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[Samahl]

My story isn't as inspiring as the rest of yours, but I commend BioWare for allowing me to exist in a video game all the same. They aren't quite there on trans issues (Maevaris is a step in the right direction, but she's the only trans person we know of right now), but I was stoked about everyone in DA2 being bi. Technically, I might be ace, maybe even aro (don't even get me started on the confusion surrounding my identity), but I certainly identify with bisexuality, and seeing it represented by so many characters, all at once, was just... special.

 

Thank you, Dragon Age team, and thank you, Solas thread. You're all awesome.

[Samahl]

Ah... I know the feeling.  I actually have Asperger's (can't believe I'm writing that, even if this is anonymous - no one really knows outside my boyfriend and a couple very close friends) and so, expressing my feelings through writing is actually a lot easier for me than it is in actual conversation.

 

Same here.

[jellobell]

It does make sense. It makes a lot of sense-- and It's a lovely way to put it, I think. Thank you. I've struggled a lot with feeling like I'm "too old" to be still taking this journey, but it helps to hear such positivity from people like you. So just... thank you. 

 

(I would like this post if I had anymore likes left, haha. Darn you, Solas thread!)

 

Liked it for you. 

 

Another reason I love Bioware fans: Oodles and oodles of gorgeous fan art. And the game hasn't even come out yet! I just found this piece on tumblr and I love it so much.

 

Spoiler

 

Link to Deviantart entry

[manabloom]

Eep! So many replies!! Oh dear, my face is so red right now and I might be shaking and having my heart race like i just ran a mile. Not going to lie, I ran away to hide after I hit post, heh... Talking to people is just something I don't really... do... but thank you all so much! I suppose I'll need to figure out how to work the forums properly now... quoting properly would be a good first... and getting familiar with all the likes that everyone is always running out of! Forgive me if this is awkwardly formatted for the time being, I'll try my best not to make it an eyesore while I catch up on all the niceness that was directed my way! Gosh I hope this isn't a huge monster post...

• Aw hun, no! We are very accepting here and rather than screaming at you, I think everyone here would rather ask you to educate us on anything we aren't sure of! One of my dearest friends is demisexual and I have many pansexual friends, so it's definitely not like it's something that goes unheard of. And that you signed up to make a post on here and about your struggles, thanks so much.

@mindoirs I'm going to assume that was directed at me and I'm sorry if I'm wrong, heh. Gosh I'm so nervous but you're all so sweet! But I gotta say, for a first reaction that's... a little amazing. I'm super used to scoffs or eyerolls or sneers or being called a "special snowflake" so thank you. ;-; I know it's nowhere near the type of discrimination and vitriol that some orientations and identities experience, but wow it is nice to be able to identify myself and not be shouted at, eep! 

• A lurker!! Come, step into the light! All creepy gifs aside, welcome! Thanks so much for sharing your story with us and definitely don't be afraid to come chat! This is one of the nicest places I've ever encountered on the internet.

@RynJ Hehehe, that gif actually has me giggling a little more than I should be, probably! Goodness I've wanted to "step into the light" as it were for weeks now but I always backed off. This is worth it though! And thank you for the welcome. ;-; I honestly had like, SO much I wanted to say reading all these posts... but now I'll all discombobulated from the flailz of actually joining in! Hopefully I'll manage to calm down and say something useful!

• It's okay! Don't feel creepy, I creepily lurked the BSN without joining on and off for years - so you're in good company (not sure if that makes you feel better or worse - I'll warn you now, I'm a cynical, p!ssy weirdo with a morbid sense of humor...)  
  In other words, welcome!  And have a unicorn (cuz that's like a thing now...)

@Fialka Actually, that does make me feel better! Good to know I'm not the only one hiding in the shadows, ahah. And you know, those traits sound a lot like me (when I'm not super nervous and trying not to have an anxiety attack, anyway :'D), so good company indeed! But thank you for the welcome... and the unicorn! Yay!

• AH! *huggles and nestles a flower garland on your head* No worries! This is a place full of love!

@Cat Lance Yay! A garland! [wears it proudly]
So thus far I've been given niceness, hugs, a unicorn, and a flower garland...
You guys really are the sweetest I'm so glad I threw caution to the wind and came out of lurking. ;-; 

• We're all a little weird.    Together we make one fine rainbow of awesome.  
  (I'm either an aromantic or a demiromantic asexual--it's so hard to tell--so you're in good company.)

