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[Nocte ad Mortem]

It's great to see people de-lurking just to share these awesome stories with us. You guys are all awesome and I'm so glad you took a chance and shared your stories with us. I hope you'll all stick around and talk to us more often. 

[Hanako Ikezawa]

This place jumped pages fast. What's going on? 

[ParagonPunk]

It's great to see people de-lurking just to share these awesome stories with us. You guys are all awesome and I'm so glad you took a chance and shared your stories with us. I hope you'll all stick around and talk to us more often. 

 

Everyone has been very brave for sharing such personal stories. It's kind of inspiring.

 

This place jumped pages fast. What's going on? 

 

I can't begin to explain. It's been off-topic, but a good type of off-topic.

[RynJ]

I really do feel like it makes sense that we've all rallied around what sounds like the most open-minded character in DAI. 

[JadePrince]

Dammit, out of likes for the first time ever. I knew this thread would be the one to do it too! How fast do you get them back, anyway?

[jellobell]

Everyone sharing their stories is so inspiring... I'm typically a very private person (even though I have strong feelings and opinions regarding representation, I don't talk a lot about myself personally). But you all make this little corner of the internet feel very welcoming and safe. So... *takes a deep breath*

 

*HUGS* Thanks for sharing.   In recent years I've noticed that there's a lot more focus on trans issues, and I've met some wonderful people who've been very patient with answering my questions. I know I'm probably not perfect, but I think I've become a lot more sensitive to LGBT struggles than I was even a few years ago, and a lot of the way that's manifested is me being uncomfortable with LGBT representation in media. So I think it's really cool of you to come out and talk about yourself like this. I appreciate it.

[BlueFlame527]

This place jumped pages fast. What's going on? 

Everyone is discussing their views on representation of sexualities and how Bioware has helped in this as well as giving personal stories on the subject. Nobody is being put down for their interests and views so they are taking their chances in this welcoming thread where they are free to share their opinions and experiences. 

[Hanako Ikezawa]

Dammit, out of likes for the first time ever. I knew this thread would be the one to do it too! How fast do you get them back, anyway?

You have to wait. 

[Karm]

My likes are gooooooone! The struggle is so real.

 

oh gosh, okay, i can't believe i'm doing this but um H-HELLO, SOLAS THREAD.
i've been lurking and reading and regularly refreshing this thread for... erm... i, i guess it must be months, now... and now i feel like a creeper oops
a hundred times i've thought of making an account and jumping in because I LOVE THIS THREAD but i live an anxiety disorder life and i've always been too scared to go through with it...

 

Spoiler

I CAN'T RESIST AFTER TODAY THOUGH.
ohmigosh i've been brought to tears like several times by all these posts and actual open weeping a few others. i'm a panromantic demisexual lady myself (and if no one shouts at me that i'm making that up i'll be amazed) and i'm always, ALWAYS getting into fights with people (real life and online) about representation and being inclusive and sensitivity and how STORIES MATTER and STORIES INFLUENCE LIFE and i always get shushed and brushed off and insulted and it's really disheartening and sometimes i just want to give up on it because it seems like there's so many cruel people in the world and we'll never get anywhere but THEN THIS THREAD. AND THESE STORIES. AND I'M CRYING AGAIN AND I SHOULD STOP TYPING SO MUCH TEXT because this post will need to be approved before posting so i'm sure it'll get lost in the shuffle considering how fast this thread is moving but i'm going to hit post now anyway ok i hope this gets seen because i am a stranger and none of you know me but i love you all so much and you give me HOPE FOR THE WORLD and uwuahhhha sdjfhasfd. [rolls around in feelings]

 

i'm sorry if i'm a weirdo ;-;

 

Dude (is it okay to call you dude? I call most people dude), I'm absolutely on your anxiety boat; I've got trouble answering the phone. Hell, it took me about six years to finally build up the courage to use my mic with stuff like Skype and Ventrilo when playing games with my friends. Just know that we love you, and don't you apologize to me about being a weirdo!

 

 

[ParagonPunk]

I really do feel like it makes sense that we've all rallied around what sounds like the most open-minded character in DAI. 

 

It is almost suspiciously fitting. 

 

Dammit, out of likes for the first time ever. I knew this thread would be the one to do it too! How fast do you get them back, anyway?

 

Nowhere near fast enough. I ran out a long time ago, and now I'm just sitting twiddling my thumbs.

[Hanako Ikezawa]

Everyone is discussing their views on representation of sexualities and how Bioware has helped in this as well as giving personal stories on the subject. Nobody is being put down for their interests and views so they are taking their chances in this welcoming thread where they are free to share their opinions and experiences. 

