiler

Right so, I grew up in an... accepting enough household, but stuff like homosexuality wasn't something that was really discussed. I didn't even know much about it until I was like twelve. But annnyyyway in the last... year or so since I started playing Bioware games I hadn't even considered I was anything but straight. I'd only recently gotten into gaming and Dragon Age was the first game I'd played that had non-straight characters. It was... shocking, to me, honestly. I hadn't expected it, but longish story short, it made me realize "hey, wait... I'm into ladies too." More recently I realized I was actually asexual/panromantic, so uhh... yeah. I don't think I've ever actually talked about this except for briefly with one of my friends... and this was kind of ramblely oh gosh I'm kind of embarrassed to even post it 

 

Also, to anyone just now posting here: Welcome! *hugs* 

 

Thank you for sharing.    The amount of fellow ace people here is... comforting. *obligatory ace fist bump*

 

Gah I wish I could just take what I was feeling right now and put it out there, because words are so hard,  and I'm out of likes, so just know that I wanna like all the posts.

 

HUGS FOR EVERYONE OKAY

 

I, too, am out of likes. Problematic.

[JadePrince]

Everyone sharing their stories is so inspiring... I'm typically a very private person (even though I have strong feelings and opinions regarding representation, I don't talk a lot about myself personally). But you all make this little corner of the internet feel very welcoming and safe. So... *takes a deep breath*

 

Spoiler

I went to GaymerX, and to all the awesome panels, and I met the wonderful devs there, and when I went to the signing, I talked to David Gaider and started to tear up when I told him that the Dragon Age games were the only ones I play because they're the only games I can be myself in, and he was just so sweet and wonderful and just wrapped me up in a big hug. 

 

What I didn't talk about was that one of the reasons these games are important to me is not only because I can play out the m/m and f/f romances I never see in other mainstream media, but also that I can play a game in which I can immerse myself into a world where everyone addresses and reacts and refers to me with the pronouns and titles that I don't hear in RL. I'm still on this journey of figuring out myself and my identity (and I'm 31!!), and I recently took a huge personal step by appearing publicly on a trans panel at San Diego Comic Con. I was very nervous and teared up a little once when talking about how important it is to create content that allows people to see themselves in media. But I'm not really "out" to more than one or two people in my personal life and I don't ask people to use different pronouns because I don't feel ready for it, or the inevitable conversations that will follow (also I'm terrified of confrontation). So the Dragon Age games have been a huge source of comfort for me, giving me the chance to be unapologetically queer and also to 'try on' being seen as male in a fictional world when I'm not ready to do it in real life.

 

I feel a kinship of sorts to Solas, I guess, with regards to being private and a bit introverted. I really hope he's bisexual, too. I think I'll enjoy having him in my party, LI or not.