@Phate Phoenix Hah, thank you for the reassurance! And rainbows are pretty awesome, so I like the soud of that.
But oh! I hear you there! I struggled a lot with myself before finally feeling comfortable. The spectrum has many a lovely shade of gray, doesn't it? (:

• ​@manabloom: Yay, we saw your post anyway   Welcome to the thread and the forum *hugs*

@Chrys  Aha, clearly! When I managed to be brave enough to re-open the window, I was wondering, did anyone see...? And then I saw all these replies! I'm a little bit overwhelmed, really, but for once it's in a really good way! Thank you. ;u;

• I AM OUT OF FORUM LIKES BUT I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE THIS POST. And I love you. Thank you for sharing and YOU ARE IMPORTANT AND YOUR FEELINGS ARE IMPORTANT. Sorry. I don't mean to shout. Just placing emphasis. 

@DragonRacer Eek! Thank you so much that means a lot since it was your original post that started all this BEAUTY AND MAGIC AND WONDER and originally brought me to happy tears! Ahh, gosh Solas thread, you've reduced me to a puddle of warm goo and tears and it is the best feeling! I don't what what else to say but thank you thank you thank you. ;u;       

• Dude (is it okay to call you dude? I call most people dude), I'm absolutely on your anxiety boat; I've got trouble answering the phone. Hell, it took me about six years to finally build up the courage to use my mic with stuff like Skype and Ventrilo when playing games with my friends. Just know that we love you,and don't you apologize to me about being a weirdo!

@Karm Yes! I also refer to 99% of people as dude, so fine by me! But oh! I know, right? What is it about phones that is so terrifying...? I don't know but you may as well ask me to talk into a venus fly trap or something. Not happening! And the only time I play things with online groups is if my boyfriend is present... and even then... no talkies, heh. But thank you so much! I love all you guys too I am so full love right now I didn't know I could feel this much love at one tiiiime.

 

...if i knew how to insert gifs i would add in a really appropriate one... must educate self on proper forum posting! i'm sorry if that was hideous or giant or annoying to scroll by i will do my best to do better! but i really really really really REALLY appreciate how nice and warm and friendly you all are akjshdfas. I've never felt so safe in a space wow. So on that note, I will definitely be posting in this thread from now on! I think it's moving a little too fast for me to keep up with right now (the amount of posts that popped up while I was typing this! oh my!) as i'm easily overstimulated and a slow talker... but thank you all for being so wonderful and fabulous and being exactly the kind of people that makes this world worthwhile aksjdfhasdasjdhfsad [resumes puddle of goo form]

[Hellion Rex]

Everyone sharing their stories is so inspiring... I'm typically a very private person (even though I have strong feelings and opinions regarding representation, I don't talk a lot about myself personally). But you all make this little corner of the internet feel very welcoming and safe. So... *takes a deep breath*

Spoiler

I went to GaymerX, and to all the awesome panels, and I met the wonderful devs there, and when I went to the signing, I talked to David Gaider and started to tear up when I told him that the Dragon Age games were the only ones I play because they're the only games I can be myself in, and he was just so sweet and wonderful and just wrapped me up in a big hug.

What I didn't talk about was that one of the reasons these games are important to me is not only because I can play out the m/m and f/f romances I never see in other mainstream media, but also that I can play a game in which I can immerse myself into a world where everyone addresses and reacts and refers to me with the pronouns and titles that I don't hear in RL. I'm still on this journey of figuring out myself and my identity (and I'm 31!!), and I recently took a huge personal step by appearing publicly on a trans panel at San Diego Comic Con. I was very nervous and teared up a little once when talking about how important it is to create content that allows people to see themselves in media. But I'm not really "out" to more than one or two people in my personal life and I don't ask people to use different pronouns because I don't feel ready for it, or the inevitable conversations that will follow (also I'm terrified of confrontation). So the Dragon Age games have been a huge source of comfort for me, giving me the chance to be unapologetically queer and also to 'try on' being seen as male in a fictional world when I'm not ready to do it in real life.

I feel a kinship of sorts to Solas, I guess, with regards to being private and a bit introverted. I really hope he's bisexual, too. I think I'll enjoy having him in my party, LI or not.