Ah, okay. 

[Fialka]

Gah I wish I could just take what I was feeling right now and put it out there, because words are so hard,  and I'm out of likes, so just know that I wanna like all the posts.

 

HUGS FOR EVERYONE OKAY

Ah... I know the feeling.  I actually have Asperger's (can't believe I'm writing that, even if this is anonymous - no one really knows outside my boyfriend and a couple very close friends) and so, expressing my feelings through writing is actually a lot easier for me than it is in actual conversation.  But even still, words are failing me at the moment... I just feel really touched and so proud of all the people in this thread - to think a video game character would bring such an awesome group of people together 

 

Though, I suppose it's not so surprising that an intellectual, open-minded, badass like Solas would draw our like!

[JadePrince]

*HUGS* Thanks for sharing.   In recent years I've noticed that there's a lot more focus on trans issues, and I've met some wonderful people who've been very patient with answering my questions. I know I'm probably not perfect, but I think I've become a lot more sensitive to LGBT struggles than I was even a few years ago, and a lot of the way that's manifested is me being uncomfortable with LGBT representation in media. So I think it's really cool of you to come out and talk about yourself like this. I appreciate it.

 

*LIKE* I don't think any of us are perfect. There's still things I struggle with myself and sometimes need to be called out on. I think all we can do is be open to being corrected and to having our minds expanded. And I'm glad Bioware is helping spawn these conversations.

[RebbyWriter]

Everyone sharing their stories is so inspiring... I'm typically a very private person (even though I have strong feelings and opinions regarding representation, I don't talk a lot about myself personally). But you all make this little corner of the internet feel very welcoming and safe. So... *takes a deep breath*

 

*snip of greatness*

 

I feel a kinship of sorts to Solas, I guess, with regards to being private and a bit introverted. I really hope he's bisexual, too. I think I'll enjoy having him in my party, LI or not. 

I'm just sitting here reading, throwing all my likes at this comment. There's something really beautiful about the idea of a trans journey. I mean, just finding out who you are and becoming that person, even when some are saying you should be "this", takes a lot of courage. I don't know anything personally about your experiences. I am a straight woman and I feel comfortable with how I was born. I just...It's hard to explain. I just love the idea of growing into one's self...If that makes any sense. I think it's awesome you're here. Thanks for sharing, luv. *hugs*

 

Gotta make dinner so, I might see you guys later or maybe tomorrow.  All I gotta say is, Damn Solas! What are you going to do to this community after we actually meet you?!

[bairdduvessa]

it is great that people are coming out and speaking about their sexual identities without fear.  i love it.  i said everything about myself back in the closed asexual thread.  but i wanted to say it is great to be a part of a community filled with all these varying backgrounds.

[Phate Phoenix]

Everyone has been very brave for sharing such personal stories. It's kind of inspiring.

 

Agreed. It's just... it's so good. So good. And I'm so happy that people felt comfortable to share. 

[Cat Lance]

Long-time lurker here. I've always really enjoyed reading this thread, but it's so heartwarming seeing so many people come in and share their stories. I've had a lovely time reading the Solas thread today.   Thanks, guys.

 

And I wholeheartedly agree that representation is important. I got into Bioware games because they consistently provide me with the option to play as a woman. Not many games do that. I can't even imagine how difficult it must be to find a game that lets you play as someone who's not heterosexual.

 

In fact, what really drew me to Solas in the first place (other than the fact that he's a magical dreamer nerd historian) is that he seems so accepting and willing to think outside of the box, which are traits that I've really come to appreciate as I get older. It also seems that BSN in general is a lot more accepting than it once was. I was around before the releases of DAO, ME2, and ME3, and I was floored by how much this place has changed. Compared to most places on the internet, this seems like a really safe space. 

*smiles and huggles and places a flower garland on your head* Welcome! We're all so happy to see so many lovely hearts coming out today!

 

It's so very fitting that the Solas thread has become a lair of hippies. 

Damn right!!! *waves flowers over her head* Woooooo!!!! Yeah!

 

Gah I wish I could just take what I was feeling right now and put it out there, because words are so hard,  and I'm out of likes, so just know that I wanna like all the posts.

 

HUGS FOR EVERYONE OKAY

*huggles back*

 

Everyone sharing their stories is so inspiring... I'm typically a very private person (even though I have strong feelings and opinions regarding representation, I don't talk a lot about myself personally). But you all make this little corner of the internet feel very welcoming and safe. So... *takes a deep breath*

 

Spoiler

I went to GaymerX, and to all the awesome panels, and I met the wonderful devs there, and when I went to the signing, I talked to David Gaider and started to tear up when I told him that the Dragon Age games were the only ones I play because they're the only games I can be myself in, and he was just so sweet and wonderful and just wrapped me up in a big hug. 