Holy ****, bro. Thank you so much for being brave enough to share your story. *hugs*

[Kirie]

I have to say, after having a horrible day, coming into this thread has really been a ray of sunshine. I don't have much to add personally because I've lived an incredibly privileged life being a straight white woman, but I have to say that everyone in here is SO strong and full of courage that I'm seriously in awe. Thank you so much for sharing your stories!! They make me all misty-eyed and I wish I could give everyone a big hug, including everyone at Bioware because they are so darn amazing

 

I love this thread so much ; ; why do I have to be out of likes agaaaain

[JadePrince]

It's great that so many people have had eye-opening experiences due to Bioware and their fans. To think some people still think games are only for children, and ask me "why do you still play video games? That's for boys." cue the inevitable 30 minuets or so debate...

 

As Solas would say: it's more complicated than that.

 

Anyone who thinks that videogames are ONLY for kids is someone who willingly denies themselves the enjoyment of complex interactive art for the purpose of not appearing 'childish' and I think that's just sad.    Take example from Solas and ignore those people think you're weird. You're too busy enjoying the scenery.

[jellobell]

*smiles and huggles and places a flower garland on your head* Welcome! We're all so happy to see so many lovely hearts coming out today!

 

Hahaha, thank you for the welcome! You guys are so friendly. 

[Nocte ad Mortem]

It does make sense. It makes a lot of sense-- and It's a lovely way to put it, I think. Thank you. I've struggled a lot with feeling like I'm "too old" to be still taking this journey, but it helps to hear such positivity from people like you. So just... thank you. 

 

(I would like this post if I had anymore likes left, haha. Darn you, Solas thread!)

You shouldn't ever feel like you're too old to still be finding yourself. We're all always changing and finding new things to be true about ourselves. No one should ever feel that it's too late to grow as a person. Your journey is, I'm sure, a difficult one, but I respect your courage and wish you all the best with it. 

[ParagonPunk]

It does make sense. It makes a lot of sense-- and It's a lovely way to put it, I think. Thank you. I've struggled a lot with feeling like I'm "too old" to be still taking this journey, but it helps to hear such positivity from people like you. So just... thank you. 

 

(I would like this post if I had anymore likes left, haha. Darn you, Solas thread!)

 

It goes to show that age is no judge of personal growth. We all grow and change, no matter the age, I think some people forget that. Keep on, keeping on and don't ever feel guilty for who you are or who you're becoming. You're story is very inspiring, if I do say so myself.

 

Anyone who thinks that videogames are for kids is someone who willingly denies themselves the enjoyment of complex interactive art for the purpose of not appearing 'childish' and I think that's just sad.    Take example from Solas and ignore those people think you're weird. You're too busy enjoying the scenery.

 

The scenery and company is pretty awesome.

[Alan Rickman]

Everyone sharing their stories is so inspiring... I'm typically a very private person (even though I have strong feelings and opinions regarding representation, I don't talk a lot about myself personally). But you all make this little corner of the internet feel very welcoming and safe. So... *takes a deep breath*

 

Spoiler

I went to GaymerX, and to all the awesome panels, and I met the wonderful devs there, and when I went to the signing, I talked to David Gaider and started to tear up when I told him that the Dragon Age games were the only ones I play because they're the only games I can be myself in, and he was just so sweet and wonderful and just wrapped me up in a big hug. 

 

What I didn't talk about was that one of the reasons these games are important to me is not only because I can play out the m/m and f/f romances I never see in other mainstream media, but also that I can play a game in which I can immerse myself into a world where everyone addresses and reacts and refers to me with the pronouns and titles that I don't hear in RL. I'm still on this journey of figuring out myself and my identity (and I'm 31!!), and I recently took a huge personal step by appearing publicly on a trans panel at San Diego Comic Con. I was very nervous and teared up a little once when talking about how important it is to create content that allows people to see themselves in media. But I'm not really "out" to more than one or two people in my personal life and I don't ask people to use different pronouns because I don't feel ready for it, or the inevitable conversations that will follow (also I'm terrified of confrontation). So the Dragon Age games have been a huge source of comfort for me, giving me the chance to be unapologetically queer and also to 'try on' being seen as male in a fictional world when I'm not ready to do it in real life.

 

I feel a kinship of sorts to Solas, I guess, with regards to being private and a bit introverted. I really hope he's bisexual, too. I think I'll enjoy having him in my party, LI or not. 

 

You do realize DG will never regain his reputation of being evil after posting that, right? 

[Lillian]

I came to this thread, and I was instantly assailed by LOOOOOOOVEEEEEEEE!!!!

You guys are awesome, and all of this is just wonderful. Keep up the flawless!

[Phate Phoenix]

My story isn't as inspiring as the rest of yours, but I commend BioWare for allowing me to exist in a video game all the same. They aren't quite there on trans issues (Maevaris is a step in the right direction, but she's the only trans person we know of right now), but I was stoked about everyone in DA2 being bi. Technically, I might be ace, maybe even aro (don't even get me started on the confusion surrounding my identity), but I certainly identify with bisexuality, and seeing it represented by so many characters, all at once, was just... special.

 

Thank you, Dragon Age team, and thank you, Solas thread. You're all awesome.

 

I feel you on that aro-demi-bi confusion. Am I aromantic and those weird feelings were just me being happy to be friends, or have I just never met someone to inspire that kind of emotion in me? It's part of the reason why I don't feel comfortable speaking up--if I can't comfortably say what I am, how can I expect people to understand? But, here, online, on the internet, you can find places like this where you don't need to explain, and it's... it's so nice.

 

And in Dragon Age, that immediate acceptance--yes I'm bisexual, or yes I'm gay--is just so emotionally fulfilling. My mother told me that it was just a phase, both when I thought I was bisexual and when I tried to explain asexuality to her, and having it be a non-issue in Dragon Age is... wonderful. It's one of those things you didn't think you needed until it happens, and when it does it just... It's both heartbreaking and hopeful. And I'm so thankful for that moment.

 

Oh, hey, I guess I had a story in me after all. [GROUP HUG]

[Karm]

*super snip*

 

...if i knew how to insert gifs i would add in a really appropriate one... must educate self on proper forum posting!

 

Lemme hook you up; in the reply box, you will see this here shiny button

 

 

Upon clicking it, you will be prompted with another text box, where you can paste the direct url to the gif of your choice. Just hit OK and it'll show up on your post (this also applies to images)!

[BlueFlame527]

You do realize DG will never regain his reputation of being evil after posting that, right? 

Gaider is a *cue Leliana's voice* "softy" 

[JadePrince]

Holy ****, bro. Thank you so much for being brave enough to share your story. *hugs*

 

;_; Thanks, Elu. *hugs back*

 

You shouldn't ever feel like you're too old to still be finding yourself. We're all always changing and finding new things to be true about ourselves. No one should ever feel that it's too late to grow as a person. Your journey is, I'm sure, a difficult one, but I respect your courage and wish you all the best with it. 

 

I do try to remind myself of this. It's just all you young whippersnappers seem to be figuring yourselves out so early these days! I'm envious! *laughs* Thank you, your words mean a lot.

 

It goes to show that age is no judge of personal growth. We all grow and change, no matter the age, I think some people forget that. Keep on, keeping on and don't ever feel guilty for who you are or who you're becoming. You're story is very inspiring, if I do say so myself.

 

 

The scenery and company is pretty awesome.

 

Thank you, Punky (That's what we're nicknaming you, now, right? :3). It's good to be reminded that change and growth is part of our whole lives, not just our youth. And yes, the scenery and company IS pretty nails.

 

You do realize DG will never regain his reputation of being evil after posting that, right? 

 

I hope he will one day forgive me for revealing his softer side.  

[Science To Do]

SOLAS THREAD.

 

 

My likes. They're gone.

[ParagonPunk]

I feel you on that aro-demi-bi confusion. Am I aromantic and those weird feelings were just me being happy to be friends, or have I just never met someone to inspire that kind of emotion in me? It's part of the reason why I don't feel comfortable speaking up--if I can't comfortably say what I am, how can I expect people to understand? But, here, online, on the internet, you can find places like this where you don't need to explain, and it's... it's so nice.