 

What I didn't talk about was that one of the reasons these games are important to me is not only because I can play out the m/m and f/f romances I never see in other mainstream media, but also that I can play a game in which I can immerse myself into a world where everyone addresses and reacts and refers to me with the pronouns and titles that I don't hear in RL. I'm still on this journey of figuring out myself and my identity (and I'm 31!!), and I recently took a huge personal step by appearing publicly on a trans panel at San Diego Comic Con. I was very nervous and teared up a little once when talking about how important it is to create content that allows people to see themselves in media. But I'm not really "out" to more than one or two people in my personal life and I don't ask people to use different pronouns because I don't feel ready for it, or the inevitable conversations that will follow (also I'm terrified of confrontation). So the Dragon Age games have been a huge source of comfort for me, giving me the chance to be unapologetically queer and also to 'try on' being seen as male in a fictional world when I'm not ready to do it in real life.

 

I feel a kinship of sorts to Solas, I guess, with regards to being private and a bit introverted. I really hope he's bisexual, too. I think I'll enjoy having him in my party, LI or not. 

I think a lot of us relate to Solas' introversion and to being and thinking differently. *smiles big* I think it's that similarity and/or the appreciation if it that has brought all of us together.

 

This place jumped pages fast. What's going on? 

Love. 

[ParagonPunk]

*LIKE* I don't think any of us are perfect. There's still things I struggle with myself and sometimes need to be called out on. I think all we can do is be open to being corrected and to having our minds expanded. And I'm glad Bioware is helping spawn these conversations.

 

It's great that so many people have had eye-opening experiences due to Bioware and their fans. To think some people still think games are only for children, and ask me "why do you still play video games? That's for boys." cue the inevitable 30 minuets or so debate...

 

As Solas would say: it's more complicated than that.

[Ynqve]

Oh dear, I just peeked in here to see what was going on and this was not what I was expecting. You guys are so adorable! I'm almost afraid to read through the last few pages because I just know that I'll begin to cry. I don't have a big confession to share, but I just want you guys to know that I feel you! Hugs for everyone!

 

[JadePrince]

I'm just sitting here reading, throwing all my likes at this comment. There's something really beautiful about the idea of a trans journey. I mean, just finding out who you are and becoming that person, even when some are saying you should be "this", takes a lot of courage. I don't know anything personally about your experiences. I am a straight woman and I feel comfortable with how I was born. I just...It's hard to explain. I just love the idea of growing into one's self...If that makes any sense. I think it's awesome you're here. Thanks for sharing, luv. *hugs*

 

Gotta make dinner so, I might see you guys later or maybe tomorrow.  All I gotta say is, Damn Solas! What are you going to do to this community after we actually meet you?!

 

It does make sense. It makes a lot of sense-- and It's a lovely way to put it, I think. Thank you. I've struggled a lot with feeling like I'm "too old" to be still taking this journey, but it helps to hear such positivity from people like you. So just... thank you. 

 

(I would like this post if I had anymore likes left, haha. Darn you, Solas thread!)

[mindoirs]

You guys. You guys are all nails.   Just like Solas.  

[Hanako Ikezawa]

Well, since we are all sharing, I'm what I've always called sexually ambiguous. 

[bairdduvessa]

I'm just sitting here reading, throwing all my likes at this comment. There's something really beautiful about the idea of a trans journey. I mean, just finding out who you are and becoming that person, even when some are saying you should be "this", takes a lot of courage. I don't know anything personally about your experiences. I am a straight woman and I feel comfortable with how I was born. I just...It's hard to explain. I just love the idea of growing into one's self...If that makes any sense. I think it's awesome you're here. Thanks for sharing, luv. *hugs*

 

Gotta make dinner so, I might see you guys later or maybe tomorrow.  All I gotta say is, Damn Solas! What are you going to do to this community after we actually meet you?!

one of my friends from college dropped off facebook for a while, then last year another friend told me that he was now a she.  so i found her and messaged her and rekindled our friendship.  no matter the first name or anatomy, she will always be my friend.  and i agree it is beautiful and fascinating. 

[Alan Rickman]

I just wanted to drop in to say the last handful of pages are filled with awesome people who may or may not have caused some feels in this straight dudebro.

 

Keep being awesome.

[Nocte ad Mortem]

As Solas would say: it's more complicated than that.

That quote has basically become the motto of the Solas thread. I'm so happy even David Gareth-Lloyd acknowledged it. It sums up so much of what we've been talking about.