 

And in Dragon Age, that immediate acceptance--yes I'm bisexual, or yes I'm gay--is just so emotionally fulfilling. My mother told me that it was just a phase, both when I thought I was bisexual and when I tried to explain asexuality to her, and having it be a non-issue in Dragon Age is... wonderful. It's one of those things you didn't think you needed until it happens, and when it does it just... It's both heartbreaking and hopeful. And I'm so thankful for that moment.

 

Oh, hey, I guess I had a story in me after all. [GROUP HUG]

 

Oh, I feel this. I feel this so much. *hugs*

 

Gaider is a *cue Leliana's voice* "softy" 

 

Sten voice: "We will never speak of this again."

[Astelspirals]

My story isn't as inspiring as the rest of yours, *snip*

 

so, i've seen this bandied about from several others (sorry, too lazy to go back and find them all, and sorry to put you on the spot!, but ), but you know what? every story is inspiring. from the "straight-dudebro" who supports us, to the "not-sure-if-trans-but-seeking-myself", to "figured-out-i-was-*insert sexuality*" to.. well, there's too many to count. 

 

Every. Single. One. is something that makes me smile and warms my heart. no matter how little inspiration you think your own story is, there is someone who will look at it and go "huh." even the smallest thing makes a difference to someone. we can't see it in ourselves because we're too close, we've lived it and even if we don't know all about ourselves (dude, i'm 35 and i'm still figuring stuff out, and i've been out as "gay" for 15+ years), just sparking this conversation, and adding even a little tiny bit to it, helps us feel like a real community. everyone, no matter how shy or outspoken is welcome here, and i think we all want to hear anything anyone is willing to share about themselves. 

[Hanako Ikezawa]

I feel you on that aro-demi-bi confusion. Am I aromantic and those weird feelings were just me being happy to be friends, or have I just never met someone to inspire that kind of emotion in me? It's part of the reason why I don't feel comfortable speaking up--if I can't comfortably say what I am, how can I expect people to understand? But, here, online, on the internet, you can find places like this where you don't need to explain, and it's... it's so nice.

Yeah, that's why I never brought up me being sexually ambiguous. It's very nature is hard to explain to the point I don't even really get it, so how can I really expect others to? 

 

Surprisingly, unlike most everybody else here, it took bad news from Bioware on the representation of others that brought me to bring it up. 

[Nocte ad Mortem]

Ahhhhhh, finally out of likes. THE STRUGGLE, you guys. So many awesome posts still coming in. Know I am liking you all so hard in spirit. 

[Uirebhiril]

Wow. What an awesome set of posts today.

 

You guys are all wonderful. Never forget that.

[JadePrince]

so, i've seen this bandied about from several others (sorry, too lazy to go back and find them all, and sorry to put you on the spot!, but ), but you know what? every story is inspiring. from the "straight-dudebro" who supports us, to the "not-sure-if-trans-but-seeking-myself", to "figured-out-i-was-*insert sexuality*" to.. well, there's too many to count. 

 

Every. Single. One. is something that makes me smile and warms my heart. no matter how little inspiration you think your own story is, there is someone who will look at it and go "huh." even the smallest thing makes a difference to someone. we can't see it in ourselves because we're too close, we've lived it and even if we don't know all about ourselves (dude, i'm 35 and i'm still figuring stuff out, and i've been out as "gay" for 15+ years), just sparking this conversation, and adding even a little tiny bit to it, helps us feel like a real community. everyone, no matter how shy or outspoken is welcome here, and i think we all want to hear anything anyone is willing to share about themselves. 

 

I swear I won't quote every post I can't "like", but THIS. LIKE LIKE LIKE LIKE. Never underestimate the importance of your story. There is ALWAYS someone who will get something from it.

[Fialka]

Everyone sharing their stories is so inspiring... I'm typically a very private person (even though I have strong feelings and opinions regarding representation, I don't talk a lot about myself personally). But you all make this little corner of the internet feel very welcoming and safe. So... *takes a deep breath*

 

*snipped*

I'm just going to chime in and say I've always found people going through what you are amazingly brave.  And you're never too old to figure out who you are and what that means for the direction you want your life to take.  I just turned 30 myself, and only feel like I've really begun to understand who I am, or even figure out what questions to ask myself to figure that out, in the last year or so.  

[Chernaya]

The love going on in here is inspirational, guys! It's amazing that a video game can bring so many people together like this.   I really should drop by in here more often.